Alright, so me and this guy have been best friends for years. Two years ago we tried dating. It was good but we split after 4 months because we were recently 16 and didnt have the means to get together other than school and extra-curricular-activities because we lived 30 minutes apart. In the sense that we still liked eachother but why make ourselves upset over something stupid. So we went back to being friends. A few months ago the feelings I had been repressing for 2 years started to come back, and very strong I might add, because we had started talking alot more like we used to. I decided to tell him and he said he still felt the same as well. The thing is, I have left for university and he is still in his victory lap (grade 12 a second time) meaning that we now live 5 hours away from eachother. He still thinks that the distance will screw us over again but I think that we could make his work. I tried telling him that this could be an advantage for us because of our distance. In the sense that we both have alot of stuff to do and most couples break up because they have too much stuff on their plate between school and jobs and they ditch the gf or bf, and this way we could balance it off to my once a month trip back home and his here. On the other hand I'm not quite sure he completely understands how I feel about us; he makes it seem like he thinks that I'm just saying all ths because I want a boyfriend. The thing is, I don't want a boyfriend, I want him, and only him. I am too afraid to use the L word because it might freak him out a bit if he does think that. Also, he mentioned that "I couldn't like him because we never really did anything" meaning couple like, alone stuff, because we really only hung out at school and such. I don't understand how not having done anything like that together implies that I can't like him that way. So at this point we're in the stage of figuring out if this long distance thing could work. I think it does but I need to let him see that. That is where I need your help and opinion, as well as a different perspective of the situation.
Firstly i must say, Im a non believer in long distance relationships. Probably because i love the closeness and the kisses. But thats up to you. It is never good to try and convince someone a relationship will work if they think it wont. Try being friends at first and catch up every now and then and see what happens. Tell him that you'd love a relationship with him but if he's not keen for it you'd be more than happy being great friends again. Who knows, you may be destined for eachother, but just not right now.
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Heey. I'm 16 yrs old and a jr in HS. Ok so I met this really cool guy when I was in the 6th grade and we went out on and off throughout these years. Its crazy I know. We barely used to see eachother before but we recently got backtogether on november because he told me he loved me and I was the only one. So the last time we hung out was a week ago he took me to a resturant and we had a lot of fun. Then after that he never called me back. I called him lots of times and left him a text but he never wrote back. Then I called him on monday and he answered and told me that he had left his phone in his school and a lot of other excuses for why he didn't get to talk to we this whole week. So then I found out that he had blocked me from aim and he had an away message basicallytalking about a girl that he loves her smile and everytime he sees her it makes his day. I doubt it was about me. And then while we weren't talking that week he changed his mood on myspace to "in love" so anyway when we got to speak I told him to do what he wants to do(this was texting by the way) so I called him and he didn't answer so I texxted him back saying not to ignore my call and pick up but he didn't want to he just wanted to text. So then I said "do what you want to do because we were fine and then you got like this and before we tried it again you said that it wasn't going to be like last time but it is now" and he said "so its over I guess. I wasn't going to break up with you but that's the way you want it" so then all I could say was ok and he never wrote back after that. So I don't understand we were so good we spoke all the time and then we went down hill. And he doesn't even bother trying to talk to me. And before we started dating again he begged me to get back together with him like a million times. Btw we were on and off for like 3 yrs bbut this time he told me he was going to try his best and things will change. But I don't know what to do please give me advice. I've known him for so long its hard now to actually get over him for good and I'm extremly hurt. I know this was long so I'm sorry I'm really desperate. Thanks so much if you read all this.
Im thinking that he really didnt want to break up with you. Send him a message on myspace and tell him how you're feeling. Communication is the key. But dont push it. Just tell him what you're feeling and leave it. Dont call or text till he replies.
Or if it seems like its too much work.... go find someone else.. You're young and you're not going to find the love of your life this early.
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Is it wrong to have a crush on an older celeb if your only a teenager? Im 17 years old and have a huuuge crush on Chris Meloni(detective stabler on Law and order SVU) and Vincent D'Onofrio(Det. Goren on Criminal Intent). they're like 47-49 years old. Is that weird? i mean, my mum has a crush on them too but she's about their age so it isnt weird for her. I also have a crush on Rob Pattinson from Twilight but he's 22 so that isn't strange for me. Am I weird??? :S
Nah, its a harmless crush... I have a crush on Adam Sandler and i think Stabler is sexy... In an older kinda way...
:-D
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ok so i have a lot of scars on my legs and some on my arms.but they are old and have now healed.but there are still the scar marks that show on my skin and it looks bad.and i do have one new scar that is still in the healing process.
what non expensive healing cream or something can i buy at a local store that will get rid of old scars and new scars?
Hey im from Australia, not sure where you're from or if you can get it where you're from, but i have scars and stretch marks from having my daughter, and i use BIO OIL that i can get just about anywhere for $14. Works wonders!
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so I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he eats me out and fingers me all the time but i haven't really given him a hand job or a blow job. I have touched his penis and licked it though. I just get really nervous when I'm about to and i dont know whats wrong with me. Any advice on how to give him a handjob or blow job and how to calm my nerves?
Its just nerves, that will go away with time and experience. I used to get really nervous when i was first becomming sexual so there is nothing wrong with you. Ask him what he likes, how he likes it... Just go for it... There isnt much you can do wrong... He obviously knows you're inexperienced and he'd understand if by chance something did go wrong. Just dont use teeth and keep your fingernails out of the way.
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okay so everyone keeps telling me i av ocd and i was curious about this "disease" so i looked up information on it and was thinking it may be possibly,okay so when i was younger i used to count and spell every thing like going down the highway i would count the cones on the side and i would go by stores and had to spell it quick before i passed it and and i would always step over the cracks in the side walk, i find myself still doing these things but not as much im a very very clean person my rom has to be perfect and my stuff is very orderly and sometimes ill pour something and i have to like pour it before the fridge door shuts and i cant have my mirror facing me when im on my bed... should i maybe go get this checked out or am i being paranoidid?
I think you might have a mild case of OCD. But if it doesnt stop you living a normal life it usually isnt something to be worried about. I had a very very mild case when i was young but now im over it. If you cant NOT do these things and they effect how you live then its probably something to speak to a doctor about.
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22/f So i've had alot of battles between my mother and I. It started when I first got a boyfriend. She liked him until she heard he was my bf. Since then, nothing has been the same. We hadn't spoken for a few months when I first moved out and that was because I left on horrible terms. I did admit to my parents that I have done many wrongs to them, but my mom has never apologized for what she said to me. When I was 19,I found out that my mom was previously married @18 and had two sons who she had to give up for adoption because her ex forced her to.My parents kept it from us all our lives. At first I was angry,but then I felt sympathetic for her being she hasn’t seen her sons in years.The only reason why I found out about it, was because I knew something was fishy with my mom on the computer early in the morning all the time.She didn't realize that she printed this letter and picture twice, but when I looked,it was another man saying he wishes to see her.I couldn't believe what I saw!I didn't know how to tell my dad or if I was even the person to do so.My mom and I got into a fight that night and my dad was defending her so I spilled it!My dad was in disbelief at first,but once he saw that (and the other emails I found),he was very angry.Now that i'm older,my father confided in me on a past that I never understood when I was a kid.This "uncle" we used to see all the time was my mom's other that she cheated on my dad with.Never understood until now!It's a clear picture to me now...All my mom can tell me that day is that it was MY fault my mom was doing the emails and things... Not anyone else, but mine! Did I force her to find a guy? NO! I thought she was content with my dad! I couldn’t believe she blamed everyone but herself.Til this day,she has never admitted to her own wrong nor apologizing to me for blaming me.There isn’t a day that goes by that I hold resentment towards her,but she’s my mom,I don’t want to abandon her either!I live on my own with my boyfriend for the past 2 1/2 years now.I thought things started to get better, but everytime I try to have a talk about things on how I feel,etc, it always backfires and I feel alone in the end.My dad is such a passive person that he doesn’t ever say anything,but rather tells me to leave just to run away from the talk.They do everything for my little sister; pay her tuition,let her live on her own,pay her room/food,everything and she gets to do as she pleases!I cannot even get a moment for her to listen? I’ve turned my rebellion around and shown nothing but respect for them.When I was younger, I knew I was stupid! I have admitted to it and tried to show them that I’ve changed.All I want is for them to listen. Being so young, I’ve had nothing but many crying sessions in my life and I’ve become someone I don’t know anymore.I will admit there are times that I feel life isn’t worth living anymore.I’ve always had my parents,but now,I feel they’ve abandoned me and I have no one.
Your parents seem to be having a lot of problems. Perhaps you should try talking to her some more and if she doesnt listen, make her listen or write her a letter. I've had problems with my mum most of my adult life and now we dont speak at all, but i can handle it. You need to explain to your mum how much it hurts you when she says things like "its your fault she did those things". I think your mum is angry because you spilled her secret, but its definitely not your fault she did it. Thats on her conscience. Dont feel like you have no one. You have a boyfriend and he no doubt loves you.
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where do i stick my penis into her vagina
I dont think i understand your question. If you're asking where to stick your penis, simple... Her vagina. You answered your own question.
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Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been having trouble lately. We broke it off for a bit because we thought it would be best. But now we're talking again. You see, he wasn't the best boyfriend in the world. I mean, he's a great guy...he's loyal and truthful and he really does love me (and I also love him)...but he never did that stuff boyfriends do, all the little things. All the sweet little gestures that let you know he cares. Is that asking for too much? He told me he's gonna try to do some of that, but he can't change his whole personality. Should I stay with him and see if it works?
You cant change a guy and if you tell them to change you might find yourself single anyway.
My ex was the same as your boyfriend, and as much as i asked him to be more affectionate and romantic, he just wasnt like that... And i loved him, and he loved me. But after our relationship fell apart (for other reasons) i found someone who is EVERYTHING i want and more!
There is someone perfect out there for everyone. Im walking proof!
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17/f
I'm a virgin. Is it REALLY that important to lose it to someone you love? I don't plan on falling in love anytime soon. My first kiss wasn't special. It annoyed me at first. My second kiss wasn't special either, but I found the guy attractive and realized that was perfectly fine with me. I'm not about to go have some unsafe rendezvous with a stranger or anything, I'd just like to know.
Ok im not saying go be a slut or anything, but i had sex when i was 16 and i was with that person for 5 years. Our relationship fell apart mostly because i cheated on him because i was curious.
I wish i had slept with more guys...
Not that i regret what happened because i believe in fate, and i love the guy im with now... but i wouldnt have been so screwed up if i hadnt been so curious about other guys.
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For a long time I had a friend who I didn't know so well and wouldn't see very often, who really liked me. He told me he liked me but at the time I really didn't feel the same way. In all honesty, I never thought I'd like him and I told my mom about the situation. I really cared about him and knew that he was really hurt because I didn't like him. So months went by. Then we hung out again, and I felt something small for him that day, but I denied it and tried to make it go away. Then we hung out again. My best friend was with us too but she had to leave early. After that I was alone with him for a few hours. It was awkward at first but we started talking and I felt connected to him. I feel like I started seeing a part of him that I had never seen before. That day I accepted that I liked him and told my friend. So after that we hung out more and I told him that I liked him. I went on a date with him and it was really fun! I mean I was really happy to be with him and everything. So a few days ago he asked me out. But today my mom was talking to me and she brought him up. So she knows something is up with us because we are together a lot now and she basically told me that I should only do something because I want to and not because someone else wants me to. She went on and on and now I'm doubting my feelings for him?!?! But he couldn't have convinced me to like him right? How is that possible? I don't want to doubt my feelings for him but I can't have a boyfriend when I'm not sure how I feel about him. Maybe if I explain it to her I'll feel better but I don't know. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you.
You're attracted to his personality. If you didnt feel that way about him, you wouldnt be able to say all those nice things, like you connected to him and started seeing him in a different light. Just go with it. If it doesnt work then thats that.
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okay so if i wanted to make my down stairs tighter and like smaller..
a) is that possible?
b) is there any exercises to do this?
c) no i'm not a slut by the way.
Thank you everyone for you help!
Pelvic floor exercises. (not sure if the same as the link provided but here goes)
When you dont need to pee, squeeze your muscles as if you do... Hold for 10 seconds, release, relax for 20 seconds... repeat... gradually build up till you can hold for 1 minute and rest for 20 seconds. Dont forget to breathe.
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I am 17, My son's bio father is 18 (John), My fiance is 19 (Nate) and my son is 2.
I am going to first list the reasons why my son's bio father isn't allowed to see him.
*When my son was a baby baby he never woke up with him in the middle of the night he just ignored him.
*I have a police report filled against my sons fathers father for saying he was going to preform a sexual act on my son.
*My sons father made the same comment and called him a BAS****
*We had an agreement of him seeing the baby every other weekend and him helping pay for diapers and milk, etc. and two months came around he never helped at all i was providing food and milk for my son.
*He brought him to my house after the weekend, snot running down his face, his feet were black and he was all sticky. thats when i drew the line. and stopped letting him over there.
*he tried to have his sisters jump me and take the baby the police told me to move so now instead of ohio im in missouri.
Which now he wants something to do with him son and trys to call my phone etc.
I am engaged and when married i want my son to have my fiances middle and last name.
I dont have regrets but is my reasons good enough reasons to why i am doing this to better my son. thank you for your advice!
PS. my fiance raises my son as if he is his own child, plays with him, feeds, changes him, calls him son, etc.
If there is any way your son could be near whoever threatened to perform a sexual act on him i'd leep him as far away as possible!
Sounds like this guy wants to have a child when it suits him. And thats not cool.
Im in a slightly similar situation, in that i have a 3 year old child and a new man... But my daughter loves her daddy to death. So different situation.
Um, i'd say, change your number? But keep his contact information because your son is going to want to know his father one day. But just as long as you make him understand (when he's old enough) the reasons why.
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I've been a lucid dreamer for along time, However I remember this one dream I had about my Grandmother who passed in 2000. I don't remember the dream however I do remember I saw this light and heard a voice that said "You are my grand daughter and I love you"
1. Do you believe the dead can contact you in your dreams?
I absolutely 100% believe in it.
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ok so this is gonna be a long question, so anyone willing to read this long, thanks.
so last night i was trying to go to sleep around midnight, but i was having the worst cramps, you know. the kind that make you writhe where you lay, near tears? yeah. so i went and took some ibruprofen, and then about an hour later a i dozed off.
but after i fell asleep, i had the strangest dream ever. and usually in my dreams, i cant really control what i do. usually, its like im watching myself on TV just do all this stupid stuff. but last night in my dream, i could control everything i do. and the whole thing was really vivid. everything except for the first part, anyways. heres my dream:
i was in my bed. and i couldnt sleep, so i went to my parents room. (my parents' king sized bed is made of two twin beds, since they need different back support.) my mom was on my dad's bed, and my dad was MIA. so i got onto my mom's bed. (at this part, everything gets a little blurry, but i do remember that my dad raped me or did something sexual with me in my dream) and then after that, i go a band practice. (even though im not in band) and i was trying to play the oboe (even though ive never even touched an oboe.) and everyone had to learn 3 notes from a random instrument, and play them in a talent show. and at some point in my dream, i had told one of my friends about my dad raping me or whatever. and i told her not to tell anyone. she said she wouldnt. but when the talent show came up, her talent was telling EVERYONE about what my dad did, and about 3 other secrets of mine. i tried to wave to her from the audience and tell her to stop. she ignored me. i skipped the talent show to look for her. and this little 3 year old was following me around, and apparently she was my daughter (even though i dont have a daughter) and i found my friend and we got into a huge fistfight. her best friend, krista, was standing there watching the whole thing.
thats all i can remember of it. but it really freaked me out, and i dont know why. does someone know what might be wrong? or does someone study psychology and might be able to tell me something about it? thanks so much! :)
I have taken pain medication alot because i have had some bad back problems recently, and i can say that i have really strange dreams when im 'doped up'. Usually i tell my friend about it and we laugh it off...
Maybe its your unconscious mind worrying about life, about your friend... Maybe you have a fear of being sexually assulted by someone you know?? And your dad is the most prominent man in your life so he'd naturally be there.
School is where alot of pressure is put on you to conform and be 'normal' and like everyone else. You'd probably have a fear of being ridiculed and made fun of in front of everyone.
Dreams are usually about our unconscious fears ... or then again it could be your mind going gaga about the pain meds. Whatever it was, i suggest just laugh it off...
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do you personally think its slutty for a girl (age 17 if it matters) to have sex with a guy she is not in a relationship with? ...can you go too far on the first hookup?
There are so many varying opinions about sex outside of relationships. Religious people would "condemn you to hell" but i'd say ... if you wanna... and you're safe... do it!
Just be safe... and my advice to my own friends, is that if no one knows about it, and you can convince yourself otherwise, its not slutty at all.
The only person you need to answer to is your own conscience.
Sex is fun. I say, have fun!
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Okay so me and my boyfriend have been together for over two years,we want to have unprotected sex this weekend. Don't tell me its not safe because I already no all about that. but if we do decide to, what are some major precautions to take. Like I said even if we don't id like the advice for future reference
thank you.
Firstly you need to ask yourself why you want to have unprotected sex... Secondly, if you're even CONSIDERING it you need to go NOW to get birth control. It doesnt work right away so you must not have unprotected sex for (usually) two weeks after you start taking the pill (or others, it varies).
I'll just say, i prefer sex without a condom, but im in a long term relationship and i got my boyfriend tested for STI's before we hit the sack without a rubber.
Go see your doctor. He or she will put you on the pill, and as long as you're taking it everyday you 'should' be pregnancy free... As far as STI's go, perhaps get your boyfriend tested (and yourself so he doesnt feel like you're attacking him) first!
Good luck.
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Hi ive been having this brown discharged an i havent ever had my period and now theres a little bit of blood is this the start of my period? And im not sexually active
by the way im 13!
Thx in advance
Welcome to womanhood sweety! Good luck!
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im a girl, and i masturbated and im completely embarrassed but does that still mean im a virgin?
Firstly, Masterbating is ABSOLOUTELY NOTHING to be embarrassed about. Everyone (almost everyone) does it, and alot of people just dont admit it.
There is two basic definitions of being a virgin.
1- Sex. If you havent had sex then you are still a virgin.
2- Breaking your hymen would mean that medically you are not a virgin.
I believe in the first one. Therefore in my opinion you are still a virgin.
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Hello, I missed my period for last month and I don't know why. I have a steady boyfriend but we haven't had sex, he has fingered me though, only once this month,and that was after I was already late. But when we do those things I always go first and then I do him second, with my pants on and wash my hands.
I'm responsible for my actions and the dangers. I just don't understand, it does not seem possible, it seems more possible that I got pregnant from a toilet seat than my own boyfriend.
I had messed up my month of birth control, so I only took like a weeks worth. Could that have done something to my cycle? I am also stressed with school.
Is there any other reasons I could have missed my period?
The fact you messed up your birth control would be a huge factor. Also you stressing about it would cause it to be late too. Relax and dont worry. You arent pregnant.
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