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What do you think about the children who come to this site, at the ages of 12-14 asking sexual questions? Questions that aren't educational, yet nasty, disrespectful, and questions which tell their age? Are you comfortable as adults answering them or would you rather them not be able to ask those type of questions on this site?
The morals of our youth today really concern me. For the most part, it's not 100% about the question, it's about the words they chose to use while asking it. This is why there are so many STD's, AIDS, teen pregnancies today. It saddens me that some of the questions deal with anal sex, oral sex, size of penises, except they use the D word and P word. I had no idea of what some of these things even meant to begin asking when I was 13? What are some of your opinions and feelings on this subject? seriously & are you as older teens, and adults OK with answering those type of questions from these children that think they are grown and have no idea of what it's like to be grown in the real world?
Everything is changing now.
Even though I'm 15, I am actually worried about the amount of 12-14 year olds that have 17 year old boyfriends, have had sex, may be pregnant etc.
And for the language, they haven't been taught better.
Teachers in school realize that stuff like this is going on, but they ignore it because it has nothing to do with them.
When I was 13, I had maybe three boyfriends. The only think I ever was worried about was kissing.
Now 13 year olds feel like losers if they haven't given a hand job or haven't been fingered yet.
There's a lot of sex around, and parents don't tell their kids what's right.
Parents don't know what goes on with their kids whilst they aren't around.
Most of the still seem to think that 13 year old girls have guy friends who they play with, or hang around, not do sexual things with.
I was on the school bus a couple of weeks ago, and two girls that are 12 were sitting in front of me. I wasn't eavesdropping on their conversation until they started talking about sex. I remember one of them saying to her friend something along the lines of:
''Well, we're gonna seem waaaayyy more mature to the guys, if they know that we've made out, and been fingered and stuff'' and I basically felt like saying to them ''What the hell, are you serious?''
So it seems that most young girls think that it's 'mature' to do sexual stuff, when they don't even know the consequences and so on. They will learn if they get pregnant at the age of fourteen.
My friends sister is fourteen. She had sex, and got pregnant. I asked her why she had sex and she said ''Well Michael is 17, and he's done it before, so he said that if he pulls out before he cums, then I defenetly won't get pregnant''
Schools should seriously consider what they teach kids about sex. And in general, teens should be taught about the consequences and risks. Instead of saying ''You should be 16(depending on the law in the area) to have sex''
No one listens to that anymore.
Sorry this is a bit long, but I agree with you 100% and it's a rant I need to get out of me :)
(Rating: 5) I am very proud of you for your views and morals. I wish more were like you. It actually hurts me so much to see how many young youth are today. I had a child at 17 and another one at 19 - it's been hard, not easy and I was on the wrong path, and I try so hard to caution them of that path so that they do not go through it, catch aids, or get pregnant and left alone. These guys who take advantage of them just want one thing or to talk about them, looking at them as freaks or whores and they lose all respect and get reputations and once you have one, it's hard to gain self respect or erase that reputation for a fair chance to start over. Most of them are looking for love to fill a void in their lives so they turn to sex and attention from guys who only use them and cause harm to their bodies being that they are so young to be experiencing this. Many turn into prostitutes, strippers, or plain out nymphos (sex feenes) and it hurts me so much, even when they get pissed at me for telling the truth,I still pray for them because there is hope! Again, thank you so much for your response. I greatly appreciate it and may you have the best of success and luck within your future!! I mean that.