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Well I dated this guy for about two weeks before he left for a working vacation in California. He was my first boyfriend, first kiss, and first guy I almost fell in love with. Everything seemed so perfect until he left.

He stopped calling or talking to me online. I thought it was because of the time difference being a pain and he was working a lot and catching up with friends. Well, he was gone for about a week and, long story short, I found out that he was hanging out with this girl and talking about hooking up with her.

I asked him over MySpace if he wanted to date other people while he was gone because I was fine with it considering we'd only dated for about 3 weeks. He said he wasn't dating other people and had no intention of it. Time went by and the girl he was talking to kept IMing me and telling me some stuff. I didn't want to believe her, but it was obvious that he was lying to me.

I made myself miserable and cried for days. I was physically sick over it. I finally broke it off with him because he was 1) ignoring me and 2) acting like everything was fine and 3) treating me like I was the bad guy for not trusting him when it was so obvious he wasn't telling the truth. I wanted to be friends with him still, but it's obvious that's not what he wants.

I thought he was serious about me. Everything he did made it seem like he was REALLY into me, and it's possible that he could have been the whole time. But something happened between him leaving and now and he became a totally different person and is now officially dating this girl.

I'm trying really hard to get over him and I'm not crying and stuff over it anymore because I know it had to be done, but I still can't stop thinking about him and every time I do I get sick to my stomach. It just won't go away and I feel sick all the time unless I'm out with my friends. And I can't do that every day.

How can I get over him? All I want is to stop thinking about him and feel better, physically. Is there anything I can do? Will breaking up always be like this? I'm so consumed with this. Help!

well moving on isnt something that happens over night you have to make sure your really ready to let go. but untill you are its okay to think about him and miss him theres nothing wrong with that he had a big piece of your heart and obviously still does. so dont throw yourself at every guy trying to replace him because then your just forcing yourself to see how impossible he is to replace. and then when your ready you'll meet someone knew and hopefully then you'll be able to give your heart away to this new guy;; hope i helped

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(Rating: 5) Thanks so much! That really helped. Thanks for taking so much time to type that up. :) I'll definitely take all of that into consideration.

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