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Hey, okay this is kinda weird for me to ask...but is it wrong for you to have a bf, or well, not a bf..but I mean at my skewl when you say bf, it's someone you just say you're goin out with, and not actually do anything besides hold hands, and im not sure but maybe kiss..at school...thats it..so is it wrong for you to have one without your parents' permission...like,i mean, not the kind where i haven't asked them cause I'm afraid of their answer, I mean I haven't asked them cause I KNOW their answer, because their not American and they have values and all that...but see I was raised in an American or International way, and so at my school...and there's this guy I like on and off..and he flirts with me...and all that. but even for the future..an I asked my sister if it's okay with her anyway coz even though she's not allowed she had 2 before without my parents finding out, but she said no, it's better not to...so is it okay for me to go ahead when they've all said no, because it's not fair, and it's my life..and even though I'm young, I know it has nothing to with age, they will never let me have a bf in their right minds...i dunno...life is pretty horrible for me right now..my parents are really mean besides that too...so i'm confused. Plz help m and answer my question. Thanx. I'm really sorry this was soo long. THX
Sure, they have their values and you appreciate them - if you didn't you wouldn't be asking about this - but you have your values too. And your values are gonna mean much more to you in later life than theirs do.
It'll be hard for you to hide this though - what if he wants to ring you up or come to your house to take you out?
Maybe you should bring this up with your parents - don't tell them you're considering having a boyfriend, but that it IS your life and you can make your own mistakes (you don't view them as mistakes but they will, they're parents :P). Ask them if they would be OK with you have guy friends - total platonic friends - as a start. Once they get used to that, and maybe these guys (your boyfriend could pose as a friend) came round your house a couple of times, you could ask them what they thought about you holding hands with guys. Promise them that you won't go any further than kissing - values or no, the thing that is probably bothering them most is the idea of their 'baby' getting hurt or pregnant before she's ready. It's better to be honest with them, but try not to make it like some big confrontation - a casual chat would be best, and show them how mature - and ready for a boyfriend - you are!
Go with your instincts. You'll feel bad lying to your parents and it'll be a hard thing to hide, but on the other hand, they may disapprove of this guy and try to stop you from seeing him.
I know this was a pretty vague answer, sorry bout that!! Do what you feel is right - I can't tell you what that is because I'm not you :) Just remember that the 'right thing' to do isn't always the right thing for you, and you've gotta look after number one!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
(Rating: 5) Thanks, that was great advice,really. although, i could never talk about to them aboout that, they would shoot me. Literally hit me.