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Bestfriends to Dating to Bestfriends to Long Distance Relationship
Alright, so me and this guy have been best friends for years. Two years ago we tried dating. It was good but we split after 4 months because we were recently 16 and didnt have the means to get together other than school and extra-curricular-activities because we lived 30 minutes apart. In the sense that we still liked eachother but why make ourselves upset over something stupid. So we went back to being friends. A few months ago the feelings I had been repressing for 2 years started to come back, and very strong I might add, because we had started talking alot more like we used to. I decided to tell him and he said he still felt the same as well. The thing is, I have left for university and he is still in his victory lap (grade 12 a second time) meaning that we now live 5 hours away from eachother. He still thinks that the distance will screw us over again but I think that we could make his work. I tried telling him that this could be an advantage for us because of our distance. In the sense that we both have alot of stuff to do and most couples break up because they have too much stuff on their plate between school and jobs and they ditch the gf or bf, and this way we could balance it off to my once a month trip back home and his here. On the other hand I'm not quite sure he completely understands how I feel about us; he makes it seem like he thinks that I'm just saying all ths because I want a boyfriend. The thing is, I don't want a boyfriend, I want him, and only him. I am too afraid to use the L word because it might freak him out a bit if he does think that. Also, he mentioned that "I couldn't like him because we never really did anything" meaning couple like, alone stuff, because we really only hung out at school and such. I don't understand how not having done anything like that together implies that I can't like him that way. So at this point we're in the stage of figuring out if this long distance thing could work. I think it does but I need to let him see that. That is where I need your help and opinion, as well as a different perspective of the situation.
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i really dont think long distance relationships ever work because 1. it is so easy to cheat and 2. you get lonely and distant. maybe wait until your both out of college, or at least you are, and see where you end up. college is going to crazy, and you dont want a far-away boyfriend to keep you from meeting new people.
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Firstly i must say, Im a non believer in long distance relationships. Probably because i love the closeness and the kisses. But thats up to you. It is never good to try and convince someone a relationship will work if they think it wont. Try being friends at first and catch up every now and then and see what happens. Tell him that you'd love a relationship with him but if he's not keen for it you'd be more than happy being great friends again. Who knows, you may be destined for eachother, but just not right now.
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