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Hi I'm Dee. I'm 23 and married. I've worked in health care as well as office settings but am now a home-maker. I'm knowledgeable in a variety of subjects but don't mind doing a little research if asked about something I don't know about. Most of my friends come to me for advice. I read several advice columns and would like to help you also. I'm not judgemental. Your life is yours to live it as you choose. I believe asking for advice is good, but ultimately the choice is yours. You WILL NOT find a hurtful or smartass answer here.
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Well I'm in a pretty complicated situation. Me and my girlfriend broke up about a month and a half ago. We were in love with each other but because I was going through things and I took it out on her and she thought it was her fault so she broke up with me not wanting to hurt me anymore. Well over the course of this past month in a half I've tried to get back with her, but she said she just wasn't ready for a relationship. Well one drunken night (this friday) I IMed her friend (who I never talked to before) and started talking about my ex. She gave me advice and said I should give her room and not talk to her for a while and she might start to miss me and want me back. Well we started talking about other things and we talked yesterday and today and I started to get a little flirty with her. Now I've noticed that I'm starting to like her a little. Now I still feel the same way about my ex, but when I ask her if she still likes me she says she doesn't know. I'm not sure what I'd should do.
I would leave the friend alone if you want to even try getting your ex back. That's an explosive situation and will probably ruin any chance you have.
You mentioned that the breakup was because you were going through some things. Have you resolved the problem you were going through? I would resolve it first before attempting to get back with your ex. Otherwise the situation will just end up repeating itself.
Sit down with your ex and explain to her that it wasn't her fault. If you can, tell her what was going on to cause the problem and let her know that you have resolved it. Then, give her the time and space she needs to decide.
Good luck.
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very good answer. yg