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Hi I'm Dee. I'm 23 and married. I've worked in health care as well as office settings but am now a home-maker. I'm knowledgeable in a variety of subjects but don't mind doing a little research if asked about something I don't know about. Most of my friends come to me for advice. I read several advice columns and would like to help you also. I'm not judgemental. Your life is yours to live it as you choose. I believe asking for advice is good, but ultimately the choice is yours. You WILL NOT find a hurtful or smartass answer here.
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Hey, I’m usually the one giving advice. I don’t need advice. I just have a question and I want to know your opinion. This question is for deep thinkers. Long answers are encouraged as well as comical ones.
I’ve seen quite a lot of “love” questions, asked by adolescences. What would you call "true love"? Many people have been saying “I have a boyfriend and I REALY love him” and “she said that he loves me” or things like that. I’ve seen these questions being asked by 13 year olds! Teens DO have deep affections for people, but I really don’t think that they are capable of TRUE love. How can there be love if teen relationships only last 2 months or even 2 years! 2 years is quite long for a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, but shouldn’t love last a LIFETIME? I agree that teens think that they are in love (I’ve been there) but I wouldn’t call that love. I would call it more like, “deep affection”. After all, if love between teens is really “love” then they shouldn’t break up, right? I think that teens are too young and “unexposed” to have TRUE LOVE. Even adults. They mistakenly call their relationships “love”. If it was actually love, then shouldn’t there be less or no divorces?
I agree, with most of that anyway. It seems to me that too many times, people call their emotion "love" when it's actually "like", "lust", "friendship" and companionship" that they are experiencing. I'm not saying that someone can't love simply because they are 13. I feel that love can come at any age.
I also don't believe that there is a specific amount of time in which to fall in love. I've saw people that were together several years before they felt love. On the other hand, I met my husband in December and we married in April.
I think we're all seeking that one "true love", the love that lasts forever. I think the problem is that most people get impatient and settle for what they believe is "true love" rather than wait for the real thing.
(Rating: 5) Yeah, most people do mistake their relationship for love. But I'm just saying, for a 13 year old to fall in "true love" sounds farfetched. It's possible, but highly unlikely.