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my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 8 months and were like best friends! We have been fighting a lot lately and he jokes around (lies) too much. He always tells me he was lying shortly after but it really annoys me.. on my advice thingy he left me a question.. do you think im gay? and i said no just weird and he left be the worst feedback so people wont ask me stuff.. he never tells me when hes mad at me and i dont know how he really feels... help!

Hi,
Well, first of all, to get rid of that feedback, just delete your answer to that question - that'll get rid of the question and it's feedback.
I know it's really hard to do this, and you can do it over email/IM if you're too shy, but you need to have a proper talk with him. You have to tell him that this lying is really getting on your nerves. Just because he told you afterwards doesn't make it alright. Tell him that he has to get his act together, so to speak, or you and him are over. Make it sound like a serious conversation from the start - tell him that if he doesn't stop this lying at least for this conversation, then you're walking away. If he's too immature to stop for ten minutes then he isn't worth the bother
You shouldn't stay somewhere you aren't happy, hun (just remember that there's a difference between someone who makes you happy and being scared that you won't find anyone else if you leave someone)...but don't give up at the first hurdle. You two need to work at your issues (he may have something that bugs him about you too - make sure you ask) and then, even if the relationship doesn't work out, at least you can say you've tried.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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