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our relationship is going down the drain
okay so me and my best friend have been best friends for like a year now. we used to be so tight, we never fought or anything. then for spring break she invited me to go to the beach with her, and at that time she didnt no that i had depression and bi-polar problems, and she didnt no that i cut myself. so during it i was having alot of problems and i couldnt control any of my feelings and it was really bad, so the whole time she was always mad at me because i was in a bad mood, but i couldnt tell her anything. so finally we came back from that, and that night i told her of my problems. she took it really hard, but eventually our relationship went back to normal, or so i thought. from then on it seemed like everything was okay, but once in a while we would get into the occasional fight. so in the past couple months, it has gotten so bad like every other day we will get into huge fights. all of our friends are so sick of it and so are we. everyone knows that she is the one that ALWAYS starts ALL of our fights. she gets mad at the smallest things then she blows them outta proportion. about a week ago i was at her house and we got in the biggest fight she yelled at me to get off her property and that she wanted me to die and that i was a slutty whore and she hated me and all this stuff. then like an hour later she called me and apoligized over and over. i told her that i didnt no if i could ever accept her apoligy. so from then on like every day she will start another fight and tonight i was at her house and she was being so rude so i left and she got really mad at me and so now she is telling me how she doesnt want to be my friend and stuff, and now i dont no if its just going to be like last time where she apoligizes and stuff, because she texted me and she's like being really mean and saying how she wants her stuff back and to not talk to her. i dont know what to do i serously am thinking about killing myself and i dont know what to do anymore. i dont know how to handle her because i never say anything rude to her and even when were in fights im nice to her and i never yell or get mad and she always just blows everything out of proportion. i dont know where to turn or what to do just please give me any type of guidance. anything will help please. thanks in advance.
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ok first off sweetie, kill the suicidal thoughts! it won't help to think negatively about your condition. you have these conditions they are part of you but they dont define who you are. as for your friend, you don't deserve that bull.i went through that too with my depression and anxiety,ptsd,ocd,perfectionism, ect. it's not worth the drama. she is taking the time to tell you not to talk to her when she is the one provolking you to. she is being immature. i believe this has nothing to do with you. it's about her and maybe her insecurities. next time she comes back and apologizes(by the way i garuntee will happen) tell her you accept her apology but you don't think it's good for either one of you to be close. you can still talk but you prefer the mello way of handling things and the friendship is just added stress. tell me how it goes ok girlie?
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i have no idea whats going on with your friend but you two cannot fight like this. i know you love her and friendship is important in life, however, this is not healthy to argue constantly. a friend is not in our lives to argue and make things difficult. they are there for the exact opposite, so maybe it is time to reevaluate your friendship with this person. sometimes friends just drift apart. maybe she is feeling upset or angry or even jealous for some reason towards you. the two of you should sit down and seriously talk. try and figure out what is bothering each of you and how you can fix it. sometimes, things in life just cannot be fixed, and if that is the case, then you are both better off without eachother. instead of going back and forth and putting blame on eachother, recognize what friendship is all about. i have been friends with my best friend for about 7 or 8 years, and very rarely do we fight. friends will argue sometimes and not agree on everything, but to fight almost everyday is not good.
on another note, you mentioned wanting to kill yourself over this. im not sure how things are going right now for you with your depression, but have you ever gotten help for this issue? feeling this way is not fun, and i know there is so much help out there for you if you are willing to accept it. its okay to have problems and feel overwhelmed, but there comes a time when outside help is needed. life is too precious and even though you may not feel that way now, its true in every way.
if you ever want to talk, email me anytime. good luck, TAKE CARE, and i hope everything works out for you and trust me when i say things will get better and there is always tomorrow.
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