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Help with runing away
hello so i need to runaway from here (my home) i love my family but latley they have been asking the world from me and even when I talk to them they still dont stop my mom had surgy (historectmy) and my dad hurt his back so i know i should help out but when they werent hurt they still asked us (me and my sister) to do it all i guess when my other sis was here Kas it wasnt as much but they still didnt do anythin I cant stand it Ash can leave after this year to college and I have 4 more years any help on all this i really think runing away is the best thing to do but were to go what to do i mean i cant just walk out but i cant live on the streets of sesser so what can i do if i do run away
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Running away is NEVER the answer.
Repeat that. _NEVER_
I'm sorely tempted to give you something of a reality check.
From what you've said, I can deduce that your life is NOT that bad. Not nearly bad enough to run away from.
You haven't mentioned abuse. You aren't starving. You have clothes, and a roof over your head. Your sister is going to college which means you aren't poor in the general sense.
And I see what you wrote. "I do it all" and "They have been asking the world of me" and "they still didn't do anything"
Typical self centered 14 year old angsty bullshit.
Your parents need your help. Its not their job to provide a cushy little life free of work for you. You know, in the real world, you have to earn what you get. And your parents have earned your help by creating a family stable enough for you to be this spoiled.
Running away isn't going to solve anything, at all. Thats the most immature response imaginable. At 14 you should be more than old enough to realize that running away from your parents who provide for you and love you and just ask you to do things to help them is incredibly stupid.
The world doesn't support that kind of stupidity. There is no where for you to go, no one is going to take in a spoiled 14 year old who ran away because she thought she had too many chores. They're going to look at you like you're insane and tell you to get your ass home.
I'll tell you what you'll do if you run away. You will go somewhere. You will walk out into the streets thinking "I'm solving a problem"
An hour later, you'll think you're stupid too. You'll wonder what you were thinking, how you could do something this dumb. You'll see it getting dark and wonder where you sleep, and you'll contemplate going to a friends house. But you'll realize that your friends parents are just going to call yours and bring you home. As the street lights come on, you'll realize that sleeping on grass at the local park isn't a great idea, and then you'll start to get hungry.
Maybe you were smart enough to bring food. Maybe. I hope those three peanut butter and jelly sandwiches you made go a long way.
So lets say at this point you haven't given in and decided to go home and apologize for being an idiot. Its getting cold, you have no bed, you just ate stale peanut butter and jelly and only have two sandwiches left.
By now, home is sounding like a really good idea. But you cant face your parents, so you stay outside. You finally pass out, and wake up at 5 am when it starts raining. You hide under a tree; cold, miserable, wet, and alone.
I could go on, but the punchline is, you go home. One way or another, you end up home.
And so your tantrum is over. Your parents are hurt because they provide you a home and love and you don't appreciate any of it, and they can't sleep at night because they wonder how they failed so much as parents that their 14 year old ran away when they provided everything he/she needed. Your mother cries, and your father wants to. Your sisters were worried sick.
All of this, because you are incapable of appreciating what you have. Because your life has never been truly hard.
Another thing, your parents arent asking that much of you. I mean, if they really were putting you through the ringer, you would have started listing all the things they do. Instead, you list nothing and simply state "oh they ask the world of me"
I almost encourage you to run away. Because, to be honest, you are someone who has NO appreciation for how hard life can truly be, even in this country which has the basic infrastructure to make being homeless something that won't kill you. It would be interesting to see what two or three weeks on the streets would do to you. Eating out of dumpsters and begging for money, sleeping on concrete to avoid the bugs or grass to avoid the concrete.
Suck it up. Your life is not that bad, in fact I know many people who can't say that they love their family, and couldnt in high school. I knew parents who didnt ask, they commanded. And they punished you if you didnt do what they said, when they said it. You have loving parents who provide for you and who actually need your help. Even if they didnt NEED your help, you owe them chores. They provide for you, and its their house, their rules.
But running away from such a sweet deal is the stupidest thing you could do. Especially over some bullshit 14 year old teenaged angsty issue that you havent even clearly defined.
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It sounds like you feel unappreciated and taken advantaged of. I don't know how running away is going to solve this problem for you. As an adult, I can share with you that it pays to have some type of contact with your family as an adult.
There are no rules that dictate that no one is entitled to not experience any family discords. Running away is not the answer. If you do so it will likely become a pattern of behavior in all facets of your life concerning commitment, which will be destructive to your health.
Your parents are going through a hard time, while your aungish is understandablea, be there for them. Your running away will only add to their hurt and pain. I would suggest taking some alone time to yourself everyday, say an hour, and informing your parents about your need for some alone time to mentally recharge.
Also talk to a school counselor who can guide you to some resources in the community if your family is struggling financially.
Stay strong and good luck.
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First off let me say running away is not the solution. When you can back you will still have the same problems. Your parent's could get upset you ran away and call the cops and that would get you in trouble. I know what it is like to be in situation. If your parents don't listen to you when you try to talk to them politly, then just don't do anything for them anymore, they will get the hint. If you do choose to runaway best thing to do is go to a friends or relatives house. I really hope i helped. :D
Kayla
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