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Hi, I'm 14, soon to be 15 in 13 days, female.

My family has recently become poor. I've never been a person to shop at Hollister or anywhere that expensive, buttt, according to my mom and dad, we're almost in debt, and we can't pay our monthly bills. We can't afford my school clothes, so I'm having a yard sale.

My dad, tonight, just told me that we might not have enough to send me to Drivers Ed this September. I got really upset, and he still has to look into the finances.
I told him I was angry because we were poor, and he said whatever and left. What do I do about all of this? I think I hurt my dad's feelings, and yet I'm literally crying because we don't have enough money for anything anymore, I can't stop crying.

... please help. What should I do? My birthday will probably be the worst ever.

I know it SUCKS that you might not have drivers ed for a while but sometimes, it's worth the wait. I had to wait over a year, and my family wasn't poor. i'll share my experience with you so you can see what i've learned. I was 15 and in ohio you can get a permit at 15 1/2. well, my mom got sick with a rare brain condition and had surgery. not only was i not able to drive then, i didn't have rides anywhere...sometimes not even food because everyone was busy. once she finally recovered, we moved to a different state a month after my sweet 16 [which i didn't have any kind of party for]. where i live now, you can't get a liscense until you're 17. i had to take drivers ed as a class at school so it all got delayed so my liscence came a month after my 17th birthday.
what i've learned: driving will come eventually. in the mean time, enjoy not haveing to pay for gas.
also, don't give you parents grief about it. i did [with somewhat good reason] and it didnt get me anywhere. so don't dwell on it. you don't need alll new clothes for school. if you do want to get clothes with the money you get from the yard sale, do what i did [this week actually] and go bargain hunting! i promise you it's not as bad as some people make it out to be.
tjmax: i got hollister & a&f jeans for $7 & $10 on sale. 3 pairs for $27.
target: flats on sale for $3.75...they go with everything.
plato's closet is amazing too..
so really just look...you can make it through. get a raincheck for the whole birthday thing... get a cake, blow out candles and open a few small gifts. birthdays aren't meant to be huge parties like on tv..just a gathering with a few people you care about can be so meaningful.
cheer up.. things WILL get better, i promise. this will only make you stronger!

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