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Death=Fear
[True Question.] 15/f
I`m scared of dying or anyone dying close to me. I asked this question:
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And I`m doing really good about that situation. I can finally look at his picture without wanting to cry. But lately everytime my mind goes blank, death of my parents or sister or brother come into my mind. The thing that even freaks me out the most is that I know that they are doing to die sooner or later, & I can`t even try to stop it. I know i`d be miserable without them. I couldn`t even cope with the lost of my cousin, imagine trying to cope with my parents or sister/brother dying. No body knows I feel this way, and it`s eating me inside. What I`m trying to ask is how can I possibily get over this right now & worry about it later? I don`t want my fear of death running my life. Ughhh. I`m just so scared of this. Help. PLEASE.
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Even though most people don't talk about it, the fear of death is quite natural. It is simply because humans fear the unknown. The majority of people cope with the fear of death by having a strong religion that believes in the after life. You could probably call any church in the phone book and speak to a pastor about this subject. It is something they are well trained to deal with. I once read that death is a part of life, just as birth is a part of life. It is just moving into a new dimension or on to another stage. We were warm and comfortable in our Mother's womb..and we were afraid to be born into a cold wide open, noisey place. Once we got here we were wrapped in a warm blanket and there were people that loved us and met our needs. After hearing about people with NDE (near death experience) I believe that dying is like that too, at first it may be frightening--but then as we travel towards the light we become warm and comfortable again. Think of it like an adventure, if you are content in knowing their is an after life you will look forward to seeing your loved ones and living in a place where there is no pain or sickness.
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First, calm down, take some long slow deep breaths... and I mean often! Gather yourself each day, relax and know that you are not alone since ALL of us have to face 'death'.
Perhaps I might suggest that while your Mom was carrying you in her womb, she experienced a death in the family and those emotions became part of your reality. A good book on the subject is Voices from the Womb.
Also, if you believe at all that we all live many lives, it could be a 'carryover' from a pastlife.
Also, you may have experience an emotional trauma as a very young child too young to remember that leaves scars in your emotional makeup.
Also, when one can open up their belief system to allow for the understanding that 'death' isn't really an end to anything(except the human body), then it is sometimes easy to think about death. It is not the end and in fact there are some really good books on life after death, near death experiences(which I have experienced), all of which I believe would be good reading for you. There is a doctor out of Seattle WA that wrote a book call, Closer to the Light, I believe and he tells you stories(true) of children and young people having near death experiences and their candid comments and report of their experiences around 'dying'.
I hope all this helps.... it was my intention to assist you not scar you or tell you weird stuff. But a famous person once said, "The only fear is fear it is".
I wish you well and hope you find some peace. And just know that when a loved one or friend leaves this human experience for that of the eternal one, on their transitional trip there, they are always met by loved ones or people that had cared about them. May the Angels of Divine Light guide you into a better place of understanding death. I feel soon you will find peace!
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It's common after the death of a loved one to have fears of losing another. My best friend passed away at the first of the year and I noticed that I got real clingy with my husband for a couple weeks, not wanting to let him out of my sight for fear something would happen.
Unfortunately, death is something that we'll all to deal with at some time in our lives. I've learned to cherish the time I have with my loved ones. Just try to take things one day at a time. If you let yourself worry about the "what if" you won't be able to focus on what's going on right now.
It sounds to me like you would benefit from talking to someone. It's not good to hold things in. Talk to your parents, a school counselor, a close friend, or your spiritual leader. If you don't feel comfortable talking, try simply writing down your feelings. There are several grief/loss support groups online that you can also try. I'm giving you a couple links.
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Everybody is going to die sometime. It is just the way it goes. Scary as it is there is no sense in dwelling on it. You deal with it as it comes. You can't think about it all the time or it will drive you bonkers!
Instead, spend your time doing things with those you love. If all you do is worry about the future you are missing out on today. Which will be something you will regret later.
If you really are obsessing about death right now, say something to your parents about it. You may need to get some professional help in dealing with your thoughts. :)
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