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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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do you guys think lockin arms with a guy would be considered as cheating on your boyfriend. when the guy you are locking arms with is only a friend?

Not at all!

how would you define cheating??

kissing, sex, multiple relationships, etc etc??

i was juss curious.

thanks!!

I think that all of those things are cheating. If you have a relationship with someone, and take advantage of it with someone else by doing "sexual" things, then it's cheating.

Okay this might be kind of confusing but bear with me please. So at the end of summer last year, I met this guy, Joe, through my best friend, Liz. Joe dated one of Liz's good friends, Grace. They dated for about 2 & 1/2 years and then at the beginning of summer, they broke up. So now its September, and Joe with his friend come by Liz's house, and I'm there with her. So I meet Joe, I knew who he was and about him & Grace and I thought he was pretty cute. He thought I was really cute too. He liked me and all. I wasn't even THINKING about me and him together, the thought of US never came to mind. I felt like I had no chance. Grace (his ex) was unbelievably gorgeous and so much different from me.Well anyways, so we started hanging out. He'd come by more often and we were both very shy. Later I found out that one of the reasons he fell for me was because I was so quiet. But anyways, so we would hang out; play tennis and just hang out with friends. I also got drunk for the very first time with him -- and that's a very goodmemory. I remember how he was so worried about me geeting home and everything that day. Ahh memories. We went downtown by the lake and shopped and everything. Then one day, we were walking, just the two of us, and we kiss. Later on the walk home, he told me about how he wanted to kiss me sooner but that didn't work out cause it was never good timing with his friends and all. So yes, then the following week we would hang out and kiss :) and talked online. He asked me do I see him as a boyfriend and all that and talked about us dating. The next time we hung out, he asked me out. It was perfect. I never met a guy like him. Never dated ANYONE like that. Too perfect for words. It was awesome, the best time of my life. Everything was going great, I couldn't have been happier. He was a bad boy, ditching school, band with his friends, typical guy stuff. But I was always able to count on him. He always chose me over his friends, and even stopped drinking. We went to different schools, and then I started working with my dad, so things got harder. He had his friends drop him off whenever just so he can see me -- it was like a dream come true. My prince charming had come. But meanwhile, Grace (the ex) found out and went crazy. She hated me and my friend/her friend for letting it even happen. She had people watching me and threating me all the time on the interenet that they're going to kick my ass for dating Joe. But I didn't care. My friendshad my back. I remember when Joe was over and I wasn't supposed to have anyone over, and he was over and my dad came home, haha... he ran out the back door and jumped the gate and everything barefoot. Lol poor him left his shoes. He had written me a song and everything, we even wrote each other notes in school. Now back to the psycho ex-gf, well me and her were sort of friends, we just knew each other because of my best friend Liz. She would always follow me & Joe, (she had a car so was EVERYWHERE) and yeah. Then one day, me and joe sort of got into an argument. Me and my friend Liz and some of his friends were all walking around the nieghborhood onour way to chill at this one park. His ex would drive by and stop and talk to Joe's friends. We were with a bunch of friends all walking when these little 12=14 year old were with us and they were talking shit to joe about me and just because bitches and giving me and my friend attitude so I wasn't gonna deal with it and me and my friend Liz turned around and left. He didn't even bother to go after me or call. I regret doing that, I know he must have gotten mad, I remember when I hung up on him, that upset him also. but anyways, so the same day I call him. And I call again. And I call again. No answer. Same thing the following day, Saturday. Then Sunday I call all day. Finallly I try one last time on SUnday night and Grace picks up. And she said he's with her now and all those times he wasn't with me, he was with her. I dropped the phone. It was crazy, my friends wanted to go right over there and beat her up. But I thought about and decided just to forget it. Lateron, I signed online and he was on -- so I instant messaged him. And I yelled at him and everything and then signed off and cried. And cried. I thought I got over him, I was into another guy -- well then he chose another girl over me, and yeah. Then he came back and I rejected him and all that because I'm not gonna deal with someone liek that. SO I really don't even know what I'm asking. Him and Grace have been together ever since. I ran into both of them the other day at a store which was really awkward, he was with his friends in the store and I was with mine. Then they left the store and his girlfriend -- Grace -- and his sister come in. Then they leave and are waiting outside in the car for us. We goto our car and trhey pull up and then she says something and flicks us off and drives off. But anways, I just can't seem to get over him. Its crazy cause this all happened quite a while ago. Maybe its just because he was my first SERIOUS boyfriend? I have no idea what to do... and I really want to believe that one day WE WILLE get back together. I just hope and pray something along the way will happen and we will be together.Like today for example, I felt like breaking down and crying. I went with my friends downtown, on the train. And they were with their bf's and it reminded me how we used to be like that. Last time I took the train was with him. We went to musuems on Columbus Day. Memories :( It was just so heartbreaking. Do you think that we will get back together? People say "THINGS HAPPEN WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT!" and I wanna follow that, because well thats how I met him. I wasn't even looking for a boyfriend. ANd now every guy I look at or my friends want me to meet/date, I just can't. And it kills me because I want to be with him and no one elsre. DO you thinkin it's possible for us to get back together? Maybe later on in life? It was my mistake because I was always so shy and not really OUT with my feelings, and I regret not telling him how I feel, he always thought I didn't like him or anything. Although we dated for only about 2 months, the memrories and the times we had together even before we began officially "dating" ... they mean soo much. I just wish I had another chance. Do you think it's possible for us to ever get back together? Do you think he ever thinks about me the way I think about him? Is there ANY chance of us getting back together in the future?

Wow, so much has happened to you and I can relate to some of the things you went through. You need to stop beaing so hard on yourself because it's not worth it. First of all, Grace was never a true friend. I'm going to be completley honest with you and don't take it the wrong way or anything, but it seems like he used you. Joe and Grace have been dating for 2 and 1/2 years and when they broke up he probablly thought it was over for good. That is a really long time for a relationship. He needed to get over her, so then you came along. He thought you were attractive and he liked you but he wanted to get over her, so he thought that moving on to someone else would help and you just happened to be the one he liked. I'm not just saying this to make you feel bad or anything, but plenty of guys who try to move on do bull like that. He seemed to like you a lot and he had a lot of fun with you, but once Grace came back into the picture, he was back to her because that's all he wanted the whole time. Grace seemed to be very jelous of yours and Joe's relationship and she did everything in her power to break you guys apart, and sadly, she accomplished it. I know that you really want to get over him, and if you can't that's perfectly fine. Your friends just want you to date other guys so you can forget about him and move on, and if you can't, don't force yourself. Take as much time as you need to because by forcing yourself to get over someone is only going to make you feel worse. The memories are the worst things about break ups. Once you start to move on, they flashback and just make you think and you get one of those moments where you just want to break down and cry. If you really need to cry, let it out. Don't hold anything in. Now, crying forever won't make you feel better and you shouldn't do it. He is just a guy and even if he was something special to you, it's not the end of the world. In the future, you will find someone who will be perfect for you. I wish that I could tell you that you guys will be together in the future, but right now it's really too soon to tell. Maybe one day you guys will be together again and happier than ever. Maybe you guys broke up for a reason. Everything happens for a reason and if it's meant to me, things will fall back into place again. Don't wait around wishing you guys would go back to normal and that you regret things. Regreting this is the worst thing. I bet you didn't want to change anything at the moment when you were with him. It's not your fault, it's his. He missed out on a great person like you and he is the one who should be regreting things, not you. You deserve a lot better and just stop making yourself feel bad. You can't change the past and like I said, things happen for a reason. Keep trying to move on. Listen to your friends. Go out and meet new guys, get to know them, flirt, be yourself and just have fun. Stop thinking about Joe and your old memories when you can make tons of new ones with other people. You shoulnd't be thinking about a new boyfriends or anything because you have a long time to "find" one. :]

is it true that an ionic hair straightener doesnt burn the hair as much as a normal one? i need a new straightener and i was either going to get the chi or one called striaght for you. they sell it in the smithhaven mall and it is ionic. which one do you think would be better?

Ion straighteners are really good and every straighteners burn the hair and fry it. Chi honestly works really good and eather one is fine. Now if you don't want your hair to get damaged, get this spray called Ion and on the bottle it will show a hair straightener and it protects the hair from damage and heat. It's only like 6 dollars and it's worth it.

if i run and walk on a treadmill for about 20-30 minutes each day.. would i lose weight and would it help me tone my stomach and legs? if so, when will i see results?

If you eat big porportions of meals, fats, sweets, and exercise for 20-30 minutes a day you won't lose much at all. 20-30 isn't a lot of time on the tredmill at all. I lost almost 4 pounds in a week by walking an hour a day and eating small porportions of meals. I eat a lot more vegtables, fruits, 2 or 3 peaces of something sweet a week and I stick to it. You have to be very motivated to it and walk for more than 20-30 minutes because that's nothing. If you stick to this you will lose a lot more weight and get the results you want. It's not hard. You will see results. If you want to tone your stomach, do some crunches. Do about 20-30 a night and keep it up. Go to www.toneteen.com and it breaks it down to sections of exercises for each part of the body.

wheres the cheapest place to find things to decorate your room
and what in your opinion is the best wall color!
its lime green now ( yuck..)
thanks! i rate 5's

I think that Target has some cute stuff for rooms.

Well, what things are you into. When I was re-doing my room, I kind of picked a theme. Before, my room was lilac and it didn't mach. I'm not a very big fan of having everything matchy matchy, but I wanted to go for something bright so I chose neon orage. Now, my room is very colorful and bright and I love it.

So, pick a theme color. I love bright and bold colors so if I had to re paint my room, I would go for a dark pink color. Also, turquoise, different shades or green, orange, blues, purple, white, are all pretty colors to choose from. Then find small rugs that match or whatever you like. Just use your imagination and the things you like, go for it. Target isn't expensive and you can also try Walmart and Kmart.

this may sound weird but i want my teeth white
and i was wondering what toothpaste you use and if it works! thanks i rate 5's

also any other suggetions would be nice

Crest white strips. They may seem dumb and all, but they are worth it. They don't really make them snow white, but you can see the results.

lately i have been getting heavy distarge right after i get my period. It really smells and i feel wet and uncomfortable. Is there anything i could do to make it not as heavy or smelly? thanks

There really isn't anything you can do to make it stop. It's a normal thing for all girls. To prevent them from getting on your underwear, wear a panty liner. You can get the scented ones so it doesn't smell bad. Thats basiclly the only solution.

so i just started shaveing "down there" and it never comes out like a good clean shave is there anything i could do to make it softer skin and get all the hair?

You should try chaning the razor. Some razors are dull and don't get everything. Make sure you use shaving cream but don't put a lot of it. Also don't shave upward. Shave looking downward.. get it? I don't mean to sound confusing or anything lol. Anyways, after you're done always use lotion.

I have always had girls come up to me and say they think i'm cute or ask me out, and all the girls have had crushes on me. What I want to know is how do I approach girls that i like that might be shy or scared to? I've never had to and i'm pretty clueless of what to talk about and how to tell if she's interested in me or not, unless she has come up to me. I'd appreciate your feedback.

Thanks

If you see girls starting at you and checking you out, go talk to them. Just say hey and the more you worry about starting a conversation, you won't know anything to talk about. Topics come natrually so don't worry about that. If you see someone that you are interested in, go up to them and start talking. Be yourself and don't try to hard to impress them. Give her a nice compliment but don't make it cheesy. Also, don't be afraid of rejection. All girls are different and if one doesn't like you, don't worry about it. Make eye contact with a girl when you are talking to her and show confidence. It's not that hard but you just need to relax lol.

so i had a bf and we were sposed to go out on vday to a really vancy place on vday. as you all know tomorrow is valentines day and he asked me when i could hanh out nd i said tomorrow i guess cause i havent seen him in a while. I didnt even notice it was valentines day tomorrow. I like him but i dont know if I want to go out with him cause Im keeping my options open wanting to meet new guys. But i cant help but like him.

What should I do tomorrow? should I show I like him or not?

Also he still wants to take me out for food this weekend but he says. "cause I wana get some grub."

What do you think i should do? and do you think he likes me or just wants to be friends?

If you like this guy and think he is a really nice person, why do you want to risk loosing your opritunity? You are waiting for someone better to come along the way but it might take some time. Since you like him I think you should give him a chance. If you don't want a boyfriend just tell him you want to be friends and just don't lead him on thinking you want more. You can still meet new guys and everything but if you let this one go you might regret it. You can't really find good guys everything and he won't always be available. He seems to like you and it's really sweet of him to take you out to dinner. He seems to really care and I'm sure you respect that. If you want a relationship, show him that you like him. If you don't then just be friends with him but don't tease him and lead him on because that would be really rude. After he takes you out you might realize how much you like him and have a really good time so just go for it.

What causes guys to get boners? What are they thinking about also? (obviously sex but like what else?)

The best answer you can find to your question is on google.. seriously.

Okay so I masturbate like 3-4 times a week and I like to alot. The problem is, I feel so perverted and gross. How can I sto pfeeling so disgusting? 14-f

It's a normal thing to do and you shouldn't be ashamed (sp) of it. Just keep telling yourself that it's normal for a lot of teenagers to do it.

Ok Im 15 nd having a baby nd will the baby take the fathers last name or mine or is it our choice?

You don't have to pick the fathers last name if you don't want to. If the father is going to be in yours and the babys' life then the baby should have his last name but since you guys aren't married or anything (I'm guessing you're not?) the baby should have your last name but the choice is all yours.

Okay so I have some chocolate chips...i decided i want to make my friends something for valentines day and who doesnt like chocolate right? yeah, okay well i have no idea what to make or what i need to make them (preferably nothing expensive)...I would google this but i'm not sure what tto search for so if anyone knows a website that could help me or tell me what to google i'll appreciate it!! Thanks

Chocolate chip cupcakes.. everyone loves them! Get those really small baking cups that you bake cupcakes in. Here is what you should search for.

Every time I get my boyfriend to have a boner he covers it up, what does that mean? It doesn't bother me that he has one but what is he trying to like hide?

He doesn't know how you would react and he might be embarassed. A lot of guys in his situation would do the same thing so it's not a big deal. Just tell him that he doesn't have to cover it up and that it's not a big deal.

there is this girl at school that i really like. i want to ask her out but i don't know her that much.

what advice could you give me?

thanks

Asking her out without eveing knowing her all that well is a bad idea. Does she even know who you are? First, you need to talk to her. If she doesn't know you well, introduce yourself again and just have fun talking to her. Don't pretend to be someone that you aren't just to impress her. Girls can usually tell when you are faking it. Just be yourself and flirt with her. Make her feel good about herself. Give her compliments but don't use cheesy lines because we just think it's funny and another way of wanting to impress someone. Again, be yourself and flirt and just make her laugh. Ask her to hang out. Ask her if she wants to go see a movie, or whatever you guys have in common. For Valentines Day, give her a cute little card that just says Happy V-Day. You're really amazing .. something like that. It doesn't have to be those words, but just give her something little .. like a card to show her that you like her and that you thought of her. Good luck with everything.

hey i'm a guy and have a girlfriend, i love her and everything. i was wondering...i havn't asked her yet, but would it be a bad thing if i sent valentines day cards to my friends that are girls? some of them i'm really good friends with and i wouldn't want to do it if it offended my girlfriend or let her think the wrong idea. should i just ask her about it, or am i over-analyzing things? i am getting my girlfriend a gift, but would it be wrong to send a few cards to my friends as well? what do you think, thanks in advance.

It would not be bad at all! You should tell her about it so she doesn't get the wrong idea. When you write the cards to your friends, just write happy Valentines Day ____, have a great one, Love ____. If she really was a good girlfriend she wouldn't get mad and she wouldn't care that you would do that. She would understand that you have really good girl/friends. Just tell her so she knows but anyways, I think it's a really cute thing to do. Your friends will appriciate it.

Hey guys! Well I need a foundation what kind is the best kind? tell me the name and if you can maybe you could find a picture on google so I can see how it looks like and what to look for! Thnx I'll rate!

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I personally think that Clinique foundations work really good. They are a bit pricey bit it's worth it.

http://slimages.macys.com/is/image/MCY/products/1/optimized/65511_fpx.tif?wid=250&fmt=jpeg&qlt=100

Another good one I like is Lancome Paris.

http://www.getlippy.com/graphics/gallery/lancomefoundationweb.jpg

And last, Cover Girl foundations are really good. Find the one that you think will look best.

Has anyone here ever heard of the band Panic! At the Disco?

Yes I have and I absolutley love them. They sound just like Fall Out Boy. :]

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