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Im young, so I haven't experienced everything yet, but I'll try to help.
I am 18 years old, studying A levels in sixth form. I've watched all the dramas of school and family life happen around me though.

People say I think sideways... so if you don't mind that ask away.

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religion is a very important thing for me and i was very sure about my beliefs an year ago(im christian). but then i thought about Satan and i get a part of him,i mean he was rebelious,he was different,well yeah he is pure evil,but he was an angel before and he was God's favourite,i think that he was in lots of pain and thats why he became so hatefull and evil,does that make me a bad person or a satanist or what? is it wrong?


- ghostgirl7

Hehehe Sorry about this long answer, but ...yeah:

NOOOOO--- It doesnt make you evil at all! Have you ever murdered someone just cus you can? I hope not, because that would be considered evil!

THinking about it It doesnt make you a satanist, either. Its okay to question religion, its okay to have that point of view! In fact, i see what you mean!

My mother teaches RE and has told me about Satanism. SOME , just SOME, of the stuff they belive in http://altreligion.about.com/od/beliefsandcreeds/tp/9_satanic_sins.htm
such as being an individual, and not bragging, makes total sense, right? Infact, a lot of people would argee, but they arent satanists!
I agree with some of the things Hinduism teaches, but Im not Hindu~

If anything, this just shows youre intelligent. Like you said, He was gods faveourite, he was an angel before- and I think in one part of the bible, he chose to leave, and go against god? And if god is omnibelovent, divine and forgiving as people belive him to be, surely he would forgive even the devil himself?
Some folks say that the devil isnt a person, but a representation of evil- catholics do confessions- to be forgiven for sin.


Anyways, dont worry, to sum it up, youre not evil, youre just using your brain- god gave it to you to think didnt he? :D

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I really want to have sex so if there are any girls out there who want i will

Dude... you need to get out more. This is not the place!

And dont just outright ask, in real life that'll never work! well, with any decent, worthwhile girls at least.

However, search on google, there are probably better suited websites to join for sex.
In fact, there are probably thousands. Hundreds of thousands.
Go, you horny perosn, go away to
https://www.google.com/ ! ! !

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Whats the easiest but pailess way to kill your self, im not going to kill myself but just out of interest i would like to know the most easiest, painless way to kill yourself?

Are you sure youre not going to kill yourself? SURE? FOR SURE? ... I'm not sure if I belive you! we get so many suicidal questions on here, and no one wants to be the one to tell someone how to kill themself and be the advice he follows. That'd be awkward. And bad. Very bad.

However these people can help you talk about suicide, if that is your "intrest": http://www.samaritans.org/

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I really want to have sex but i dont want to get in trouble what should i do

At least use a condom~

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can i cut a zantac in half?

I know a Zantac is a drug for heartburn yes? If not.. this probably wont help, but according to this website you can: http://community.babycenter.com/post/a31267433/can_i_cut_a_zantac_150

...If that doesnt help just google it some more... or ask jeeves :P

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21/F

I'm a pretty outgoing person but I need help with a certain situation. My neighbors at my college campus are 7 guys, and one of them I met was *S*. I was NOT interested in S at all at the time. I thought he was cute, and that was that. I would run into him at the bar and say my hellos and then do my own thing. He even came to one of our house parties and started talking to me, but I was too tired to entertain so I introduced him to someone else and left.

Last month, my date for a date party formal had to work last minute so i was in need of a date pronto. My roommate suggested S (she knows him better than I do, though I wouldn't consider them good friends, either). I had no other option so I said yes and ended up having a great time--except for the fact that I blacked out for a lot of it... However, we kissed A LOT and made out A LOT, and all of my friends said we were very into each other. From what I can remember, he was a great date, and we had great conversation...(though probably after that I was not the best conversation holder). He invited me back to hang out but I declined, we said our good nights and went home.

Here's my dilemma. I am interested in him. This doesn't mean I like him, but I DO want to get to know him more. Unfortunately, we were just on Spring Break so I did not have the ability to see him a lot (SB was a week after the date event)....but that's just it. I rarely ever see him during the week, anyways. I'd occasionally see him at the bar during the year but nothing more. I want to get to know him/hang out with him but I don't want to be weird since I only ever really talked to him after taking him on that event. I'm afraid to text him because I don't want it to be weird...

Just need your guys' advice on how to deal with this! For some reason I'm really shy, and I think it's because this guy is more confident and outgoing than I'm used to!

Well, my friend, it seems this is not so much a dilema as you thought. If he's the one who started talking to you, and he's the one who took you on a date to the party, then he is certainly intrested in you- or at least likes you enough to kiss you!
If you are intrested in him, I would show this by not rejecting him too much anymore. Of course, rejection now and again is all part of the "playing hard to get" game, but since youre shy, I would recommend building up the courage to just text him something like "Hey, whats up?" or maybe even just "yo!" .
If he doesnt reply and start a conversation, its not the end of the world now is it? :D good luck!

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Ok so i like this guy hes shy but hes getting better at opening up. i was planing on never telling him that though, but he recently said he liked me.I was happy,but he said he didn't want to ruin the friendship we had and that was the same reason i also wasn't planing on telling him.I told him that i liked him too.Now we just continue to talk normally on the phone and its still the same but i feel like him telling me his feelings about me was going to be different but its not he just acts like nothing happened so i think he just wants to be friends. i'm going to hang with him this weekend so i'm thinking of maybe talking about this in person because on the phone it makes it hard to understand. Someone give me advice on what to say when i'm with him or what to do stay friends or be more...thanks!!!

Well... you said you liked each other, yes? So maybe give him time, I think he's not going to forget that. But im sure, if you keep talking and being friendly, maybe more flirty, he might come to return your feelings... in time!

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I saw a cat dying today, and it was especially traumatizing since I have two cats, and I get an up close look at their lives. Ever since, my brain has been getting the better of me, and I'm really sad, and can't stop thinking about it. I know these things happen every day, and the cat isn't in pain anymore, but I cannot stop thinking of him rolling in pain and jumping up and down. It's driving me insane to think I couldn't rescue this poor innocent thing. How can I stop thinking about it? I try distracting myself, but it comes back to haunt me. Please help fast!

oh i had a similar thing once. Dont worry it'll go on for awhile longer but eventually you'll think about it again and it wont be so traumatizing. It will go away just keep distracting yourself. If it goes on for like, months, then see a brain doctor....a physcaritris..sorry i cant spell:
"Sigh-Kii-ah-trist"

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okay,so i label myself but i have a reason so none of that please,now my labels are goth,emo,kawaii,loli-goth,punk,and scene but its hard to i guess keep up with,but i act as one of these labels depending on my mood but i kinda just wanna commit to one or two please help me!!!!(im a 14 year old girl btw) oh and i didnt really understand have to subject this question from the list thingy

Hey! I totally know what youre on about~ Hello fellow goth/punk/emo/scene sister!
It doesnt matter, lets be honest no-one can be saftely put into a box. The labels are to help people understand roughly what kind of clothes/music/mood you are into. Even if youre following these trends, you are a mix of all so much, technically-- youre individual! So be proud and continue to stand out. >:D

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i was wondering what kinds of things stay on your record.. like does shoplifting misdemeanor at age 17 stay on your record for years if you never went in to pay $20 for it to be annulled? or would you still need to go in to remove the record officially. if you did have it taken off your record, would it be completely erased?

say they asked for your name when you call in for the police, do they keep record of that? or say the police were called on you once before you were an adult and had a report of harassment filed on you but no action was taken against you... it was just for reports, would that still be there? even if it's irrelevant now?

what sorts of things do they keep on criminal records?

please only informative answers only.

Whatever offence you do, no matter how "small" or "Big" it is, if the police catch you or suspect you it goes on somekind of record whether you are sentenced to jail/community service/fine or not.
It does stay there for years, of course looking back on previous crimes, people will consider your age, status or what drove you to do it... (unless its a murder or a sex offence, then you;ve got no chance of it being "Forgotten" or "Forgiven")

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I really need to talk to somebody about my life. More about my love life though, obviously. I'm not really keen about 'professional' help though. I just want someone like me, going through the same stuff as I am. My friends aren't listening, they're too busy going off with their boyfriends. (14/f) Please??

im 15/f and willing to help~ Just click on the name thingy and send me a message anytime! If not me... then plenty of others here~ "You've come to the right place my friend"

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I'm 15 years old and a female. I am 5'7 and I weigh 145ish Ilbs but I didn't think I was fat. I work out often, almost every day for at least an hour and sometimes 2 hours. I play both hockey and soccer, but mostly soccer. On days i dont have soccer I'll normally run 5 miles. I don't eat the healthiest. But for breakfast I do eat a nutritious smoothie. Am I considered fat? If so, how do I lose weight?

I'm not sure...! You could go online and work out your BMI and it will tell you if your'e considered fat. Im also 15... and I seriously do not do as much excersise as you! If you want to lose weight, keep excersising but maybe get a healthier diet, its a balence of the two that would work.

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how do i get my period faster

what d'you mean? Do you already have your period , has it stopped?
Or hasnt it come yet?
If thats the case, I wouldnt worry, everyone starts at their own time...some people even get to 17 before it starts! Just eat healthily and grow strong- your body will decide when its ready.

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I'm a 22 year old girl.( my question is long but your answer mean alot )

It's about 4 months that I entered a group of friends and I like one of the guys. He is 22 as well and has been so helpful to me and really kind and understanding. But I am so attracted to him especially because it was feeling like I've known him for ages even the first day I met him. We have the best time when we are together and He said that he thinks of me as a mature, strong and kind girl that he likes to show to others. He respects me a lot.
I am a very tough girl in a way and I have reacted to some guys when he was around and he knows no one should cross my comfort zone and flirting is not my way and he also knows that if I get offended that's the end of relationship.

By the way, I've talked to some of my friends about how to show him that I like him and I've suggested to open up with him. I am actually trying to let him touch me a bit or flirt with him in a very subtle way (it's all I could do basically).

However, I see the other girl in the group flirting with him really obviously and touching him without boundaries and being jealous to me. And I know that he is helpful and kind to her as well but he tends to not to talk about her in front of me so I can't say who he is more helpful or kind to. But he has told me that he thinks she is a playful child that he thinks of her as his little daughter!(it's strange because he is 22 and she 19!!)

The problem is that even when I am around he talks about other girls. Also, his friends know about his love relationships more than me (so I don't know if there is anyone else in his mind or not )and I hear random things from his friends or brother, like you're a loser and you have to wait for the girl to decide and him saying that he is not a loser and he is over it. Plus, he never stops the other girl from touching him, instead he stares at me at all the above situations :(

I am really confused and don't know what to do to see if he really is into me? or it's me judging everything in my favor?




hmmm this is a tricky one, but if what you say is really true about the looks and touching, it sounds like he does like you!

I understand the whole not flirting thing, but maybe follow your friends advice and open up. Be more carefree, mysterious, pretty.... ect. and be way cooler than that 19 year old- she seems to obvious and "available" (haha) . Instead of you chasing him, try to make him chase you for awhile!

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PLEASE HELP URGENTLY PLEASE What does it mean when a guy asks what are you up to tonight or what are you up to?
Hey, I went to a restaurant five days ago with a friend of mine. I know a guy that works at the restaurant. When I went to that restaurant I had no idea he was going to be working there at that day. I hardly speak to him and whenever I do, I always ask him to help me out or ask him for his advice. That day he saw me and asked hey, Julia how are you? and I said hey Johnathan and smiled. And I continued talking to my friend. He then asked so what are you up to tonight or what are you up to? I can't remember exactly which one it was but it was one of the what are you up to tonight and what are you up to? I have hardly seen him around and this was after a long time I had seen him but before that I had asked him to help me out with something and he tried helping me out he did not mind. So I just said to him oh just with a friend and yeah. And he was like oh okay. So I would like to know what did that mean? Did he want to do something or ask me to do something with him or was he just asking a question as we were just standing in a line and he wasn't serving he was just behind the counter and then walking around serving other customers and cleaning up dishes from the tables. So what does it mean? Was he just being customer friendly or he wanted to do something or what? How would I know if he likes me and stuff? Does he like me or what? Please help me thanks in advance for anyone who answers my question... :)

Also how can I tell he likes me? And also tell me if he was being customer friendly or what please please please I really do like him but I am scared to ask him about anything and I don't want to ask him if he was just being customer friendly ...... How can I tell him I am wanting to be with him and how can I tell if he is really into me? He hasn't asked me if I wanted to do anything with him or anything like that just that question that I had asked you all to answer me please and thanks :)

There seem to be a lot of questions within this question... sooooooo;
1) When a guy asks "What you up too?" Doesnt
ne-ses-celery mean he totally loves you, but it does mean hes trying to start a conversation and is interested.
2) If he doesnt mind helping, then maybe he wants to be friendly- if you've met him before, he is being customer friendly, but also "friend friendly" cus being that nice to stangers only goes so far, if you get what i mean.

I think you should go over there and flirt. Flirt away-dont seem to eager, dont make it obvious but he'll get the message, and if he likes what he see's, you should be goin out in no time :D

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s it weird that i just want to wear regular panties? all of my friends wear thongs like all the time now and they keep telling me i should to...but thongs look really uncomfortable i dont want anything stuck up my but im totally comfortable wearing my normal bikini panties...shud i try wearing thongs?

You could experiment once with them, but hey, if you dont like em, dont bother!
You dont have to do what everyone tells you, be a strong individual who says "Nah, I like my normal bikini pantys!"

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Well, I was doing pretty good in math,until I turned in the WRONG late assignment. I got a 0 because of that, and now I have a C in math. We just started doing geometry, and I sorta have troubles with it, but I studied hard for my test, but ended up getting a C on it. There's only like eight school days left, and I need at least a low B to get honor roll. We have a final coming up. Any tips for me to pass the final and bring my grade up?

Revise and study till you pass out.
Okay, not pass out- but take it seriously.
I go to a boarding school in england :/ and there they suggest 3 hours studing in the morning, break, and then 2 in the afternoon ~ON WEEKENDS!
of course, no-one acctually does that, but still, the only way to pass the final is to study hard for it and try your best. (Or cheat, but obviously thats cheating. )

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(I'll really appreciate if you actually read this before answering, to really understand what I'm saying. and I hope you won't try to attack me in your response, if you disagree with me. Just let me know what you think in a civil way, as I've tried to be here. I'm always trying to become a more tolerant, and compassionate person, in conjunction with having my Catholic faith)

It makes no sense. Marriage can be recognized by the state, and not by a religious institution. I'm Catholic, and if I wanted my marriage (to a man, since I'm straight) to be recognized by the Catholic church, I'd have to have it be in a church. Otherwise, the church would not recognize it. Since a same-sex marriage would not be recognized by most, if not all, religious institutions, I don't see what is threatening about it, at all. You can't say you're accepting of gay people and their relationships, but not want them to share the same benefits married couples have, in terms of their legal rights. It's just hypocritical. This doesn't affect traditional marriage in any way.

Many traditional marriages aren't even tied to any religious institutions, or if they are, may not even be recognized by your own religious institution (like a Presbyterian couple's marriage wouldn't be recognized by the Catholic church, for example). Not to mention, the countless amount of people who violate their wedding vows, even if their marriage is apparently "rooted in their religious faiths". But despite all this crap that goes on, the concept of a religious, sanctimonious marriage is still pure.

Just like, despite all the human errors Christians (and everyone else) have made, I still believe in the concept of Christianity. And we're not supposed to be assholes to other people for having different views. We're supposed to love and be supportive of everyone, no matter how different they are from us. Everyone is facing their own battle. Focus on "the man in the mirror" and work out your own problems. Yeah, I believe my religion is the best, but I try to show that by being a good person to others. All the Christians who blast gay people and everything give Christians a bad name, in my opinion. There's still a lot I have to understand and interpret about the Bible to form my beliefs on things, but this is the point I'm at now. I feel like God would want us to feel sympathy for gay people, and treat them out of love (since I believe it's a natural phenomenon), just like anyone else facing any kind of affliction. I feel bad for saying it's an affliction, too, since I'm sure many proud gay people would disagree would that, but I can't change what it says in the bible. but that doesn't affect how i feel about gay people. a couple of my close friends are gay, as well as some of my most favorite musicians, that I look up to. It really pisses me off when they get flack over trying to find love, in the only way that makes sense to them. if they believe in god, and are good people, i'm pretty sure they can get in heaven just like everyone else, because homosexuality is just like any other sin people do everyday. but by supposedly "good" christians, jews, muslims, etc. constantly blasting homosexuals, all their doing is forcing them away from their religions, which is ironic, because they're supposed to attract people to their religion

sorry for the tangent there, but yeah. i don't get why religious institutions, especially churches, are getting so up an arms about this issue that doesn't affect them one bit. it's especially interesting, as a black girl, that many churches with predominantly black congregations are extra against gay marriage, because it reminds me of when not too long ago, they were marching for civil rights. to be treated equally in the eyes of the law. so much irony, it's crazy

america needs to wake up. don't want a gay marriage? then don't have one. it's your life, do what you want. so much for america being the land of the free, home of the brave. i'm just proud of obama for doing what he did, and hope that his message helps other people to start evolving on this issue too, as I have been, through the years. It's funny though. I say this, my current views, and yet I'm afraid of offending someone in some way

Okay. I'll be honest, I did not read the WHOLE question here, but I can answer the basics - since this was on my R.E Exam! (98% not bad tho i say so my self! )

Chrisitan marriage is monogamous and hetrosexual. In the past, it was a sin to be gay, because two men was considered unnatural!
Religious marriage is about sex- men and women couldnt have sex unless they were married.
It is about companionship (not necesarily love)
and children. CHILDREN. The ideal christian marriage means the couple are in the perfect situation to have children. In roman catholic church, it is a rite of passage. Since gay couples cannot technically have children, gay marriage isnt technically religious. (i know they adopt)

But i understand your point here- maybe nowadays we should let them get married in a church? Quakers are the only denomination that do!

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I think that I am depressed, but I am only 17 years.old. The reason for my blues is because nothing seems to be going right. My mom keeps grilling me on what career to be: doctor , lawyer, etc. To be honest I don't want to be anything , I just want to sleep. But i am considering French, I do very well in it. But my mom keeps nagging me on my speech in French , she keeps questioning my ability to speak it fluently, in her opinion if I cannot speak it fluently by the time I graduate then I should give up! But can anyone fully speak French or any language by graduation? Then she kept grilling me on my attire, I wear pants, and shirts, but I hate dresses, skirts, and heels! She keeps saying that i should dress more girly?! But girls can crossdress abd still be feminie . I like wearing boys clothes I feel so empowered, but I still like men, I am not gay, I do not want to go to prom, I hate parties! My mom is making me depressed and feel discouraged and confuse on what to do with myself. I keep thinking about suicidesbd death, I feel more insecure and inner demons are driving me insane?! How can I make everything right and gain confidence in myself?

Ignore it!!! Do what you want. You will have a job one day, and there will come a day when you'll find an epic dress that you may want to wear! Just study hard so you can do anything in the future- she just wants you to do well. If youre happy, thats the main thing.
Hey, If you really want to annoy her, just speak in french ALL the time.
~that way, she'll know you can speak french, and it will improve as you go! :D

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There is this girl who has been a great friend of mine for about 6-7 months now. We were basically great friends from the moment we met and everyone keeps telling us that we should date, some are even suspicious that we're secretly having a relationship. Yet neither of us really feels that way, I can't be sure about her but there were times when I thought that "hmmm, maybe..." but there was never this 'little push' that makes you actually fall in love.

We all know the stories of two people where everyone knows they're in love but themselves. Those stories got me thinking...

I mean, have any of you been in this situation and what happened then?


When we are confronted with it we both react kinda awkwardly, it's never like "Ewwww.no" but more like "why does everyone think that?". She also told me that "She didn't know what she was missing" when the girl I liked said no (A couple of months ago) . But of course she was just being nice.

yes, yes I KNOW what youre talking about! This is where you should think it over a LOT.
If you dont like her that way, and she's the same, dont go out. If you break up it will ruin your awesome friendship!
If you do eventually find yourself falling for her ^_^
try some obvious flirting and see what kind of reaction you get. That will help you see if you should ask her or not.

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