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Hey! My name is Ashlea. I've been a member on here for a few years. I'm 24 years old and have a little baby boy. I'm pretty outgoing and I love to joke around. I have a very strong sense of humor and I love making people laugh. I don't care too much about what other people think about me because in the end, you're all you got. Nothing else matters but your true opinion of yourself. I think everyone is beautiful in their own ways. I never look down on anyone nor do I judge people for their decisions or lifestyles.


I love to listen to music. That's probably the only reason I like driving, otherwise, It'd be boring as hell. I love spending time with my son. He is by far the best thing that's ever happened to me. He is my best friend and when I'm with him, nothing else matters. The whole world could pass me by, and as long as I have him, it doesn't matter one bit. He's the only one who can truly make me smile. I am truly happy because of him. I love spending money when I have it, and sometimes, that can be a bad habit. I love to write poems, and am told I am very good at it, but only when I'm upset or bothered by something. Lately, though, I have not written any. I also enjoy writing. I seem to have a way with words and I love how a paper sounds after I write it. It makes me sound more intelligent.(lol) I also like to watch movies, mostly comedy and drama...I hate action movies and boy-ish movies. Horror movies give me nightmares(yes, even at this age.) ...I like to go on the computer alot and I love meeting new people, so feel free to get in touch with me!


I hate people who think they are better than you, and people who are snobby or stuck-up. Having that attitude will never get you anywhere in life, and I look at it as a sign of immaturity. I like to be around people that within the first 5 minutes of talking to them you know that you will already feel comfortable with them because they are that down to earth. I can't stand people who criticize other people and their lives. Understand that you, as well, have things about your life that you do not like...so you wouldn't like it very much if people talked about you in a bad way, would you? We're all human, we all make mistakes and run into bad situations. Things happen that we can't control. These are all parts of life though and can be handled with the help of others, which is why negative criticism is not needed.

I believe that what you can't control, you have to let go. Too often we hang onto things when we have no control or power over its outcome, so in the end, life will take its course and we have to just go with it.


I guess some people would say I can be selfish at times, although I choose not to believe that(lol), and if things don't go my way, i WILL be upset. But, I also learn to get over it and move on. I love giving advice. Everyone I know say that's the one thing they love about me the most...I never judge anyone on any of their problems and I truly do enjoy helping people with their problems in any way I can. I will go to any extent I have to in order to help someone else. I have a habit of putting other people's needs ahead of my own. I have been giving people advice and helping people so much with their problems that I don't even get that GREAT feeling anymore from helping people. It's just in my nature and I am happy to just be able to be of some sort of help to anyone: stanger or friend.


I am not here for the ratings or comments. I am only here to help you, and I hope to recieve help in return when I am in need as well. I understand how sometimes you just need somebody to talk to...someone that understands. So don't be afraid to ask me any questions about anything...i'll help you with anything I can. If there is anything I can help you with that you would like to discuss privately, you can note me in my inbox or email me as well as instant message me on AIM. I would be glad to help you. hope to hear from you soon!!




♥ .even the people that never frown...eventually b r e a k . d o w n. ♥

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okay so me and my best friend have been best friends for like a year now. we used to be so tight, we never fought or anything. then for spring break she invited me to go to the beach with her, and at that time she didnt no that i had depression and bi-polar problems, and she didnt no that i cut myself. so during it i was having alot of problems and i couldnt control any of my feelings and it was really bad, so the whole time she was always mad at me because i was in a bad mood, but i couldnt tell her anything. so finally we came back from that, and that night i told her of my problems. she took it really hard, but eventually our relationship went back to normal, or so i thought. from then on it seemed like everything was okay, but once in a while we would get into the occasional fight. so in the past couple months, it has gotten so bad like every other day we will get into huge fights. all of our friends are so sick of it and so are we. everyone knows that she is the one that ALWAYS starts ALL of our fights. she gets mad at the smallest things then she blows them outta proportion. about a week ago i was at her house and we got in the biggest fight she yelled at me to get off her property and that she wanted me to die and that i was a slutty whore and she hated me and all this stuff. then like an hour later she called me and apoligized over and over. i told her that i didnt no if i could ever accept her apoligy. so from then on like every day she will start another fight and tonight i was at her house and she was being so rude so i left and she got really mad at me and so now she is telling me how she doesnt want to be my friend and stuff, and now i dont no if its just going to be like last time where she apoligizes and stuff, because she texted me and she's like being really mean and saying how she wants her stuff back and to not talk to her. i dont know what to do i serously am thinking about killing myself and i dont know what to do anymore. i dont know how to handle her because i never say anything rude to her and even when were in fights im nice to her and i never yell or get mad and she always just blows everything out of proportion. i dont know where to turn or what to do just please give me any type of guidance. anything will help please. thanks in advance.

i have no idea whats going on with your friend but you two cannot fight like this. i know you love her and friendship is important in life, however, this is not healthy to argue constantly. a friend is not in our lives to argue and make things difficult. they are there for the exact opposite, so maybe it is time to reevaluate your friendship with this person. sometimes friends just drift apart. maybe she is feeling upset or angry or even jealous for some reason towards you. the two of you should sit down and seriously talk. try and figure out what is bothering each of you and how you can fix it. sometimes, things in life just cannot be fixed, and if that is the case, then you are both better off without eachother. instead of going back and forth and putting blame on eachother, recognize what friendship is all about. i have been friends with my best friend for about 7 or 8 years, and very rarely do we fight. friends will argue sometimes and not agree on everything, but to fight almost everyday is not good.

on another note, you mentioned wanting to kill yourself over this. im not sure how things are going right now for you with your depression, but have you ever gotten help for this issue? feeling this way is not fun, and i know there is so much help out there for you if you are willing to accept it. its okay to have problems and feel overwhelmed, but there comes a time when outside help is needed. life is too precious and even though you may not feel that way now, its true in every way.

if you ever want to talk, email me anytime. good luck, TAKE CARE, and i hope everything works out for you and trust me when i say things will get better and there is always tomorrow.

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