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Hi I'm Dee. I'm 23 and married. I've worked in health care as well as office settings but am now a home-maker. I'm knowledgeable in a variety of subjects but don't mind doing a little research if asked about something I don't know about. Most of my friends come to me for advice. I read several advice columns and would like to help you also. I'm not judgemental. Your life is yours to live it as you choose. I believe asking for advice is good, but ultimately the choice is yours. You WILL NOT find a hurtful or smartass answer here.
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I was recently dating a guy I thought I really clicked with. He talked about our future on several occasions, and he really seemed to be interested in me (like I said, we clicked, and not just on my end). He recieved a promotion that requires him to take frequent business trips, though, and he says he can't start a new relationship right now, especially since there might be fights about it and he might ruin what might be in the future. To his credit, I did contact him with concern even when he told me he wouldn't be able to talk (I know for a fact he was quite busy). He also said he didn't want to deprive me of someone who could put in enough time to be a real boyfriend. He also said he's not going anywhere and has kept me posted on major events in his life. So, is he to be believed? Should I get over him? Should I date around and wait (he said it will be super busy for about 7 months)? Should I just wait? I really feel like this is the guy for me, and I'm trying to keep the faith, but I feel obsessive for believing what may be a line. Help?
It sounds to me like he is interested, but doesn't have the time to devote to a relationship right now. I think he's being very respectful of you by telling you up front rather than leaving you hanging or jumping into a relationship knowing he can't give it his full focus. The choice of whether to date while you wait is up to you. He may take you dating as a sign that you've lost interest. If he keeps putting you off or things change to where it does seem like he's stringing you along, then you may need to move on so you can find a guy that does have the time. Good luck.
(Rating: 5) Thank you! I'm having trouble trusting my own thoughts on the topic. I hope you and I are both right, or I'm in for a heartbreak, but with the possibility of the world, it's worth the risk. Thanks again!