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um...is this right?
ok well latly i have been remembering times when i was younger that i did not like at all. my family would take pictures of me when i was in the bathtub.(i was about 10 or so at the time) and i recall one time when my grandmother was scratching my back but went below my pants line and i freaked out,ran away and cryed. my mom said i was making to big of a deal out of it. again when i was about 9, my mom would suggest that i sleep topless in the summer if i got hot. i always thought that was strange. plus my family(including aunts and grandparents) spanked my butt for no reason at all. just when they passed me they would. i dont like thinking that they did that to me, but i was younger at the time and i didnt know any better because i though a lot of famlies were like that. well now i know that they're not and theres also a lot of other problems going on in my house(not sexualy). but is there something i can do about it now that im older and know it was wrong...(is it wrong?) or if i should just forget about it because its passes. oh and i have always felt that i would get raped before im 18...please help me if you can...
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Its only a problem if it bothers you, and if it does then you need to solve the problem..talk to them and tell your family how you feel...im sure they are just playin..but tell them that you are uncomfortable and then maybe things will get better...keep me updated and remember only you have the choice to change things in your life..:*:SaRa:*:
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Okay. I do not think you have suffered sexual abuse in any way - that is, I don't think your family intended anything overtly sexual by their actions. Many families are touchy feely, and many kids sleep in very little in hot weather.
However, you have experienced what it feels like to be extremely uncomfortable. I think you should learn from this experience - even if someone is not doing anything which is technically 'wrong', it's not okay to make you feel uneasy about it. If things like this happen in the future, you need to stand up for yourself.
'Could you not spank me? I don't think it is funny, and it makes me uncomfortable.'
A simple sentence said directly and making eye contact can do wonders.
It sounds to me like you have issues over the control of your body - hence the fear of rape. Start speaking your mind in every day situations...be firm without being aggressive. This will help you gain control over your emotional and physical space.
You might also want to look into taking a self-defence course; they're offered in most neighborhoods. This will give you strategies; if you WERE attacked, you'd know how to deal with it.
I think it's all about being a strong, confident woman...and I think that is attainable for anyone who wants to be that way. You CAN do it.
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I feel so sorry for you. Stuff like this can leave emotional scars for life.
I think that maybe if your family is still like this, or harmfully (mentally or physically) disfunctional is some other way you should get a restraining order, tell the police or something. If they have changed and you can bare it, wait until your old enough and move out and leave the painful memories behind.
I will pray for you hun. Best wishes.
-Farren
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I think what they did is wrong if they knew you weren't cool with it. If you weren't, than it is sexual harrassment. But there is something u can do about it which is, let them know how you feel. You have to be honest with them. Let them know that u are not a little girl anymore. I'm sorry that you had to go through those experiences.
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That is very wrong that they did that because it is sexual harrasment but im sorry 2 say that there is nothing u can do about it now...i hope everything is ok i would go and tell ur parents how ur feeling about that whole thing just cuz they should know now that u think about it u wanna know y they did it and that it made u uncomfortable and if they lay a hand on u and not in a jokin way and u feel uncomfortable about the way they do go 2 teh authorities and tell them...hope i helped..keep me updated....**rate me**
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thats natural I think, they probably did that because they thought you were a cute kid, and I dont think your going to get raped before your 18 or after.
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dont worry bout gettin raped but if u do i got ur back n i will kill someone 4 that cause i hate that it happened to my sister n i never let it happen to ne one else since then but as 4 ur family goes there is nothing u can do bout it now cause it was the past n u cant prove ne thing now but if u need my back im me at aim bubbasparxs420 or if u just wanna taalk or something
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i think your parents still thought of you as a very little girl when you where ten and thats why they took pictures ... i think your dad told you to take your top of because he was trying to be helpful so you wouldnt be too hot at night and didn't know it would make you feel strange . i dont think your family thought of hurting you sexually in anyway . and about the rape thing ... its just a though which most likely will NOT happen
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no...it isnt wrong u whur little its no big deal to sleep shirtless whn ur little it wuld b a way diffrent story if u whur like 14 or sumpin but about tha hitting ur butt..tht aint a bid deal..its just messsign around..ok i hope i helped..i am here ne tyme yah nead me.
x3 always-Jessie-
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ok sweetie..first of all..that is wronge.its sexual harassment by your family. Yes..its wronge..but do they do it now? NEVER feel your going to get raped before your 18..a TON of people feel the same way as you..but they end up having good jobs and great lives once they got past 18..but dont feel like you would get raped..live life to the fullest..sometimes i feel the same way..but i cant worry my whole life...im just careful about where i go or who im with..dont worry i promise everything is going to be okay. <3 always CaLLiE
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You were like 9.. I mean yeah you could sleep topless if you were hott because its not like you were 15 or 16...and had guys in the house..you know? And they spanked your butt for no reason at all probably because they thought you were just so cute:D! its true...my aunt and my mom always do that to my 3 year old cousin...its really not a big deal..dont worry!
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