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he's really stiff...
my boyfriend is extremely stiff.. like i don't really think he knows how to be a boyfriend ;] lol it's really cute because it's hard for him to even talk to me.. and he's 16 .. so i'm planning on trying to loosen him up a little bit.. i mean it's really sad. yesterday he gave my mom a handshake and i was like "mom, you got more action from him then i did!" like he doesn't know what to do when he's around me.. so my question is.. is do you have any ideas on what i can do to make him loosen up a little bit ;] 5 for a thought =]
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Just kind of give him a... "push", maybe like you hold his hand or give him a hug. Then see his reaction. If he seems offended, simply ask him why you can't show your affection.
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maybe tell him to trust you. not saying he doesn't. or mess with him and pick on him. but try not to embrass him
good luck.
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Perhaps he wants to mess around a little bit and doesn't know how or doesn't want to embarrass him. Here's how to loosen him up..
You don't want to make him back into his shell again by putting him on the spot so slowly work him in. Here's a setting he might enjoy opening up in:
Turn the lighting down. If you don't want it completely out, have dim lighting. Turn on a flick or just the television in the background with the volume lowered. Just talk or give him slight complements. Some people actually loosen up more in dimmer environments, it might have to do with how they view their physical appearances or perhaps they're too worried about placement of body parts, expressions, etc. during the conversation to actually concentrate on the topic.
A lot of people don't open up right away unless they're very comfortable with the person they're with. Talk to him often just don't overpower him with yourself. See how he's feeling or what he's into.
A good two person conversation is contributed to evenly by both people. Don't worry, soon he'll open up to you on his own. He's just worried about making a good impression now ;)
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that'll definately go away when you guys are around each other more. when he starts feeling more comfortable with you, he'll let loose. it might take a bit, but i guess that's understandable. start by being open with him & see how he feels & his thoughts about conversations er feelings you guys share. basically if you're open with him & friendly obviously, he'll do the same. if you've tried that er you've been doing that for awhile, talk to him about it. explain that you're his gf & you want him to be more open & you want him to do whatever he wants.
-hope that helped!♥
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