I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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From primary to high school, my older brother has ALWAYS been ..well..a nerd. he worse glasses, braces, tucked his shirt into his pants, worse his pants really high, got A's in everything.
Then he went off to university.
We didn't see him for a year because of this huge family problem going on (long story) and then when he came to visit us over the summer (so he'd been in uni for a year) he was covered in piercings, some tattoos, cool hair, cool clothes, but then excellent grades.
My mom burst into tears the second she saw him.
She said that he wouldn't be able to get a job (he's intending to be a lawyer) but he's already done work experience, and at that particular place, they don't give a crap about his two lip piercings, tongue and eyebrow (the only facial ones, the ones on his ears are covered by his hair, and there's no way they're gonna see his nipples :D) so is my mom over reacting, since he said that if piercings cause problems in his career, he's more than willing to take them out.
He's a responsible guy, but my mom is almost convinced that he's ''the old man's child'' (i.e son of satan)
What could my dad, my brother and me say to her..? (link)
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'the old man's child' now that's a new one!!
I kinda know what your mum is going through. There is this one kid in my school, right, and a while back he became all emo for personal reasons. He got piercings and everything and he drinks, parties etc. But he still got good grades.
I guess what your brother is going through is a point in his life where he's experimenting with life, seeing what it has got to offer.
Now, I'm guessing that your mum is a good Christian since she called him the son of satan so you need to be careful as to what you say to her. Tell her things like, its just a phase which he's going through, it'll be over soon. If he's still getting the good grades, then there shouldn't be anything to worry about. As long as he is himself and he's happy.
Your mum needs to understand that he isn't that little boy in primary/high school anymore and that he's grown up, like every other boy in this world. Nobody can stay the same way forever (trust me, I tried it and it sucked, not being able to develop into who want to be).
Sorry if this isn't clear,
triquetra
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It made sense. And I honestly don't know what religion my mom is into. Our family isn't exactly religious, but my mom is top at coming out with things like that :\
To be honest, it's not exactly a phase for my brother...he's always relied on my mom for clothes and so on, but then when he was responsible for his own life, he realized he had good looks and he's the one responsible for his actions :)
But thanks so much! I'll defenetly mention that to her (once she calms down that is)
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