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my boyfriend is extremely stiff.. like i don't really think he knows how to be a boyfriend ;] lol it's really cute because it's hard for him to even talk to me.. and he's 16 .. so i'm planning on trying to loosen him up a little bit.. i mean it's really sad. yesterday he gave my mom a handshake and i was like "mom, you got more action from him then i did!" like he doesn't know what to do when he's around me.. so my question is.. is do you have any ideas on what i can do to make him loosen up a little bit ;] 5 for a thought =]

Perhaps he wants to mess around a little bit and doesn't know how or doesn't want to embarrass him. Here's how to loosen him up..

You don't want to make him back into his shell again by putting him on the spot so slowly work him in. Here's a setting he might enjoy opening up in:

Turn the lighting down. If you don't want it completely out, have dim lighting. Turn on a flick or just the television in the background with the volume lowered. Just talk or give him slight complements. Some people actually loosen up more in dimmer environments, it might have to do with how they view their physical appearances or perhaps they're too worried about placement of body parts, expressions, etc. during the conversation to actually concentrate on the topic.

A lot of people don't open up right away unless they're very comfortable with the person they're with. Talk to him often just don't overpower him with yourself. See how he's feeling or what he's into.

A good two person conversation is contributed to evenly by both people. Don't worry, soon he'll open up to you on his own. He's just worried about making a good impression now ;)

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