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I'm currently expecting my first child and my due date is fast approaching. I recently told my husband that I'm hurt that no one has offered to throw a baby shower even though everyone around us (family, friends, coworkers, church members) knows that we are expecting. He said that I should throw a baby shower for myself. I'm afraid that it would be a breach of etiquette and come across as greedy. With our current financial situation, the gifts would be helpful, but I want the shower more for the companionship and celebration that comes with it.
1) Would you consider it greedy if someone were to invite you to a baby shower they were throwing for themself?
2) What would you do in this situation? (Indeed)
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Think of the person you think would be most likely to throw you a shower. For example's sake, we'll say it's your sister. You call your sister, say "(husband) and I are thinking of having a baby shower, do you think it would work if we (fake question about, I don't know, the colour of bows or something). The point is to get her thinking about it. Hopefully, it might trigger the thought of "hey, sis, you shouldn't have to throw your OWN baby shower!"
Another option is just to invite people and say "we're having a baby shower, you should come! Don't feel that you have to bring a gift, we're just happy to get together." People would likely not come without a gift, but the option makes it seem more about the get together, as you want it to be, than the whole gift giving.
A third idea is like the first, it's much more coy than calling and saying you're having a shower of your own. Instead call your likely suspect (your sister in the first example, everything I say is highly confusing), say "So (sister), I'm thinking of buying a few sets of those fisher price blocks OR stroller OR car seat OR some other baby item that would commonly be bought at a shower." Hopefully, they'll say something like "Maybe you should wait a bit" (meaning: we're having a shower for you damnit, don't buy stuff!).
Someone else should throw you a shower, but you also shouldn't go without one. You may have to bend the rules of etiquette but think of the stuff you can get, it's truly amazing how much one person can accumulate from one shower. I think the baby shower etiquette needs to be rehashed anyways, why not make your own rules, or at least super-hint at others to get their acts together.
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Thanks for the great answer. |
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