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Our 21 year old daughter had to move back home, because her roomate moved out to go to college. Our daughter couldn't afford rent on her own, so she moved in with us. She got a job working as a cocktail waitress in a real dumpy bar, now she has started dating a "regular" from the bar, and he is a 23 year old drug(meth)dealer. I have pleaded with her not to go out with this loser, to no avail. Question: Should we throw her out and risk her moving in with the boyfriend or try to put up with it, in hopes that she will see the light and dump him. She says she really likes him. As far as I know, she is not using meth, but does smoke pot. I am really scared.
Yikes. The more you push her to dump him, the worse it is going to get. Can you talk to any of her friends that would talk some sense into her? Maybe she would at least get the message if everyone including mom and dad were singing the same tune "He's dangerous. He's going nowhere, and he about to suck you down so low that you won't have a chance at a decent life anymore." Is there someone else who is an adult that she treasures there advice? That would probably be the best person to get on your side.
I wouldn't actually throw her out unless she is bringing the drugs into your house. Mainly, because going with him is probably the only other choice she thinks she has. You could try getting her another roommate or another apartment.
From her side of the fence, she isn't seeing clearly. There is something about him that makes her blind. I have recently gotten out from under a relationship that included a overbearing individual who I didn't realize was controlling my every free minute. You just don't realize what you have traded in until you are away from that situation.
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Thanks for the advice. I don't think she is bringing drugs into the house. She has always been a good girl and never gave us any trouble. All I can do is hope and pray.
Thanks again
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