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Hi I'm Dee. I'm 23 and married. I've worked in health care as well as office settings but am now a home-maker. I'm knowledgeable in a variety of subjects but don't mind doing a little research if asked about something I don't know about. Most of my friends come to me for advice. I read several advice columns and would like to help you also. I'm not judgemental. Your life is yours to live it as you choose. I believe asking for advice is good, but ultimately the choice is yours. You WILL NOT find a hurtful or smartass answer here.
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hey i'm a guy, and one of my friends got pregnant. the whole school found out and eventually her parents did too. right now shes feeling terrible and her parents flipped out on her. i heard her talking to some of her friends and said she was considering getting an abortion. i asked her about it and she said shes worried and afraid its a bad idea. what should i tell her about it? i mean i don't think she should get one, but how do i help her with what she wants to know? thanks
I think the most important thing you can offer her now is your support and friendship. Unfortunately, many people look down on pregnant teens, especially those that choose abortion. I don't necessarily agree with abortion unless there are special circumstances (for instance rape or if the pregnancy is dangerous to the mother's health), but I do believe it's a personal choice. If she asks your opinion, let her know how you feel and why you feel that way. However, tell her that whatever she decides, it's her choice and you'll be there for her.
If she hasn't already, encourage her to visit her family doctor, health department or planned parenthood office. They can explain her options so she can make an informed choice.
You can do some research online to find loads of information regarding abortion. However, since abortion tends to be a hot issue, be aware that some sites may offer a biased view. I'm giving you a link to a page that offers some information in what I think is an unbiased manner. It explains how each type is done, side effects, possible health risks, cost, what to expect, etc.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/portal/medicalinfo/abortion/
(Rating: 5) Thanks a lot