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Q: i have been with a girl for the last 18 months and she cheated on me and got with another guy, and on out year and a half anniversary she told him she loved him after knowing him for a week. can she love him? and he dumped her and said he doesnt like her anymore, and i know we cant get back together but sometimes she says i love you and is it wrong for me to say it back, i mean i resent her for cheating on me and breaking our trust and relationship but i love her, help please

Its ok to still love her, you'll be loving her until your over her. I dont think she could really really, truly love him after just one week. I also think you guys should stop saying I love you to eachother, because you need to get over her. Her saying she still loves you will mess you up!

Q: Ok..Me and this guy lets just say his name is Bob.Well,me and Bob talked for a month and we eventually went out.I have really strong feelings for Bob.Well,we broke up 2 months later because he thought I cheated on him because one of his friends said I did.Well,we still were best friends after we broke up and we can talk about ANYTHING!Well,after me and Bob broke up I started talking to his brother(i know thats SO wrong)Well,me and his brother talked for about 3 months and we eventually went out but we only lasted for 2 weeks.After me and his brother broke up,Bob called me out of nowhere.I didnt realize it was his # and so he got on AIM and I asked him why he called me?He said because I missed talkin to u and I want to be in a relationship with u and I want it to last this time.I've been with a lot of girls but ur the only girl who has been there for me through everything and I want our relationship to last.I asked him if he really meant that and he said he did.We're not exactly goin out again yet but were about too.Anywayz...to my question.I've always had feelings for him as the b/f type and I can actually picture myself marrying him if thats crazy!But...ever since he said that to me,hes ALL I ever think about!!!He calls me his "boo"all the time and tells me he loves me.Could this be love?does it sound like love to u?I've known him over a year.I have been there for him through everything.I know everything about him.Please help me because I'am not sure if I'am in love or not!I RATE!Thanx!

If your thinking about him all the time, if you wakeup, go to sleep, thinking about him...if you dream about him...those are signs of love. You could be in love...I say you should go out again! he said he still likes you and you still like him. And after a while of going out you'll be able to tell on your own if you love him! Hope I helped..any more ?'s, ask!

Q: OK I live in wa, so how do i buy H & M clothing online, they don't sell on the website, ne one know any other site?

Try www.ebay.com and search for H & M Clothing. You'll for sure, find something there! Good luck:)

Q: Whats the most natual looking , full coverage makeup?!

*Editing my answer* :D! Use mac makeup, go to tha store or www.maccosmetics.com and buy some stuff over there..most of it is not natural, but you can find the bronzer and stuff there. if you go to the store, (if you have one) just tell them what you need and they always give you something!!

Q: I know this sounds completely messed up, and might gross u out. but i need help. sometimes when im bored, ill just start scratching my head to the point where it bleeds and forms scabs (very little ones!) and now i cant help but pick at them and scratch them. theres no reason i do it, its just a realllllllly weird habit. i dont know whats wrong with me?! any tips on how i can make it stop?

Maybe bite your fingernails when you feel like doing it, or brush your hair all the time instead of scratching it...so it doesnt bleed

Q: Ok there is this guy right that goes to a different school. I mean i have only seen him once but right when i met him we hit it off at least i think we have? hmm well n e ways are different school relationships bad i mean i have alot of friends that go to his skool and one of his friends is mi best friend now we talk on the internet and stuff and lk we try and set up times to see each other but something gets in the way wat should i do?

Keep trying to see him. Eventually you will get to go out and hang out and all that good stuff. If you seem to hit it off, ask him out. Or wait till he asks you out:D!

Q: 1st of all im 17/f...me and a bunch of friends are all going out to dinner and to the movies on halloween and were all gonna dress up and i dont kno what to be... i wanna be something good not like a witch or nething but i dont wannahave some big costume and i wanna still look cute but i dont kno what to be any ideas?

Maybe you and your friends can dress up like the Mean girls aka the plastics. :D! You could be a army-girl, or a prisoner...Hope I helped a little:)

Q: ok well my brother was recently let out of jail, and during that period of time, i got along with my mom... okay.. not great though, and everytime he has been here.. she's changed, she has been favoring him SO MUCH! and she was like this before he left too, but i dont know how to deal with this. she says stuff to me that hurts alot, and she does stuff for him that i would ask for the same and she would be like, do it yourself, or mean stuff like that! i really dont know how to put up with this! it makes me really sad, cause i have been trying to get a relationship with my mom cause i dont have one with my dad (even though he lives me me) and it just doesnt work! please help! i dont know how to deal with this anymore! cause it has been goin on for years! :-(

Shes scared of losing her son again. Shes happy to do everything for him because she missed him when he was in jail. But you should talk to your mom about how you feel. And say that hes home, and wont go back to jail (hopefully) and that you wanna feel loved again..hope I helped

Q: im the person that wrote about me and my boyfriend takin a break well he finally called sunday and he did cheat on me. So we broke up sunday nite. Well i really didnt talk to him at all monday in school and Monday nite i wrote him a real long letter explaining to him how i felt and all that. I even told him that i loved him in the letter and just all that. Well he read it tuesday and we talked and then today we skipped skool and we hung out all day and he told me that he thought about my letter and that even yesterday he thought about me. Im just wondering tho am i really dumb to sit there and talk to him or am i just a girl who is madly in love wit a boy. Im really sorry that this is soo long but i just need sum advice

Your in love, but he cheated on you. Chances are that he will cheat on you again. If he wants to go out with you again, I suggest you dont do it. Because theres a 90% chance he'll hurt you again.

Q: if u masterbate, can u get diseases from the things that u like put up there?

Yeah you can, thats why you gotta make sure to wash (with soap and water) whatever you use before and after you masterbate...learned that in sex~ed haha

Q: This might be a little long--but I need help so please read it..Thanks!

Well we just got to pick where we sit for lunch and we have to sit there all year. There's 6 other girls at my table, and like 3 are my good friends. Two of the other girls (besides my friends) that sit there are kind of shy, but nice, and I still talk to them. But the last girl..she is SO annoying. She just sat there when we chose tables, and some of the girls like her so they said 'okay' to her. Well we sit where everybody walks by us when they get their lunch and the girl I don't like is always yelling "HI..HI...HI!" to everybody, and it gets so annoying. Then she tries to take food from people when they are walking with their trays. If the people she says 'hi' to don't answer her or if they dont give her food, she slaps them. I mean, she's SO rude to everyone. I tried to tell her that it's not nice to slap people and try to take people's food..because it IS their lunch..THEY bought. She just tells me to shut up when I say something to her. I'm not gonna tell a teacher either because it's not a big deal. She just needs to learn manners and I don't know what to do. She's driving me crazy!! She thinks she's really cool, too, but not a lot of people like her. She has SUCH a big mouth! I just don't know how to deal with her---please help! thanks so much..

Give her a reality check. Yell at her if you have to, just so she listens to what you have to say. Just be like "No-one likes you, your rude.." etc etc.

Q: I know I'm not skinny, but I'm not huge either. I really want to lose some weight, but I know its completely WRONG to starve yourself. So I refuse to do that.. and I don't like all of those confusing diets. Is there any way to diet normally without getting complicated?? Help!!

the confsuing diets are there for people who want books, and magazines full of diet information when really all you need to know is 4 words: Eat less, exercise more:)

Q: ok well latly i have been remembering times when i was younger that i did not like at all. my family would take pictures of me when i was in the bathtub.(i was about 10 or so at the time) and i recall one time when my grandmother was scratching my back but went below my pants line and i freaked out,ran away and cryed. my mom said i was making to big of a deal out of it. again when i was about 9, my mom would suggest that i sleep topless in the summer if i got hot. i always thought that was strange. plus my family(including aunts and grandparents) spanked my butt for no reason at all. just when they passed me they would. i dont like thinking that they did that to me, but i was younger at the time and i didnt know any better because i though a lot of famlies were like that. well now i know that they're not and theres also a lot of other problems going on in my house(not sexualy). but is there something i can do about it now that im older and know it was wrong...(is it wrong?) or if i should just forget about it because its passes. oh and i have always felt that i would get raped before im 18...please help me if you can...

You were like 9.. I mean yeah you could sleep topless if you were hott because its not like you were 15 or 16...and had guys in the house..you know? And they spanked your butt for no reason at all probably because they thought you were just so cute:D! its true...my aunt and my mom always do that to my 3 year old cousin...its really not a big deal..dont worry!

Q: I am 24 year old college student and I just spent the weekend with a girl that just moved in across the street she is going to school here. I have talked to her a little before, but this weekend she came to my house and wanted to go hang out. So we did and we had a great time we spent almost the wole weekend together. We watched a movie togeterh she feel asleep and we just cuddled and slept until morning no sex or anything. I really liker her and we get along great, but when she comes over or I go obever there she acts like she doesnt want a hug or anything, but whene it is time to say goodbye. She gives me a long hug and doesn't want to let go but acts like she does't want a kiss so I just kiss her on the cheeck. This is confusing because she still comes around. I though mabey she just did not want to kiss so. The last time she was over I just gave her a hug. Then she came over later and acted different and gave me a half ass hug. This is confusing. What shoul I do?

Ask her why sometimes shes all lovey-dovey and sometimes she's not. Maybe theres a good reason...Just talk about it with her. Good luck!

Q: Ok there are this guy lets call him bob well he likes me... His nice and sweet and kinda cute in his own way but i dont want to be mean cause there is this guy in are class (all three of us have the same class) and he likes me too... Ok that might sound confusing... but Well bob is asking me out tomorrow and i dont know if i should say yes cause i dont want to hurt the other guys feelings... Well please help

Just go out with him if you want to. Even if it hurts the other guys feelings, he needs to get over it..dont turn the guy down because another guy likes you..good luck!

Q: helo it keeps tellin me i gotta inbox (1 new) and every time i clikc on it it says "you have no unanswered questions" what is this and what do i do?!

You didnt do anything, sometimes it does that..so dont worry!

Q: Okay well met this guy on the internet .. and we've been talking for about a year now . and i really think im in love with him ..and we talk about our fellings for eachother.. and he feels the same things for me as i do him ..He has never saw my pic befor .. bur he said it dosent matter if im Ugly or..pretty .. he said all that matters .. is the way he feels .. and he said ..that it WOULD NOT CHANGE anything if i was ugly .. well what i want to kno is .. if i should just cut it off with him because i kno were never going to meet i mean we might .. he lives in flordia and i go there every summer but ..i dont want my feeling for him to get any stronger then what they already are for him .. what should i do ?

15-Taylor-Gender:Female

Internet realtionships are always the hard ones. You dont know if the guy is like 16 or 61. Being friends over the internet is fine...fun to talk to people about stuff and stuff. But dont think about love or anything more than an internet-realtionship. I would never meet the guy, ever! Unless, you have parents with you...And since he says that it wouldent matter if your ugly or not...a sign that he could be dangerous. Just be careful. Hope I helped!

Q: ok i like this guy... ALOT! but there seems to be this little rat face bitch always in my way. and she keeps flirting with him. and i know she is doing it to piss me off. but i dont know what i should do?

Fight for him! I think you should try and go out with him to show her that you cant be messed with haha...you should get to know him more, ask him if he wants to hang out sometime..good luck;)

or you could always beat her up...and make her disabled from the neck down:D

Q: one of my best friends is starting to get really bad B/O. i dont know if i should tell her or not. im worried that if i do she might get mad at me because she is the type of person who u have to b really careful about what u sat to her cause she might like get mad really easily. Any suggestions? thanks.

Yeah I agree with 9th grade. You need to tell her, so shes not embarrased when other people tell her. Just take her aside and say that your telling her this because you dont want her to get embarrased..and then tell her. Then she'll be all fruity and smelling nice;)

Q: Hey I am a 14 year old girl and I really like this guy at school and he knows I like him. He used to like me but I'm not sure he does anymore. Any advice on how to be more flirty or drop a hint that I like him. And how do I figure out if he likes me? Thanks alot!! Ill rate!!

Talk to him a lot more then before, ask him if he wants to hang out at the movies or something..touch him a lot...i dont mean sexually but like you know haha..and it would be easier if you told him you liked him, because he proabably still likes you