I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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problem:
My Best Friend is a JERK!!! At least I think.
My best friend is a guy. We get teased a LOT about it, but whatever. He WAS dating this girl named Destiny. She's in 8th grade (we're in 7th.) She's a little bit of a slut, but I didn't say anything, even though I secretly have a crush on Koby, but whatever... The point is his OTHER best girl friend, Katie, and I saw Destiny dirty dancing and holding hands with a guy OTHER THAN KOBY!!! I was pissed, as you can imagine. Katie was too, so she texted Koby and was like,"Destiny's with another guy." And we took a pic of them holding hands. Koby texted her back,"How am I suppose to believe you? Are you tired of waiting for me to break up with her so you can have me?" Is he a jerk or should I forgive him? (link)
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To be quite honest with you, I think you letting Katie text him saying that Destiny was going out with somebody else was a bad move. True, she may be a slut, but he may love her all the same and the fact that he didn't accept the picture proves that to me.
I can understand that you were angry, but letting your emotions run you away is never good, as you may do things which you can regret later: this would be one of those situations as you've created dis-trust in Koby for you and possibly, may've created some hatred.
Plus, you don't really have enough evidence that she is going out with another guy. WAIT AND READ ON BEFORE RATING THIS. True, you did see her dirty dancing, and holding hands with somebody else, but you don't have evidence to prove that the picture was real. Before somebody breaks up with somebody, they need to have solid facts as to why they're breaking up. There would be no point in breaking up over something which wasn't true, then getting back together (and the relationship wouldn't work after that due to too much suspicion between the couple).
So you can see as to where I'm coming from. Koby isn't being a jerk, he's being smart. He won't jeopardise his relationship over some claim (and photo) that Destiny is going out with somebody else.
I noticed that you said 'At least I think', which tells me that even you aren't sure whether Koby's being a twat or being smart. That then leads on to make me think that maybe you know you did something wrong, not him.
I would suggest that YOU go and apologise, becasue if youv'e got any hope for going out wiht him, then you need to repair any negative feelings you may've caused him to feel about you. But say things like:
1) No, I'm not waiting for you to break up with Destiny.
2) I know what I saw, if you don't believe me, then you ask Destiny (and I won't be surprised if he already has asked her).
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Rating: 5
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Thank you, but maybe I should have made this part clear: He doesn't know I saw Destiny and the guy. I am innocent in this situation. =) Thanx though!
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