I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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First off, I'm a 25 year old male. A few years back, my first girlfriend and I broke up and remained friends. She started dating this guy who was a manipulative con artist. I called him on it, he told her I was trying to get back with her, and she broke off our friendship and threatened me if I ever spoke to her again.
In the end he did con her, and she still treats me like a stalker and threatening person. This would be easy to get over if I just didn't keep running into her and her clique.
How do I finally just get over the issue? I've long given up on making anything of this broken bond, and just want to stop letting this girl's existance bother me whenever I run into her. (link)
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Be the one with the last word.
Call her on what her mobile or her home phone. Don't let her speak, tell that you're not the person that her boyfriend is telling that you are. All those times that you ran into each other wasn't because you were stalking her, it was just coincidence and luck. All you ever wanted was to be friends, but now there is nothing else left between the two of you. Then hang up.
I know that you may or may not find this difficult, but it is the only way that you and everybody else will get over it.
You know whom you are and that you aren't the person that her boyfriend says you are.
Plus, if you were a stalker, you would've been more subtle and not kept running into her. And you would've probably done something by now (don't ask what, but something).
Try and avoid the places that she usually goes to so that you don't run into her.
Remeber, if you want this to end then you MUST call her and tell all that was said up above.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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Rating: 5
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Honestly, this is the best advice I've ever heard for this issue that has dogged me for years. That is why I give you the five.
Problem is, I know longer have anyway to contact her by phone. So I'll at least try my best to stick to avoidance, except in regards to where I truly want to go.
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