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So, last night, I had a little to drink and I had a random hookup with one of my friend's friends. We didn't have a condom, and I have been on birth control for a month last night. The sex didn't last long at all, he got off and pulled out. I'm wondering since I've not been on birth control other than a month if there's going to be a possibility of pregnancy? (link)
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Drinking can effect birth control's potency, but if you've been taking it for a month regularly on schedule then you should be fine.
No more random hookups unprotected though. Theres more than just pregnancy out there to worry about.
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my boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over a month and its kinda a long distance thing and he wants to see "pictures" of me and wants me to send them through texting... im not really comfortable with that but he gets upset what should i do :/ (link)
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No.
No No No.
Technology today allows some amazing, and at the same time, scary things.
For instance, a naked picture of you (who are probably underage) is something that can end up anywhere.
Lets say you send him pictures. Lets say you break up in a few years and he's angry. Lets say he sends pictures of you to your family, his friends, anyone who he thinks might be shocked to receive them. Lets say he posts it on the internet somewhere and two days later its front and center in a thousand pedophiles personal jpeg collections.
The golden rule of nude shots. You should not let someone have compromising pictures of you until you trust them implicitly and you've been having sex for a decently long period of time (say more than 6 months)
Basically, never let someone have pictures of you unless you know without a doubt and without asking them that if you broke up they would delete the pictures rather than harming you with them.
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Im 15 and havnt had a relationship...out of my own choice..i decided when i go out with a boy i want to make sure i know it will lead somewhere and that i have to truly like him..not just a 2 week stupid relationship. But now im getting to a point where im past waiting for boys...genuine boys. You can never find them where i live. They're all into this gansta r and b rubbish. I need a boy who accepts me as their equal and loves everything about me and dosnt want anything sexual. How long till i find someone like that?I want love...whether im young or not and im tired of waiting. My best friend has been hurt so many times and its just proved to us both noone is genuine and cares about the girls heart. Please can someone give me some help..why arent there boys like that ? (link)
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When?
College, maybe. Go to a big university, there's better selection.
The problem is, that at 15 you want a guy whos a bit more grown up, and at your age the guys you are around aren't anywhere near that yet.
Though, finding a guy who doesnt want anything sexual? Not going to happen.
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I'm a 16 year-old girl and my 15 year old (first) boyfriend says that I should change myself COMPLETELY just for him. And when I asked him why he's still with me and why he doesn't go to someone else he says it's because of all the sexual things he wants to do with me. I'm like..wtf..You don't respect me. You want me to change for YOUR sick pleasures...Well, I'm not going to change. It upsets me...because everything I seem to do, he's not happy with. The way I dress, act...He LOVES the way I look. And that's about it.
I'm on the verge of breaking up with him. We've been together for a month and 2 weeks. Do you think I should give him another chance? (link)
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Wow.
First, date up, not down.
Second, are you kidding? I've never met anyone with less common sense here, I'd think you would at least have heard enough stories about guys with below average intelligence who only want sex to have left him by now.
No, you should not give a one month relationship a second chance when the guy says he wants to do sexual things with you. If you don't have enough respect for yourself to think you're better than that, you should at least have enough disrespect for him that you wouldn't stay with a guy that friggin stupid.
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im 16/f. my dad drives me insane. we both have high tempers and can get mad really easily. he flips out over everything! if his mail is not separated from the rest of the family's mail, he complains, he complains if im not in bed by 10pm (im freakin 16) i wouldn't be surprised if he called my dorm while im in college next year asking if i went to bed on time. he never ever thinks hes wrong. when he gets mad he always throws my stuff. he doesn't do anything around the house. all he does is the laundry but he barely does that! the washing machine does the laundry but he demands food and coffee from my mom all the time. once she was sick and in bed and he was lying next to her watching tv and he tapped her on the shoulder non-stop for an hour and a half until my mom finally got up and made him coffee and his excuse for not making it himself was "i do the laundry and fix the cars". he's rediculous and the only love he's ever shown me was by buying me stuff. he buys me leather jackets that i don't want, my ipod, computer for christmas and none of this stuff i even wanted but if my jeans get too small and i need new ones hes deffinately not going to pay for it. he only gives my mom $100 for food a month and for anyone who's been in a grocery store in the past 20 years(obviously not him), you can't survive on $100 a month for food. my mom doesn't have a fantastic income so it's not like she's much help with the money situation. my dad calls my mom fat all the time. my mom was going to get a divorce in april and we even started looking for appartments and houses for us to move out but she didn't have the money to pay for the divorce lawyers and all the expenses. she even told me that the only reason she married him was because she wanted children and she thought he was the last guy she'd ever meet. then once she got married they just had me and then when my mom wanted another kid my dad refused. they fight everyday even if we're on vacation or it's a holiday. my dad always starts the fights. nothing my mom does can ever be good enough for him. my mom got a new car, a car that my dad picked out and once they got it he complained that she made a bad choice, even though it was his pick, it was her fault they had to get that car because her credit was so bad. it's a nice new car too! i can't stand him anymore and my mom's been saying she was going to get a divorce ever since i can remember and then when we talked about it in april she was surprised to hear how supportive i was of it so she was more willing to do it.
ok besides that he treats my mom like crap the problems i have with him is that:
-he wont let me watch a movie that says any curse in it (even though i can buy my own rated R movie ticket in a few months)
-i have a bed time at 10pm when i'm 16
-he wont pay for my clothes unless they're from walmart or the dollar store
-he wont let me drive his precious honda, meanwhile my mom feels safer with me driving than my dad
-he only shows his love by materialism
-he doens't know the names of my friends and i've been friends with the same people since kindergarted
-he's in denial about my age and even though i'm 16 he thinks a guy who is 17 will be too old for me to even talk to
-if i voice my opinion about any of these issues he blames my rediculous outspoken behavior on my mother
-the other night his constant nagging about nothing and temper made me so frustrated that i had to go in my room, scream and cry like someone died....and then of course i got in trouble for being a baby.
-unless i'm a doctor, then no other profession will be good enough (i want to be an architect)
i can't stand him anymore and i dont know what to do about it. (link)
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Wow.
Its interesting, because your situation with your parents is very like mine used to be, and at the same time is very different. (being a guy means some things were easier, like dating)
As far as how to cope with him, I wish I had some decent advice for you. My father drove me nuts in some similar and some different ways, and I was never able to do anything to make it better until I moved out.
On the other hand, once you're off at college there won't be much that he can do. Calling to check your bed time won't exactly work when you can tell him "Dad, I'm at college, I dont live under your roof or your rules"
Now, your mother is a different story.
If you want her to get a divorce, you need to talk to her about it, alot. If you don't, here's whats likely to happen.
You will go off to college, and you will obviously leave your parents behind. Without an ally (you) in the house, your mother will have a choice to make. Be alone, or conform herself to that which best works with your father. Theres a pretty good chance that she is worn down enough in her willpower that she will simply comply with his wishes.
So, in order to not be alone, your mother will change. In a few years, you won't recognize her. She will act differently and think differently, and will not be the woman you remember at all.
If you think they should be divorced, do more than just be supportive. Talk to her. Because if you don't you could well find yourself without a parent at all.
Its not fun.
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I know that determine you IQ you must take an IQ test, I get that part. A lot of people like telling me their IQs and I feel pretty dumb because I don't know mine, nor have I ever taken a test.
Is there any type of free online IQ test I can take? I've tried googling them but I haven't found what I'm looking for. Also, do these tests tell you what they average IQ is. Or, you know, what's good/bad/awesome/average, etc.? If not, how do you know?
I feel pretty lame asking this because I should be old enough to know all of this (17/f), but I don't. Anything is helpful. (link)
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An actual IQ test has to be administered by a professional in the field. A series of questions based on middle and high school level logic is not going to conclusively determine IQ.
What does that mean to you?
It means that IQ test websites were created to have a way to suck money out of stupid egotistical people who want to have something to brag about.
So, all your friends who are bragging about their IQs? They are victims of viral marketing, and have all paid money or given hits to websites designed to prey upon the vain and the naive. Its just the latest trend that someone learned how to make money off of.
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"This is a serious question and i would like serious answers"
For almost a week my boyfriend has been asking me if he could put it in my butt. I kept telling him no, it will hurt ect. but he keeps asking. Finally i told him i would let him "try" on Valentines day, and i let him down and he got mad. Last night me and him had sex and i told him i was going to let him do it this time, so he waiting till after i came, and tried to put it in there but i stopped him because the lub felt nasty. Now this morning he's calling me a bitch and saying i should die. I just don't get it. I don't know what to do about him. any advice? (link)
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You are both too young and immature to be having sex.
For future reference, its not a good idea to date a guy who gets angry when you aren't comfortable with the kinkier aspects of sex.
Let me explain why you don't want to have sex with guys before you're both 18.
Guys are full of shit. Most of all in the teen years. Most guys are very logical. We think by that, rather than emotion. It takes time, experience, and maturity, to develop the kind of empathy that makes a man a good partner for sex. Guys are also generally selfish and have to learn how not to think only about themselves.
Case in point, your boyfriend.
Girls, on the other hand, require experience to learn what they want in a guy. Girls who start having sex early learn to love the excitement of sex without any of the deeper feelings behind it. You love a guy because he excites you, rather than being excited by a guy because you love him.
So, what does this turn into.
Your boyfriend is too immature to realize the gentle approach needed when a girl isnt entirely comfortable with things. He is petulant and immature, and rather than working towards experiencing something with you, he is simply working hard to grant his own desires and getting angry when he doesnt get his way, like a toddler.
You, are too immature to realize that you don't share intimacy with a guy too young to appreciate it. You don't know what you want in a guy and are willing to take this asshole's word that he is what you want. Unfortunately, thats not turning out well for either of you.
He's not what you need or should want in a boyfriend. I would dump him, and stay away from guys for a while.
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I love the 15 year old girl below who thinks that the reason people engage in kinky sex is either homosexuality or possession of deficient physical attributes.
Way to go honey. You can embarrass the nation during your beauty pageant someday just like this girl.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JtkX3OyPF4Q
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Alrighty so you know how you can get fined like a lot of money for using limewire?
Well, if you buy limewire pro can u still get fined?
Or are you like safe cuz you bought it.
Please help! Thanks :] (link)
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Ugh.
The chances are low, but you don't want to be the one the boom falls on.
The way that they get you, is that when you are downloading or sending a file, that connection is traceable. Limewire, like kazaa before it, uses central servers which connect one computer to another and which can be accessed to see what IP addresses are downloading what.
Sharing is the first way they bust you. If they can click a few buttons and see the contents of your shared folder, thats evidence for them that you possess those files, and they can take legal action against the owner of the computer.
Downloading can also bust you. One of the most common ways this can happen is that police and companies can have their own limewire running with copies of the songs. You download a song from a server they have, it records it, and they have evidence against you.
Because of how many people are downloading, the chances are somewhat low that you will get targeted. Usually they choose lower income people because they want to litigate against people who can't afford to take them to court and counter-sue for a frivolous lawsuit.
But versions of limewire don't matter. If you use limewire, its traceable, and recordable, and its possible that either cops or lawyers could knock on your door someday.
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19/f
I don't know what to do. My boyfriend and I have tried having sex several times but it never works. It's extremely painful. I know about relaxing, but it just doesn't work. I mean I can't get him inside that far at all. Not even a inch. It feels like he's stretching me too much and tearing me. I'm fine with fingers though to an extent. Can't go in that far. But is there anything to reduce the pain? I was thinking about getting drunk and having him try. I.. honestly don't care if I don't remember my first time. But is there any other ways? (link)
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I could think of a number of ways none of which are proper to mention on this website.
The option that is, is you should find ways to stretch yourself out more before sex. More fingers, maybe a dildo if you don't mind a trip to the adult novelties store, something along those lines.
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Does anyone know where I can get a guide for Zelda 1??
And yeah, i still play my N-64. =D (link)
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GameFaqs.com
Every possible thing there is to know about that game can be found on that website.
You just gave me an N64 craving. Time to fire up Project 64.
Also, if you didnt know, its been found that possessing computer "pirated" copies of games from systems like nintendo, snes, n64, sega genesis, game boy, or any other video game system that is no longer produced and sold new in the store is completely legal.
So, if you'd like to know how to have almost every N64, snes, genesis, nintendo, game boy, etc game playable on your computer, drop me a question in the inbox. Nerds must spread the love.
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Limewire won't connect to the internet [even though there is an internet connection]. I think they're a problem with my firewall! Is there any way to shut it off for a time? Or is there any way i can make my limewire work? Because i can't search any songs.
Thanks! (link)
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Do not shut off your firewall!
Repeat.
Do not shut off your firewall!
There is a reason limewire is blocked by your firewall. Its because limewire is defined as spyware and introduces malicious code into your computer.
Limewire is going to turn your hard drive into a virus play ground. I would reccomend uninstalling it asap.
Learn to torrent.
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In police lineups, who are the other [people]... the ones who aren't the accused criminal? (link)
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Usually just random other people who might match the description of the subject.
The general purpose of a police line up is not to identify someone because the police aren't sure, its to prove that the victim CAN Identify the perp for court purposes.
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Sex. Glorious sex.
Ok, I haven't ever tried it but very soon I'll be homealone and me and the boyfriend, been together a year now, want to try it for the first time. I know the first time is very likely to be HORRIFICALLY BAD, and we've tried before and had problems of 'getting it in'. That wasn't fun, but we took a break, moved on with the foreplay, and now, when we're much much more comfortable with each other, we want to try again. And I say we, because last time I didn't particularly want to, but now I feel very comfortable with the concept.
My question is, I often hear about whether women are 'good in bed' or not. And I know in foreplay women should have a certain amoutn of skill or do certain things that would obviously make them better in bed, but I want to know, WHILST having sex is there anything a woman can do to make the sex better?
Because all I've ever really seen is... bouncing :)
Could you suggest any tactics or positions or techniques or mere suggestions for what could better the experience for both my partner and myself??
Because, apart from the bouncing... I'm clueless :P ^^".
Thanks, F. (link)
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You learn tactics and positions. Sex is a skill, and the only way you better a skill is by practicing.
Whats most important is giving each other feed back. If something feels good, say so. If someone needs to stop doing something, say so. Be an active participant.
One of the worst things about inexperienced girls, is not that they do things wrong, its that they don't do anything. Girls will freeze up and lay there too self conscious to do anything, including enjoy the sex.
Make a little noise, give him encouragement, get him to respond to you, and just always be doing something. Whether its talking, rubbing him, moaning, moving, etc.
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I've had sex so many times with my boyfriend. So it's not one of the first time things. It didn't hurt when I first had sex either.. so I'm wondering why it hurts a bit now.
I like it rough, I'm always relaxed.. but after 40 mins or an hour, it starts to hurt? Like a stabbing sensation. It's not like we stay in the same position.
Is there something wrong with me? It's been like 7 months since we first had sex.. Does it have to do anything with his size er what? (link)
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Your body isn't built for marathon sex.
Comparative experience. My girlfriend is the type who is better with sex for 15 or 20 minutes, 3 times daily. This is because more than that, and she starts to get rubbed raw both on the inside and the outside.
Basically, you get sore and tender. Its not something wrong with you, its just that your body has a point when rubbing things starts to irritate skin, maybe cause inflamation, etc.
Cut sex a bit shorter and you can avoid hurting.
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whats with people and the obsession with hookah nowadays? isnt it as bad as cigarettes? it seems like group smoke or something with a giant bong except its not for mj. any info about this would be appreciated. where do people get this stuff and what is put into it?
(for research project at school - i will get facts online but i need like info from people in the know about their school surroundings and who i hang out with dont do this or know about this stuff) thanks! (link)
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The Hookah.
First question, the obsession.
Trends, my friend. Often times, a person or group of people will start doing something. Others, seeing this action, might want to take part. So they imitate. Others imitate them. And before you know it, the Hookah and Hookah bars have become the next big thing in what you want to do when you hang out.
Its just whats popular right now.
Now, what is a hookah. As mentioned below, its a water filtration device, very similar to a bong.
It has a large bowl on the top, meant for Shisha. Shisha is the term used for tobacco that has been treated with various compounds that will introduce a "flavor" to the smoke. People make Shisha that tastes like all kinds of things. Fruit, candy, whatever.
Hookahs are heated by a coal. Usually its a circular charcoal on top of the bowl that stays lit for long periods and allows you to burn for as long as an hour before changing.
As to how bad it is for you. Shisha, because it is treated with chemicals, produces a fair bit more carcinogens than tobacco smoke. Now, the water does filter some of these out, so per Cubic Meter Shisha smoke is lighter than cigarette smoke.
But, smoking a hookah is worse for your lungs. Why?
When smoking a cigarette, it can be fairly harsh. Chainsmoking a few cigarettes could take 15 minutes but would leave your throat hurting, more than likely.
Because of the water, a hookah's smoke is far less harsh on the throat. This means that when smoking a hookah, you can take a deeper breath and draw more smoke into your lungs. It also means you can smoke longer.
The combination of the two of these means that smoking a hookah, as far as cancer and nicotine are concerned, is just as bad for you IF you only smoke it as long as you smoke a cigarette. Studies on hookah state that over the course of an hour, smoking a hookah with friends can be as bad as smoking an entire pack of cigarettes or more.
So, overall, because of the way its designed to be smoked, hookah's are actually worse for you than cigarettes.
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I masturbate like maybe once a week, is that normal?
or even okay in the Christian church?
i just feel weird and guilty after it. (link)
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Masturbation is a sign of a healthy and normal sex drive.
Guilt is a sign that your church is damaging you mentally with their BS about sexual purity.
Now, to answer your question. Is it OK?
Heres where you get a lesson in perspective. Many things, including truth, are determined entirely by someone's perspective.
Take masturbation. In every denomination of Christianity you would find people from all walks of life who would say that its ok, and who would say that its not. For many different reasons.
I'll go ahead and forewarn you, I have a bias. I think (as stated above) that masturbation is perfectly normal and healthy and even is a good thing. The desire for sex is hardwired into everyone. Some have higher sex drives than others, but the desire for sex is universal.
Now, when you get horny and you arent sexually active, that stress and tension can build and drive you insane. Eventually the need to relieve it almost becomes a compulsion. Take me, I orgasm at least once daily, often more than once. In fact, I will often have sex once or twice a day and masturbate once or twice a day. I simply have that high of a sex drive. If I dont, its generally because I am stressed or upset, which kills sex drive. If I AM horny and don't orgasm, I notice that I become a bit more irritable and am not as centered in myself.
Other people can go longer, for instance, for you it takes a week to have that tension build up that I have in the course of 12 hours.
So, obviously, I think masturbation is a good thing, and I disagree heavily with people who say that it isnt.
Reasons why people say that its not.
- The act itself is "perverted". Many religions either hold that sex is "dirty" or that sex is "sacred" or some combination thereof. I disagree, I think that sexuality is beautiful and a very necessary thing in the human race.
- The thoughts are perverted. This one is common in Christianity. People like to pretend that they are pure. Its why no one talks about sex at work, its why there is so much controversy over sexually explicit material in this country. Everyone thinks about sex, but everyone want's to pretend that they do not. Usually because they believe that the first bullet point is true.
Sexual fantasy is just as normal as any other part of human sexuality. But the religious protest against the sexual objectification of others, say for instance a kid thinks a girl in his class is pretty and thinks about her when he masturbates.
There can be other reasons, but usually these reasons involve things that people were taught that are false. Myths about masturbation created because the first two reasons wont stop everyone from masturbating. Common myths
- People can tell when you Masturbate
- Your fingernails will turn black
- Your penis will become curved or your vagina will somehow be damaged
- You will grow hair in unnatural places.
- It will make you unable to perform sexually (actually, studies show that men who masturbate regularly usually have more control over themselves and have a lower chance of difficulty with premature ejaculation)
Etc, etc.
Now, reasons why its a good thing, Ive stated above. But lets recap.
- It releases tension.
- It gets you aquainted with your sexual organs
- It is enjoyable and feels good.
- It stimulates the imagination (Sexual fantasy gives the mind a bit of a workout in both concentration and imagination)
- It is "you" time. Sex is always about both people, but its permissible and entirely normal to be selfish sometimes. Masturbation lets you do that.
- It allows you to explore and enjoy fantasies that might not be real possibilities for you.
In my book, you are just fine. Keep something in mind. Masturbation IS by definition somewhat of a private act. As I said, its "you" time. What you do in the privacy of your own home, room, whatever that does not hurt anyone is no one's business but your own.
Oh, and the guilt. In this world, society sets rules, and teaches these rules and how you are supposed to feel about them to others.
You have been taught and exposed to viewpoints which would lead you to think that masturbation is bad in some way. Remember that these are the _opinions_ of those around you, these are not facts. You have been _taught_ to feel guilty about what is going on. If you had not been taught this, you would not actually feel wierd about it afterwards.
It can take time to unlearn things like this, but in the overall measure as you grow into an adult, you will realize that not everything you have been taught is true. Perspective, remember? Just because some people think something is wrong does not mean that it is.
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My husband is a wonderful father and partner. Our child is coming up fast to 2 years old and we have another one on the way. I have just turned 20 years old.
The problem is, is that from the instant our son was born, he just got it and well...I didn't, and I still don't.
Is just knowing that I will inevitably get things wrong, but as long as I make sure the children know that whatever I do is done with the best of intentions and that I would do anything for them enough? I'm just scared of seeming second-rate.
Any help is more than appreciated.
Thank you for your time. (link)
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Some people click to certain things, others do not. When in doubt, ask your husband. If you respect his instincts then you can respect his advice.
The one thing I can say, is always keep an open mind.
I come from a home that was utterly destroyed by my parents insistence that I didn't come with a manual and that whatever they did, no matter how wrong, was the best they could do and I would just have to be happy with it.
You are human. Your children are going to have to be to. When you screw up, admit it to them. Screwing up doesnt make you not be their parents, and it doesnt decrease your authority.
I can tell you, I came from a family where my parents maybe apologized twice in 18 years and admitted that they were wrong at about the same rate. I now have a complex about never admitting when _I'm_ wrong and my parents and I do not speak, because they are convinced that they are always right, even when theyre wrong, just because they are parents.
Don't constantly justify yourself to your kids. Explain why you do things, when you're wrong admit it, and provide them a basis for learning how to be normal human beings, and you will be on your way to being an amazing parent.
Above all, remember that kids always turn out somewhat like their parents, and its because from day 1 you are the role model they learn how to act from. Setting an example is far more important than making sure you make every correct decision. And all that requires is being a good person, being human, and showering them with love.
The rest will take care of itself.
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hello so i need to runaway from here (my home) i love my family but latley they have been asking the world from me and even when I talk to them they still dont stop my mom had surgy (historectmy) and my dad hurt his back so i know i should help out but when they werent hurt they still asked us (me and my sister) to do it all i guess when my other sis was here Kas it wasnt as much but they still didnt do anythin I cant stand it Ash can leave after this year to college and I have 4 more years any help on all this i really think runing away is the best thing to do but were to go what to do i mean i cant just walk out but i cant live on the streets of sesser so what can i do if i do run away (link)
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Running away is NEVER the answer.
Repeat that. _NEVER_
I'm sorely tempted to give you something of a reality check.
From what you've said, I can deduce that your life is NOT that bad. Not nearly bad enough to run away from.
You haven't mentioned abuse. You aren't starving. You have clothes, and a roof over your head. Your sister is going to college which means you aren't poor in the general sense.
And I see what you wrote. "I do it all" and "They have been asking the world of me" and "they still didn't do anything"
Typical self centered 14 year old angsty bullshit.
Your parents need your help. Its not their job to provide a cushy little life free of work for you. You know, in the real world, you have to earn what you get. And your parents have earned your help by creating a family stable enough for you to be this spoiled.
Running away isn't going to solve anything, at all. Thats the most immature response imaginable. At 14 you should be more than old enough to realize that running away from your parents who provide for you and love you and just ask you to do things to help them is incredibly stupid.
The world doesn't support that kind of stupidity. There is no where for you to go, no one is going to take in a spoiled 14 year old who ran away because she thought she had too many chores. They're going to look at you like you're insane and tell you to get your ass home.
I'll tell you what you'll do if you run away. You will go somewhere. You will walk out into the streets thinking "I'm solving a problem"
An hour later, you'll think you're stupid too. You'll wonder what you were thinking, how you could do something this dumb. You'll see it getting dark and wonder where you sleep, and you'll contemplate going to a friends house. But you'll realize that your friends parents are just going to call yours and bring you home. As the street lights come on, you'll realize that sleeping on grass at the local park isn't a great idea, and then you'll start to get hungry.
Maybe you were smart enough to bring food. Maybe. I hope those three peanut butter and jelly sandwiches you made go a long way.
So lets say at this point you haven't given in and decided to go home and apologize for being an idiot. Its getting cold, you have no bed, you just ate stale peanut butter and jelly and only have two sandwiches left.
By now, home is sounding like a really good idea. But you cant face your parents, so you stay outside. You finally pass out, and wake up at 5 am when it starts raining. You hide under a tree; cold, miserable, wet, and alone.
I could go on, but the punchline is, you go home. One way or another, you end up home.
And so your tantrum is over. Your parents are hurt because they provide you a home and love and you don't appreciate any of it, and they can't sleep at night because they wonder how they failed so much as parents that their 14 year old ran away when they provided everything he/she needed. Your mother cries, and your father wants to. Your sisters were worried sick.
All of this, because you are incapable of appreciating what you have. Because your life has never been truly hard.
Another thing, your parents arent asking that much of you. I mean, if they really were putting you through the ringer, you would have started listing all the things they do. Instead, you list nothing and simply state "oh they ask the world of me"
I almost encourage you to run away. Because, to be honest, you are someone who has NO appreciation for how hard life can truly be, even in this country which has the basic infrastructure to make being homeless something that won't kill you. It would be interesting to see what two or three weeks on the streets would do to you. Eating out of dumpsters and begging for money, sleeping on concrete to avoid the bugs or grass to avoid the concrete.
Suck it up. Your life is not that bad, in fact I know many people who can't say that they love their family, and couldnt in high school. I knew parents who didnt ask, they commanded. And they punished you if you didnt do what they said, when they said it. You have loving parents who provide for you and who actually need your help. Even if they didnt NEED your help, you owe them chores. They provide for you, and its their house, their rules.
But running away from such a sweet deal is the stupidest thing you could do. Especially over some bullshit 14 year old teenaged angsty issue that you havent even clearly defined.
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when are they going to drop the price for this game? ive been waiting for over a year now? anyone have any clue? (link)
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You do realize that this question is relatively stupid, right? I mean, IF they were going to drop the price on the game, they wouldnt announce it. Ive worked in the video game industry. Prices just change, and stores get notified when the data changes in the computer. I cant count the number of times I've seen games sold in one of my stores where the price the computer displayed was lower than the sticker on the case because we had a price change and didnt know it until someone asked for a $49.99 game and the total was $29.00 or something like that.
In a year you should have been able to save the extra 20 dollars. Just pony up and by the stupid game already, jeez.
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Would you drop the price on a game that people literally buy your system for?
I wouldnt.
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if a guy keep doing a drug, a coconie thing put in pipe glass and smoke it everday and that will get throat cancer? (link)
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If a guy keep smoking crack, throat cancer is probably least of his worries.
And to the teeming masses, any clue on the whole influx of people who don't know english lately? I feel like this site suddenly became popular in Asia judging by the engrish.
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