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All I want is to love and have a good relationship with my family...
22/f So i've had alot of battles between my mother and I. It started when I first got a boyfriend. She liked him until she heard he was my bf. Since then, nothing has been the same. We hadn't spoken for a few months when I first moved out and that was because I left on horrible terms. I did admit to my parents that I have done many wrongs to them, but my mom has never apologized for what she said to me. When I was 19,I found out that my mom was previously married @18 and had two sons who she had to give up for adoption because her ex forced her to.My parents kept it from us all our lives. At first I was angry,but then I felt sympathetic for her being she hasn’t seen her sons in years.The only reason why I found out about it, was because I knew something was fishy with my mom on the computer early in the morning all the time.She didn't realize that she printed this letter and picture twice, but when I looked,it was another man saying he wishes to see her.I couldn't believe what I saw!I didn't know how to tell my dad or if I was even the person to do so.My mom and I got into a fight that night and my dad was defending her so I spilled it!My dad was in disbelief at first,but once he saw that (and the other emails I found),he was very angry.Now that i'm older,my father confided in me on a past that I never understood when I was a kid.This "uncle" we used to see all the time was my mom's other that she cheated on my dad with.Never understood until now!It's a clear picture to me now...All my mom can tell me that day is that it was MY fault my mom was doing the emails and things... Not anyone else, but mine! Did I force her to find a guy? NO! I thought she was content with my dad! I couldn’t believe she blamed everyone but herself.Til this day,she has never admitted to her own wrong nor apologizing to me for blaming me.There isn’t a day that goes by that I hold resentment towards her,but she’s my mom,I don’t want to abandon her either!I live on my own with my boyfriend for the past 2 1/2 years now.I thought things started to get better, but everytime I try to have a talk about things on how I feel,etc, it always backfires and I feel alone in the end.My dad is such a passive person that he doesn’t ever say anything,but rather tells me to leave just to run away from the talk.They do everything for my little sister; pay her tuition,let her live on her own,pay her room/food,everything and she gets to do as she pleases!I cannot even get a moment for her to listen? I’ve turned my rebellion around and shown nothing but respect for them.When I was younger, I knew I was stupid! I have admitted to it and tried to show them that I’ve changed.All I want is for them to listen. Being so young, I’ve had nothing but many crying sessions in my life and I’ve become someone I don’t know anymore.I will admit there are times that I feel life isn’t worth living anymore.I’ve always had my parents,but now,I feel they’ve abandoned me and I have no one.
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It's hard to know that your own family is turning their back against you and it's frustrating that it feels like you're in the bottom of the hole. But you can always strive to climb your way out...takes a lot of effort and patience.
Try talking to your family again and if they refuse to listen, take a stand for yourself and tell them that it's THEIR turn to listen to you now. You don't have to raise your voice, but just calmly tell them that the way their treating the relationship you all have now is greatly affecting you and that you're feeling hurt by their ignorance. Be honest as much as you can...it's hard to let it all out to them but it's better to tell your family soon. And if you have to, you can try explaining some parts of it to your boyfriend so that he can be there to support you.
Don't think you're ever alone...no matter what happens, the bonds that keep a family together is ALWAYS there, even if it's difficult to see it and through tough times.
I hope this helped you a little! Be strong and take the stand for yourself! =3
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Your parents seem to be having a lot of problems. Perhaps you should try talking to her some more and if she doesnt listen, make her listen or write her a letter. I've had problems with my mum most of my adult life and now we dont speak at all, but i can handle it. You need to explain to your mum how much it hurts you when she says things like "its your fault she did those things". I think your mum is angry because you spilled her secret, but its definitely not your fault she did it. Thats on her conscience. Dont feel like you have no one. You have a boyfriend and he no doubt loves you.
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