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i have been with a girl for the last 18 months and she cheated on me and got with another guy, and on out year and a half anniversary she told him she loved him after knowing him for a week. can she love him? and he dumped her and said he doesnt like her anymore, and i know we cant get back together but sometimes she says i love you and is it wrong for me to say it back, i mean i resent her for cheating on me and breaking our trust and relationship but i love her, help please
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well she cheated on you , nobody's perfect, but if u still love her then qo ahead and stay with her , but if she does that one more time even if you love her say to her kindly that you dont think it's going to work out
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I know people say just move on and all you can think is that they don't know what it's like and you feel like it's impossible--TRUST ME I know!! but you have to try. Sometimes there's something that keeps bringing you back to that person, sometimes it takes getting back together with them for you to be happy and that's fine. but if you never try to walk away, never try to get over it and be your own person you will never know. I don't know anything about you or your situation so there's not a whole lot i can say i guess...but basically the way I see it is; if you really love her and she tells you that she loves you and you feel the same way and you want to tell her--tell her. don't hold back thinking that you're doing the wrong thing, you are the only person who knows how you feel and nobody else can express it but you, so if you want to express it, then DO! Just be careful that she doesn't take you for granted because if you do take her back once for something like that she may think you'll do it again...Anyhow, sorry about your situation and I hope that I helped
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Okay, no, I don't think she could love him in just a week....that probably was infatuation. She was in love with the thrill of cheating...the thrill of being caught. When she says it to you, I think that she does mean it, considering how long you two dated, but I can understand where it may feel wrong to say I love you back to her. But loving someone and telling them you do isn't wrong at all. Telling someone you love them after only a week and being in another realtionship IS wrong and she's in the wrong hun. Anybody could understand the resentment you feel towards her for cheating....I believe it's the most horrible thing you could ever do to a person.
But, you still can choose to forgive her. My boyfriend has done a couple things he shouldn't have (wasn't cheating, it was lying) but I still gave him a chance because I loved him....now this time around...he's actually done a lot better. He's grown up n matured a lot, and now I think, he has values. Your X girlfriend dosn't sound like she has any values, if she's going to cheat on the person she loves.
In my opinion, I think i'd give her one last chance to fix things...have her build trust back. Lay down the law and tell her what you expect out of the relationship, what you expect out of her, and what you expect her to do to earn your trust back. If she loves you enough, she'll work as long as it takes to build that trust between you two again. If you give her this chance and she blows it...then that time i'd say, she has to go. But do consider giving her a second chance =) People make mistakes and learn from them. I mean, if it was you who had messed up, wouldn't you like to recieve a second chance? I hope everything works out! =) Hope I helped!
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This girl is not worth your love. You shouldn't waste time on someone who cheated on you--especially if you've been with them for 18 months!! I would just ignore her because obviously she isn't worth your time.
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okay sweets i had this same problem. my best friend now is my boyfriend. well we were ingaged to be married and he cheated on me. i cant get that trust back in him enough to go back out with him but when he tells me he still loves me i tell him i still love him too but i just cant be with him becasue i always see him with her.i dont think its wrong that you tell her you love her to just make sure you make it plain that you cant be back with her no matter how much you love her. hope i helped. **TINK**
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i noe you prolly herd this a billion times buh thats reallie sad...anyways she CAN love him after a week wierd as it is buh thats just how love works i gess...also its coo to say i love you back wen she says it to you...who noes mehbe she realized her mistake and is reallie resenting herself for doing wat she did too... you can nebe noe unless you gib her a second shot...just let time heal all wounds and get to be reallie close frends agin then if you guys feel up to gibin the going-out thing another try then go for it...ya noe?
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I think if you don't want to get back with her you shouldn't give her any reason to think you will. You shouldn't let her think she can use you. I think you can still tell her you love her, and be honest with her.
It's really messed up what she did to you. Think real hard about how you feel for her overall, maybe you think you love her, but you really don't.
You seem like a nice guy, and she probably doesn't deserve you after what she did. You can't let her think she can just cheat on you and you will always be there for her after it.
-Farren
P.S. This is coming from a 14 (month 'til 15) year old. Probably not very valid. I -think- I'm mature for my age, but that's probably just self-dilusion.
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Its ok to still love her, you'll be loving her until your over her. I dont think she could really really, truly love him after just one week. I also think you guys should stop saying I love you to eachother, because you need to get over her. Her saying she still loves you will mess you up!
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For one part of ur question I dont think its wrong. When i broke up with my b/f I still told him I loved him becuz he was still gonna be one of my best friends and I still did love him. Wat do u mean by u love her? Do u love her [like u love an old friend] or r u in love with her?
~*~kris~*~
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