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Ok I have a few questions.
First of all my boyfriend and I are running away next week for 4 days. We are both 15. The reason we are doing this is because his family won't let us see eachother or talk to eachother, and I have a lot of issues, and so he is not able to be there for me a lot. So I gave him my cell phone and he has just been calling my house. But I cannot continue going on like this. My depression is taking over my life, and him not being able to be there for me is making it ten times worse. Like suicide is my option right now, but I am not going to because he said he wil kill himself too. I am seeing a psychologist and I am on two medications, and I have been to a psychiatric hospital, and nothing is helping me except when I get to see my boyfriend. So basically my questions are:
1.Is is illegal to run away when you are a minor?
2.If there are any parents reading this then can you tell me what you would feel if your child did this, I mean my parents are not the greatest parents and wouldn't notice for like 2 days, but would eventually, but I am going to call them and tell them that I am ok, but can i have a parents thoughts.?
3.Any ideas on where we could go, like an indoor place?

Well thanks, you guys probably think I am crazy, and I am so if you could just answer this then that would be cool, you can call me crazy too if you want. (link)
YoungGrandma is right; please listen to her.

http://www.suicidehotlines.com/ has a list of hotlines by state. It would be a great idea to find the number for your state and keep it in your phone or your wallet.

There ARE effective treatments for depression. You need to let your psychiatrist (and parents) know that you're still in pain. Not every psychiatrist works for every patient. If your psychiatrist isn't able to help you enough, it's time to talk to your parents about finding a new psychiarist.

Because you're young, and your whole life is ahead of you, and you don't have to spend it suffering.

I know how hard it is to deal with depression and other kinds of mental illness - believe me! I've had to fight the medical system more than once. But you CAN get the help that you need. You may need to push for it, even fight for it, but the help IS there.

To answer your specific questions:

1. I don't know if it's illegal, but you'd be listed as a runaway and the police would probably look for you. And being a runaway is pretty dangerous, as you probably know.

2. If my son ran away nothing in the world would matter to me more than finding him immediately. Nothing. If we couldn't find him, I can't imagine being able to go on. You might as well pull my heart out of my chest.

3. I don't know, and since I don't think you'd be safe if you ran away, I guess I couldn't tell you if I DID know. But here are some websites and hotline numbers for runaways. Please store the numbers in your phone, or write them down in your wallet; and memorize at least one, in case someone takes your phone and wallet away. 1-800-RUNAWAY is easy to remember.

http://www.nrscrisisline.org/kids.asp
http://www.standupforkids.org/
http://www.geocities.com/Wellesley/9691/teenrunaways.html

I wish you the best of luck. Please be safe.


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Thank you very much. I would love to get help for my depression...I am trying everything. I have been to 6 pschologists and about 8 psychiatrists...and I am still in the same position. I know why it is too....I have a lot of situational depression, that is why I want to runaway. But thank you for that.




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