LoveNJstyle's

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im 14 and ok im kind of a prude and believe no sex before marriage and you should wait for someone special before going out with them... especially when you're young... and my best friend is turning into a hoe. she got her first boyfriend, and i was reaally happy for her, but then on their first date they made out, and other people were around. they werent even going out for a week, and they didnt even kiss normally before that. then she wanted me to grind with her at the last dance, and i was like NOOO. i would only grind with a guyyy and if i had been going out with him for a while.

i know this is how like old people think, but i want a guy who cares about me, not just a guy that wants to do stuff with my body. and i dont care if i wait for that. but my friend is alwayss bringing up her bf and its soo annoying. she hasnt been a good friend for the past year either, although she says im her bff... shes been ditching me for her other group of friends a lot, but hangs out with me mostly in schol.

i am really sick of her and im afraid shes going to do something that she regrets... should i keep being friends with her, try to help her, or ignore those problems?

Honestly at 14, I was in the same position... except I was in your friend's position [sort of]. I made out before most of my friends and i did grind.... but I have morals! i know it's a crazy idea to think that someone that does those things does but i grinded and made out but no one got furthur than that with me. guys respected me because i picked out the ones that didn't want just a hookup. so really, don't worry about that. she's being young & not doing anything too bad. if you had said she didn anything above making out in a week, then yeah, i'd be worried too. but just chill...i know you don't want to hear that but there's nothing wrong with kissing/making out. i used to be like you, i did stuff like your friend and i turned out fine.
if she's ditching you, that's a whole different thing. tell her calmly that you wish you could hang out more and be like normal. don't get all in her face about the stuff she's doing, though. if you need anything else, let me know.

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