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Hi I'm Dee. I'm 23 and married. I've worked in health care as well as office settings but am now a home-maker. I'm knowledgeable in a variety of subjects but don't mind doing a little research if asked about something I don't know about. Most of my friends come to me for advice. I read several advice columns and would like to help you also. I'm not judgemental. Your life is yours to live it as you choose. I believe asking for advice is good, but ultimately the choice is yours. You WILL NOT find a hurtful or smartass answer here.
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[True Question.] 15/f
I`m scared of dying or anyone dying close to me. I asked this question:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=412887
And I`m doing really good about that situation. I can finally look at his picture without wanting to cry. But lately everytime my mind goes blank, death of my parents or sister or brother come into my mind. The thing that even freaks me out the most is that I know that they are doing to die sooner or later, & I can`t even try to stop it. I know i`d be miserable without them. I couldn`t even cope with the lost of my cousin, imagine trying to cope with my parents or sister/brother dying. No body knows I feel this way, and it`s eating me inside. What I`m trying to ask is how can I possibily get over this right now & worry about it later? I don`t want my fear of death running my life. Ughhh. I`m just so scared of this. Help. PLEASE.
It's common after the death of a loved one to have fears of losing another. My best friend passed away at the first of the year and I noticed that I got real clingy with my husband for a couple weeks, not wanting to let him out of my sight for fear something would happen.
Unfortunately, death is something that we'll all to deal with at some time in our lives. I've learned to cherish the time I have with my loved ones. Just try to take things one day at a time. If you let yourself worry about the "what if" you won't be able to focus on what's going on right now.
It sounds to me like you would benefit from talking to someone. It's not good to hold things in. Talk to your parents, a school counselor, a close friend, or your spiritual leader. If you don't feel comfortable talking, try simply writing down your feelings. There are several grief/loss support groups online that you can also try. I'm giving you a couple links.
http://www.griefnet.org/
http://www.hovforum.ipbhost.com/
(Rating: 5) Thank you.