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This is probably going to sound pretty fucking wierd, but it bothers me.

Ok, Im dating this girl. Shes agnostic/athiest, Im christian, formerly catholic non denominational. Up to this point, with the exception of discussion, Ive not really had any issues with religions shit in our relationship. It doesnt bother me that shes agnostic, it hasnt bothered her that Im christian.

So, today we were talking, and I told her I was going to become a reverend in the universal life church. For those of you who dont know, its an online website where you can actually get legally ordained and become a reverend in the eyes of the law. I find this fucking hilarious, and have wanted to for a while, but never got around to it.

She reacted badly. First, she joked that she didnt want to be involved with a reverend. Then she got serious and basically made it clear that it would bother her for me to become a reverend while I was dating her (expressed so that it was clear she didnt want me to do it)

Then she tells me its "disrespectful towards my religion"

This is coming from a girl who Ive watched the jesus episodes of southpark with. Whom I have made catholic joke after catholic joke (Im entitled, I was raised in it) with and laughed with her. Whom I have had frank discussions about the real failings of certain christian sects.

And now this.

Needless to say, I reacted badly. I was, and am pissed at her, for reasons I cant really say. Given that she doesnt even have a religion (because atheism and agnosticism are no more religions than bald is a hair color) I dont see where she gets off getting on me for being "disrespecful" towards mine or having an issue with it when its not like...

Anyway. Enough impassioned speeches, my question to the masses, is what do you think. Am I out of line? Is she? Because Im going to do this, and shes not going to like it. And I dont like feeling guilty for doing things I know arent wrong.

I think it may be the fact that you consider it "hilarious" that is rubbing your girlfriend wrong. She may think you're doing it more as a joke than actually being called to serve that way. If you're truly serious about becoming a reverend, I would suggest sitting down with your girlfriend and explain your reasoning. I would also consider looking towards a more traditional path to becoming a reverend, for instance seminary school. I think it would help to show your girlfriend that you're serious about this. Good luck.

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(Rating: 5) You misunderstood me. It is a joke. Thats the entire point. A number of the guys I know are reverends, and 5 of us are going to get "reverendized" soon.

As much as it is a joke, my friend Cory performed a wedding about 4 months ago. A real, honest to God wedding. It was a lesbian wedding, but they flew to Cali to get a liscence, and were married by him, and now live together as wife and wife. Id love to actually marry friends. So in that respect, being a reverend would be kickass, but its also a joke.
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