I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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me and my dad are extremely close and last friday he went to afghanistan for a year. so basically every day from that day on ive been crying. (nobody sees me because i go in the bathroom--except the day he left when i couldnt control it any longer in class).
it really sucks that hes gone because i miss him soooo much. im not gonna see him for 6 months and when he calls he can only talk for like 15 minutes and most of the time when he calls ill still be in school so he talks to my sister and my mom. basically what im asking is how do i stop myself from crying everyday? and how can i stop missing him just a little bit? and how can i stop everything from reminding me of him? please answer all or as many of these questions as you can. thanks in advance. (link)
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My dad went to Afghanistan as well. Is your dad in the army? Mine wasn't, he was working for some organization to help bring the country back on its feet... like that was going to happen over night!!!
Anyway, he was gone for a year as well and you know what? It wasn't easy for him either, being away from his family and not seeing his kids would be even harder. Even though he had Skype so he could call us and everything, he still missed us as well and even though he came home every now and then, it wasn't the same. For him, his longest stay was for 5 - 6 months as well and that was hard on me because I was doing my GCSE's, a time when I needed his support and with only mum there, we all found it hard and we had to work our butts off without him being around. I also felt like he was missing parts of my life which he won't get to see or be part of and that was the toughest part of it all: knowing that he wasn't there. Every time I heard a bomb had gone off in Kabul, I would spend the rest of the day in worry about him, even though I knew that he was safe.
So what I'm saying is that it will be even harder for him because he's got such a limited amount of time to talk to you and you being at school makes it even worse. You may not know it, but the rest of your family could be having a tough time as well. Talk to your mum about it, because she's going to be having a tough time as well.
It's natural to miss him, in fact I think it is great that you miss him because it shows me how much you love him and care for him. Take comfort in the fact that he loves you and thinks about you, but 10 times greater and more often.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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im so sorry! my dad retired last year, but hes also working with some private organization. thank you so much for your advice, and now that i think about it, it probaly is harder on him than us. thank you soooo much!
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