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Q: will you help me?

i need to know what your question is. What exactly do you need help with. i would be glad to help you.

Q: Im going into 7th grade and never had a bf!
Everyone tells me im pretty and I've been popular and everything at my school. Im even a model!
But I dont brag or anything
But anyways theres this boy I like and I really want to get closer to him. Once he tried to kiss me but my mom walked into the house and he stopped. And now were kinda like friends. Is there anything I can do to get him to like me again?

really you are only going into the 7th grade you have a lot of time on your hands, but be flirty, show him you like him. im sure everywill work out in the end. just be yourself. if he liked you before chances are your mom walking in on him about to kiss you didnt make him like you any less. maybe he is just a little shy. flirt and tell him how you feel. it worked for me. lol. hope i helped. love **Tink**

Q: how do get rumors to go away....i just had a huge ass rumor started about me...but the thing is its true...just not ne more...i don't want my entire scool to think shitty about me over a mistake a made a while back...wat do i do??i rate high

you cant really get rid of rumors, but like when someone brings it up tell them its not true and you would apprecate it if they would stop talking about you. also i just learned something you will be much happier when you learn to not care about what other people think of you. hope i helped **TINK**

Q: I've liked this guy for like, seriously, a REALLY long time, I mean we've been friends for longer than I can remember. A couple years ago my cousin was visiting from another state and I was takin her to hang out w. me and a few of my friends (including the guy i like). Now let me get this straight, I told her how much I liked him and how much he meant to me. Well, they meet each other and they decide that hey they like each other, so they start to go out (yea long distance n everything) and i'm like seriously, devastated, you don't understand how much i care for this guy. They broke up after awhile but i have never really been the same w. my cousin since. about a year after that happened, my guy started liking me, and he told me and so we dated for a few weeks and did some stuff n my cousin got soo pissed at me, and i think that i have a right to do what i please, considering she did like, almost hte exact same to me! even though i wasn't doing it to piss her off, i did it cause i really really like this boy. Well, me and my boy still talk alot, and he says that in a few years (i'm 14, he's 15) he thinks that we should get together again, but he doesnt want to right now, and i understand that. My cousins coming into town this weekend. I have plans to see a movie w. my guy and a bunch of my other firends and my mom told me i have to take my cousin, n i'm soo afraid that she and him will start likin each other again. what do i do.!??!

i dont think your cousin has a right to be mad i mean she had her chance and plus she went out with him knowing you liked him. i think you should talk to your mom about this one. hope i helped **tink**

Q: well its kinda a 2 part question.

Well my aunts getting married, and im in her wedding. me and my other aunt HATE the dresses ALOT. we dont want to wear them at all. what should we do?

And i want to look good in the dress if i have to wear it, and im thinking about tanning and going on a diet of just water and like salad and fruit... but the thing is i dont eat alot. the only meal i eat is lunch and im never hungry. i think its because i dont exercise enough.. even though i play alot of sports and im pretty active.. i dont know what the problem is.

okay about the whole diet thing, if you eat like a piece of fruit for breakfest it will help you loose weight, because your metabolism doesnt even start working until you eat your first meal of the day so if you eat just lunch then your metabolism isnt even starting to work until mid day. so that will help you loose weight, you dont have to eat much just a little. and i dont know how to help about the whole dress thing. hope i helped let me know how it goes. **tink**

Q: Is it ok to flush a pad down the toilet?

no it will stop it up

Q: im not asking a question, but im just telling you that my weekend was great and thank you so much for helping..i made a few new friends that im talking to online now! Thnks so much!

your welcome. im really glad i could help. **tink** if you ever need help again just let me know. ill do my best. **tink**

Q: What age do you consider to be old enough to have a baby. Not like.. "when you feel you are ready" or anything like that.. i mean like.. 16.. 20..

how old do you think someone should be before they have a baby?

i would say when you are financally stable enough to have a baby and you have a relationship that wont end as soon as you tell him your pregnate. me personally, i think you should be completly out of school. so if your going to college then you should wait till you get out.

Q: thAnsz sO much iiL Try iiT . My mom'Sz not SO Bad. moSt of my FriienDsz lOve hEr.. ii loVe her..lol But She lOst her Bf and ii gueSs sHe;s PiSSed OfF sO she qOt upSet . pluSz they wEre reaLly ruDe. they wOuld'nT leave..lol sRry iiM tALkiinq tO muCh . bye nD thAnksz!

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really glad i could help. **TINK**

Q: ok it started when me and my mom were just home doing nothing and my two friends were knocking on the door and my mom told me not to answer , but my frrieds saw me so i told her i wnated to , but these to friends arent my nicest friends ,anyways, before i could even get to the door she yelled out "what do u want!?!?" in a real loud rude voice and they answered "oh we're here to collect a book your daughter borrowed from me" and my mom lied and said "no she;s sick" and went back to her T.v . a f ew minutes later she noticed they were still at the door so she yelled agauin "leave!! why are you girls still here? " and they said "ok fine..sorry!" and they left.but they came and said "listen vcould you just give mne back my book!?!?!" and my mom got really p[issed an dyelled at them to egt away . i was inb tears at taht point feeling so embaressed and ii told her how she embaressed me and all ahse did was scream at me telling me taht i should shut up . i just wnat you to help me find out a way to make her change and not to embaress me anymore . please answer me . i'd appreciate it. tahnk you bye.

okay this one is hard. im not sure you can change the way your mom is. usually parents are set in their ways. when my dad was embaressing me in front of my friends i just told my friends not to come over that if they wanted to talk to me to call or i would come over there and my dad finally got the picture and now he doesnt say anyting embarassing to me in front of my friends. hope i helped. **TINK**

Q: This might be a little long--but I need help so please read it..Thanks!

Well we just got to pick where we sit for lunch and we have to sit there all year. There's 6 other girls at my table, and like 3 are my good friends. Two of the other girls (besides my friends) that sit there are kind of shy, but nice, and I still talk to them. But the last girl..she is SO annoying. She just sat there when we chose tables, and some of the girls like her so they said 'okay' to her. Well we sit where everybody walks by us when they get their lunch and the girl I don't like is always yelling "HI..HI...HI!" to everybody, and it gets so annoying. Then she tries to take food from people when they are walking with their trays. If the people she says 'hi' to don't answer her or if they dont give her food, she slaps them. I mean, she's SO rude to everyone. I tried to tell her that it's not nice to slap people and try to take people's food..because it IS their lunch..THEY bought. She just tells me to shut up when I say something to her. I'm not gonna tell a teacher either because it's not a big deal. She just needs to learn manners and I don't know what to do. She's driving me crazy!! She thinks she's really cool, too, but not a lot of people like her. She has SUCH a big mouth! I just don't know how to deal with her---please help! thanks so much..

well sweets if i were you i would ignore her. like if she tries to talk to you just ignore her then when she asks you whats wrong tell her it annoys you when she does the things she does. she might eventully get the picture and stop. if she ever tries to do that to you then if i was you i would slap her back she deserves it.hope i helped. **TINK**

Q: My family (mom, and Sister and me) just moved away from my older sister and my dad.Well we moved in with my moms boyfriend:(. He has a little boy (11 OR 12) that lives with us and a daughter that lives in North Carolina.(Age 6)
Well Ronnie gets more attention from my mom than she givs to us. My sister is 13 and im 15. Im the oldest. well in that house. Im the middle one out of 9. ranging from 6-25. Everything Ronnie does Kaylie and I get in trouble for it. Im getting sick and tired of his and my mothers and her boyfriends shit all the time. What do i do. I tried talking to them already. Please help.
i never told me mom yet that if things dont change soon and we stop gettin introuble for what Ronnie does, thenim moving back with my dad. ASt least he dont yell at us for nothing. He actually pays attention to us. My mom and Ron just pays attention to Ronnie. Grrr...

Help me plz. I dunno what to do.

signed.. Family Trouble

I think if you will be happier with your dad then you should let your mom and dad know how you feel. you only get one life and if you dont make the best out of it you might regret it. if you dont give yourself the best teen years you might look back and wish thing would have been different. hope i helped. **TINK**

Q: This weekend im suppose to be going out with one of my friends to a different town around people i dont know and people she does know. How can I hang out with them and be cool w/o making a fool of myself. How do I meet knew people..i thhink im scared a little, but how do i overcome that? Does anyone have any ideas of how I can not be afraid? Maybe Im just scared people will hate me or something? Any Advice ? thanks!!

well sweets just be yourself. let people see the real you. dont put on a front and you should be fine. mingle with the crowd and all dont just sit by yourself. let people know you a fun person.hope i helped . let me know how it goes. **TINK**

Q: Well I like this guy lets call him "Shawn", well we have all the same classes except one and well I havent talked to him ever! Please tell me someways to get him to notice me a little more than the other girls in class? (like what do you guys like in girls and such)

Thanks

well sweets. most guys like to see a girl smile. so wear something eye catching. And talk to him and remember always smile. my guy friends tell me when they see a girl frown it makes them think that the girl dont like them. and it turns them off so keep your head up and smile. and just talk to him hope i helped let me know how it goes. **TINK**

Q: i have been with a girl for the last 18 months and she cheated on me and got with another guy, and on out year and a half anniversary she told him she loved him after knowing him for a week. can she love him? and he dumped her and said he doesnt like her anymore, and i know we cant get back together but sometimes she says i love you and is it wrong for me to say it back, i mean i resent her for cheating on me and breaking our trust and relationship but i love her, help please

okay sweets i had this same problem. my best friend now is my boyfriend. well we were ingaged to be married and he cheated on me. i cant get that trust back in him enough to go back out with him but when he tells me he still loves me i tell him i still love him too but i just cant be with him becasue i always see him with her.i dont think its wrong that you tell her you love her to just make sure you make it plain that you cant be back with her no matter how much you love her. hope i helped. **TINK**

Q: hi im 13 and this may sound really dumb, but there is this girl i really like. she calls me alot. i like that. she is attractive, not by that much but still i like the whole thing, only one problem.......my friends hate her, she is a year older than i but she is new (so she doesnt really know anyone else) i get embarrased wen she calls around my friends and make up lies to them about how i feel. help.

okay sweets i think if you really like this girl then your friends should support you. they cant tell you who you like. i mean im sure if they got to know her they might see her as the person she is. and they might even become friends with her too. i think its great that you are talking to her because being new is hard and most new people dont have many friends. hope i helped. **tink**

Q: I know this sounds completely messed up, and might gross u out. but i need help. sometimes when im bored, ill just start scratching my head to the point where it bleeds and forms scabs (very little ones!) and now i cant help but pick at them and scratch them. theres no reason i do it, its just a realllllllly weird habit. i dont know whats wrong with me?! any tips on how i can make it stop?

maybe you can keep yourself busy where you dont get bored. that may help. hopw i helped
tink

Q: Ok, theres this guy. Hes my brothers friend and also mine. I think hes hinting around to us dating, but i can never be sure. Sure, i mean, i like him and all. And he keeps telling me personal shit about him like where he got 'deflowered' and hes always like "we have a lot in common. So far its 'SI Music interests, and..(a bunch of shit) and he has to ask me out, but hes always been kind of..insecure so i think he might want me to ask him buut i dont know! is he hinting around to us goin out or something?!?! HELP ME

if i were you i would hint around at liking him. like if you like him you can hint around at liking him or like write him a letter telling him. that is what i do when i like a guy and i think he likes me to. i usually write him a letter and we usually end up dating. hope i helped **tink**

Q: well im 14 and im not like...ugly actually ppl think im pretty and stuff but thats with make up on...well sometimez it comes off and its just hard to look cute...for me...and lately ive been so unhappy with myself...EVERY gurl i see i want to be..il b like well if i could have her lips id be pretty...i just want like certain features of EVERYONE im so jealous it makes me not have a good time...i just stare @ them..i want ot be them....or i want just ther hair or watever...im so unhappy....wat can i do to stop doing this..and if ur gonna say o think of the good things of urself...i dnt have ne good things..i MAKE them look good...my skin- has freckles and zits...i use make up...my hair...frizzy and wavy-i IRON it with a clothw iron...just everything is fake it seems like...and im stil not that pretty...wat can i do? wats wrong with me?? =(

nothing is wrong with you. almost every girl goes through that. i am still kinda going through it i mean everytime i see a pretty girl i wanna be her but i know i cant. just think your true friend like you for who you are. you dont have to try to be pretty for your true friends to like you. they will like you for who you are.

Q: Ok me and my boyfriend just broke up on Friday. then on Monday some guy i like asked me out, but i still like my ex-boyfriend what should i say to the guy that asked me out?

i think if you really like this new guy and you know there is no chance you and your ex will get back together then i think you should go for it but if there is a chance u and your ex will get back together then i would tell him that i want to wait a while.tell me how it goes. **tink**

bio

Hi my name is Sasha Amber LeAnn Lawrence. I am 18 years old. I will try to give the best advice possible. I dont know everything in the world, but i will give the best advice i possibly can. I am going to be upfront with you and tell you what i really think im not going to candy coat it and tell you what you want to hear just because that is what you want to hear.