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Hi my name is Angel, that's my real name. I'm a young adult now, I've had this advice column for years, but I made another one under the name anq3l_xo when I thought I couldn't access this one. A little bit about myself. I am a student, both in college and high school. I work as a nanny part time. I want to be a lawyer when I "grow up." I believe I've done a lot of growing up in my short life. I have conquered an obsession over drugs and alcohol in the last year and a half. I'm sober now and I wouldn't trade that for the world. I'm happy now. I'm in an absolutely blessed relationship with someone that I truly care about and love with all of my heart. I have been through things that you kids have nightmares about. I have seen, heard, and witnessed a lot of things that would make full grown men cry. I believe that I am innocent now, because I don't live that old lifestyle anymore. I have a lot of experience in a lot of things, and I've always been good at shedding light on dark situations. I come from a broken family, so I have step, half whatever siblings, and I just recently reunited with my real mother after she abandoned me 10 years ago. I have amazing friends today, but it wasn't always like that. I have a wonderful boyfriend and a great relationship with him, but let me tell you, it wasn't always like that. My sister is a drug addict/ alcoholic of the worst type. She's my best friend in the entire world, and I hope this 14 year old girl doesn't have to go through what I went through. I've come to understand that I can't help her, but I can help others through advice and by being of service to people around me. I'm always here to help, leave one in my inbox on this column or my other one, or my email which is listed, and I WILL get back to you. I know what it's like to feel like nobody cares, well I care about everybody. God bless. ~Love Angeladvice
Hey it's that girl who lost her brother.
That's pretty much my name now. Ok i came to you because u helped the most but I still need more. There's something about talking to someone you don't know that's always made me feel better. I can't stand to think of my brother inside one of those hollow graves. When did they ever get the idea to do that to people? The thing is almost my whole life I've been one of those people who wonders. But I've realized that I don't want to wonder, I want to know. Wondering's good, but if you sit on the stairs all day and wonder it's not going to do anything for you. You've gotta search out answers yourself sometimes, and I've tried. I just don't know where to turn, it's like now there's this big brick wall between me and my brother. I have this saying not seeing air doesn't keep me from breathing not seeing god doesnt keep from beliving. Now I know it's true, I know so many things that I wanted to know that I'm about up to my ears with knowlege, and I'm a smart kid. I know none of this was my fault. People talk to me like I don't know. How do they know I don't know. I know. The don't know. They say the do, but they don't not really. I'm the one who lost a big brother not anyone else. It's different for my sister, she was older than him and not really that close to him like I was. Oh, and I'd try the cookie thing but I'd probably burn the house down. It's not that I don't like my family, because I love them to death and that's more than a lot of people can say. Now I know the only thing promised in life is death. I'm afriad anybody I get close to or love is a second away from leaving the Earth, me included. Now I want to do something while I'm here. I want to make a difference, but I can't do that until I find a way to show people how much I do actually care. I don't feel sorry for myself. I've never felt sorry for myself, because I know there has to be a way I can get through this, I just need your help to get started.
This is a really tough situation, and it's hard not to worry about it. Like I said before, don't forget your brother. Death is one of those things that nobody can begin to understand. I know from experience, that going to someone's grave and talking to them actually lessens the situation. You sound like a smart girl and you know yourself better than anyone, so you do what you think is right, but I'm glad you came to me because I try really hard to help people, but my best advice is to go talk to him at his grave, because although he is dead, he is still your brother. Another thing that is hard about losing someone is the trust issue, you may never get over that, I never have, but if you love someone enough, like your family, you just need to accept that they will always be there for you. It's hard now, but later down the line you will realize that not everyone will leave you and that you just need to keep your head up. As for making a difference, do something nice for your family. Take small steps, maybe not making cookies, but plant some flowers in the yard, play board games on a certain night, (we do thursdays) your family knows how much you love your brother too. As for how much you care, go visit your brother's grave, it will make you feel better, write him a letter and give him some flowers, maybe a favorite book or movie of his, it sounds ridiculous, but I promise it will make you feel better. I really just hope you can get through this because you seem like a wonderful girl and you're very smart and I hope you follow your heart and do the right thing. Good luck sweetheart -Angel
(Rating: 5) Thanks this was a lot of crap for one day and it's barely even over. But I do know when to move on with my life, so I'm going to my piano lession.
((If I have any more problems I'll probably come to you first.))