14/f
well i like my friend as more than a friend and we are like pretty close. he's bi and more into guys than girls. but i guess that means he could still like me haha. so i was wondering what i can do to make myself seem more attractive. we're like super close but i think the thing keeping us from being more is that im not exactly like girly or cute. im more like average kinda scrufy looking haha. i guess the real question here is how do i make myself more hot? i think that maybe if i cut my hair shorter and maybe wore skirts here and there i could be more girly. plus im tired of being a tomboy. its like im hiding behind my appearance because im scared of being myself. i think its time for a confidence boost =]. ok thank you
Wearing short skirts does NOT equal confidance. Actually, it screams insecurity and a lack of understanding of how the world works. Becides, if he's more into guys, that's probably the reason he doesn't like you that way. You are NOT a guy, and dressing more girly isn't going to make him believe you are one. I have no idea where your logic is coming from.
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okay sorry this is so long,
i met my best friend jess now 4 years ago. best friends since with only a few fights here and there over stupid things.everyone knows we fight then are best friends again. well 8months ago she found this kid and fell head over heals for him. he was a jerk to me and i started being one to him and i hated him and i told her that many times. well we started fighting more and more like once a week over things all leading back to her boyfriend and stuff. now its been almost a year and she has been changing more and more. she used to be the perfect best friend the one everyone dreams about. now she couldnt be worse. lets just say i have a 34 just about c cup and the friends she invites over are pervs and well they somehow started grabbing my boobs, it didnt really bother me for some reason but it bothered jess. the other night she had 8 guys over and all of them were on me i couldnt do anything it was 8-1 but she FLIPPED out. friday night there were a few people over and one of them wanted to play spin the bottle for whatever reason and (before everyone got there she got mad at her bf because he got grounded but was able to go over that night but he was with his friends so she was like oh im gonna flirt so much tonight and said it again when we got home) well she didnt play and was by herself so i was like jess come play! and she started screaming at me in front of everyone! well that was it she was pissed at me all ngiht. so last night she imed me and i had been ignoring her in school not that i see her much but i didnt even look at her whe i did. and we got into a major fight, she was saying im turning into the typical "freshman sluts" and that ive changed and my morals are messed up and that i care more about the guy next to me than my girlfriends (totally not true i could care less about the guy next to me) none of that was true at all! all that stuff is true to her like shes becoming the slut and cares about the guy next to her. not me, everythign she said about me was what i would say about her!! shes losing her good friends shes had for years like me and she doesnt realize it, ive tried talking to her but she doesnt believe me and other people have to and it ends up with us fighting. i dont know how to change her back since i cant talk to her. i just wasnt o have her and her bf break up and get things back to normal
Okay, you need a major reality check. You are being a horrible friend, on many levels. Let's just start with the part where you said your friend is a slut. That is just plain wrong. Her having a boyfriend doesn't make her a slut. Actually, having a boyfriend is perfectly moral and accepted in our society. However, letting eight guys on you at once, letting random "pervs" touch you and playing spin the bottle and then flaunting it in your friend's face, well yeah, that's just plain messed up. It's obvious you are jealous because your friend has an actual relationship while you are being used as a squeeze toy. To be honest, that's your own fault. You deserve much better than what you are accepting from guys. As far as her putting her boyfriend above you, that is probably a wise decision, given the fact that you are acting so immature.
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I would just like some tips on simple ways to win guys over.
If you want to win guys over for a long period of time, then no "flirting guide" is going to help you. Just get to know them. Become friends with as many guys as you can. If you want a quick fix, then by all means, pick up the guide.
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I know...its long, but PLEASE HELP!!!!
Okay...I dont know what to do. Im really really really into this guy, but I dont even really know him. He was friends with my ex and i added him on myspace. We only talked once on myspace and thats when he asked me who i was and we sent a few messages back and forth sayin what we were doing. but after that night (two or three weeks ago) we never talked again. Im always thinking about him though. I even had a dream ((no joke)) that he asked me out last night. Its getting crazy. I've never even heard his voice before. I see him around school all the time though. I know its all just lust but I feel like Im really in love with him. I've had a crush on him (if thats possible) since I first saw him based on how extremely cute/hot/sexy he is. && I've talked with friends who are friends with him and they say hes really nice and everything but hes kinda shy. Hes exactly how i pictured my "perfect guy" to be. I really want him to notice me but we have no classes together, and we never talk on myspace and I always get so nervous when Im the one to break the ice with someone, and honestly i dont know how. I dont know what to do. I know i should get over it or do something about it but I cant. Im just stuck with these feelings and I hate it. Please....any kind of advice will help...anything. i really need some help.
Yes, you should get over your nerves and do somthing aboout it, but if you can't I don't understand what you want advice for. I can't magically make anything happen between you and this guy. If you don't go for it, nothing's going to happen. Simple as that.
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I'm one of those people who used to ALWAYS say what was on their mind and it always got me in trouble. now, i don't do that at all anymore, i learned my lesson. however, it's starting to be too much to hold in. like, i keep slipping up and speaking my mind, and sounding like a bitch and im starting to have those slip-ups like..everyday now. i just can't hold all this stuff in. when i say stuff i mean like feelings towards others and you know, stuff like that. like when i have a problem with someone i try not to say something. but lately i have beens aying something and im looking like a bad person all over again.
do you have any tips on how i can keep things in, without getting stressed over too much stuff kept inside?
If saying something is going to get you in trouble and you say it anyway, it's obvious that you are craving attention and don't care if it's given to you in a negative form. Try finding more positive ways of getting attention. You know, try making more friends; try talking to people.
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Ok im 14/m, I moved to Hudson Quebec yesterday. I guess I like it. But if I want I can move home to Fredericton any time I want. Ok there is a Girl I like there and she likes me and we talked about me maybe moving back. And she said "Dont move back just for me, you wanted to move, you wanted to meet new people" and she is blaiming herself for me wanting to move back. What do I do? I no she likes me, but do I move back and make her mad, or do I stay?
She wouldn't be mad if you moved back, and you know it. That being said, you should probably stay. This move could be the start of a great expierience for you, and you havn't really given it the chance it deserves. Try sticking it out here for at least a month. If you still feel like moving back, that's when you should leave.
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well this will be long im sorry but its love okay? ok so i've been going out with this AMAZING guy for the past two months (2 month anniversary on 8th August) and we really love each other...he's really tall and sweet with curly brown hair...ohhh, i could go on n on i'm so in love with him =) but dats not da problem
You see, my normally perfect friends absolutely DETEST him... and its wrecking my life... but let me explain the whole story okay.
in the sixth grade (we're in the ninth now) my bf, say john, was very very popular and was like one of the biggest jocks around school and was considered really really cool and dated all these popular girls. Then he had a stroke (i know i know, so young, i cried for hours after i heard this it was so sad...) and was admitted to a hospital, fighting for his life. The doctor performing the surgery went all oversmart and tried to experiment on an eleven year old kid and messed about with the equipment and even though he recovered the messing about left him paralysed in the right side for a couple of months...he's fine now of course except he has a slightly deeper voice but back then when he came back to school everyone just began ignoring him...you knnow, the way those popular people generally act...and it was like suddenly they didn't even know him anymore and he sort of became, well, NOT popular. They talk to him of course but only with a sorta pity and the girls treat him like dirt (only the popular ones he dated). And all the people who were jealous of him when he was popular are really mean to him nowadays...so anyway I joined the school last year and he's had a crush on me since last year and we've had a complete fairytale story... until now of course...my friends (only some, the really close ones are okay) are being total bitches and dissing him and no matter how brave i am (i stood up to a group of twenty all alone!) and how much i tell them he's nice they wont listen...all they care about is his popularity and i'm beginning to hate EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM for it. And i'm the type who'll die for her love and stuff but its just so sad...i mean am I the only person with a heart in this school? or should I break up with him to please my friends? Please dont give one line advice...you understand i'm gonna need a lot of it...i really cant stand it anymore... help, please!
oh and did i mention that i'm totally in love with him and he sort of cannt go to sleep without hearing my voice (likewise) and i think i'd die if i cant tbe with him...but then i'm dying this way too... HELP!!!
I cannot believe you would even consider breaking up with this guy. No, things aren't easier and no, they probably won't get easier. People are mean. People are jealous. Everyone's playing one huge game of tug-of-war, trying to gain the most friends and leave everyone else alone. Why do you have to play along? You SHOULD be mad at your supposed "friends" for acting like such spoiled brats. You are allowed to be happy with your boyfriend. Next time they make fun of him, instead of defending him or talking about how nice it is, look your "friends" in the face and tell them that believe it or not, you didn't ask their opinion.
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17-F
ok so a few months ago i hooked up with this guy, [yess we had sex] but we havent realy talked since. and now im like dating his friend which is all perfectly fine and going great..but i have this strange ackwardness around the other guy[the one i hooked up with]. like when i hear his name or when i see him. and i go to school with him so i see him quite a bit. my question is why do i feel this way?? i just want it to go away. i hate the feeling! and also how can i get rid of it. help if you can. thnx.
I don't think it's possible to get rid of the awkward feeling, because it's an awkward situation. You had a one night stand with this guy, and now you see him all the time. Not to mention that you are now dating his friend. Ughh, yeah you're just going to wait until the feeling goes away on its own.
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does anyone know a song about a girl who's in love with her best friend?
"If We Were a Movie" - Miley Cirus
Don't be fooled by the fact that the singer is a Disney channel star, this song is brilliant. The words are beautiful and it expresses what you are talking about perfectly.
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my boyfriend is losing interest after about a year, he seems unhappy and were always bored can you help me? ( yes we are sexually active)
Tell him you are concerned that he might not be interested anymore. That way, if he isn't interested there's no beating around the bush and you'll hear it straight up. But, more likely he is that he is interested and just doesn't realize he's hurting your feelings. In which case, he needs to know that you are feeling neglected.
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I have a crush on this boy at school hes in 2 of my classes. I think hes new because its the frist year i see him. Anyway hes like a football player and I dont even know his name. He quiet and sits al the way in the front. Any way so How do I talk to him? what do i do to catch his eye. We dont know or hang with the same people so none of our friend know each other. What can i do to get a conversation started with out looking like a complet fool.
Just keep your eye out for oppritunities to talk to him. There will be some.
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Alright well I like this guy , and I always try to find a reson to talk to him.When should/what should I say to him ? He's the loud type , so ussually I just comment/ask about something he yelled/said loudly.He's also pretty smart , could I ask him for help ? he sits 1 desk behind me. in English / homeroom / math and 3 desks in front of me in History.I don't know what to say to him on msn.this is the typical convo :
me: heey .
him:hey
me: whats up .?
him: nm u?
me: nm just [what I'm doing]
him: ic
Then I'll just bring up something , or ask about homework / school. and sometimes he'll talk like crazy but most times he doesn't.What should I talk about ?!?!
Just say whatever comes to your head. Even if you end up saying the stupidest things, at least he'll be ammused. Becides, time is of the essence. If you like this guy, go for it.
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God me and my mom dont agree on anything
Whenever were out together, we argue about everything. Even when she tries to be nice it seems like shes trying 2 make me feel bad. I just hate being around her. And its so horiable. Shes my mom fo gods sake. Wer not suposed 2 be like that. Wer suposed 2 agree on somthing. Anything involving any sort of opinion we fight about. She dosent agree with anything i think. It makes it so hard 2 be around her. Help me please. How do i fix this?
Shes unwilling to admit we have a problem. She just laughs and apologizes and tries 2 cover it up.
13/F btw
Other than trying to avoid conflicts, there's nothing you can do. Just be nice and respect her opinion even if you don't agree with it. You are two different people, there's no reason you should be thinking the same way as each other.
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Okay people I hang out with, just like companions are **joking** about me and its pissing me off.
They talk about my weight(yes im fat) my neck (which is black) and if they'd go out with me or not. Yeahh there guys. They also do it to my BBF Becky. But shes not fat and doesnt have a black neck... they said they'd go out with her if she was skinners blonde and has less achne. But the main person who does this is a gorrilla!
Im tired of it! I have anger management problems I dont know how to conduct my emotions in a good way and the next time he or any of them say something im gunna haul off and smack a HOE! They get all surprised when im upset.. and im tired of them acting like im not even there.
Ive tried breaking away, but they fucking fallow me! Just like moths to light!
Err anything would be good, because I dont want ISS..
Don't let people talk about you badly, EVER. You should get mad at them; they deserve it.
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okay. this could get a little confusing. I liked this boy (were calling him L) well i liked L and he liked me back. WE liked eachother all over the summer but never hung out because something would always happen. THen at the beginning of the school year i saw him at the scrimage game and he seemed pretty excited to see me. Then we were supposed to hang out the next weekend and we never did. I have barely talked to him since then and we are in about our 3rd month of school. NOw their is this other boy (were calling me E) when i met him he was going out with best friend. BUt they broke up about a year ago and he cant stand her now but he likes me. and he likes me alot. he tells me all the time how he wished i would just give him a chance and i just dont know if i like him that way. and i'm scared of going out with him would make me loose L..even though i dont think i really have L anymore. I am just so confused on what to do.
any help will be amazing ! =]
You don't have to decide now. The worst thing you can do is to make a rash decision. Just be honest with both of them. Which one do you like more? If you like L more, ask him what is happening between you straight up. You need to know what's going on. If you like E, stop being afraid and go for him.
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Okay, So I really like one of my friends. He use to like me then basically out of no where stopped liking me. I can't help but still like him even though he got my hopes up and then crushed them. Me and him are still friends and like I'm scared to go out with another guy because I would dump anyone for this kid. And a little part of me is wondering. 'what if I go out with someone and then he likes me again' I don't want to hurt someone because I'm stupid. But I also want to get a b/f to get over him. But all the guys that like me I don't like.
I don't know what to do.
help!?
If you don't like anyone but him, the answer is obvious. Don't date anyone. You don't need a boyfriend. Why would you want to date somebody you don't like?
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Ok my school is having homecoming soon and I don't have a date. There is this one guy Jack but I don't think he has enough courage to ask me. But his older brother Mike and I are friends and he said he liked me but I don't really like him back like that. If I asked him to homecoming do you think he will get the wrong idea?But maybe I do like him a little. But I have heard that he lies but I am still good friends with him and I don't think he has ever lied to me. What sould I do if he asks me out? What if Jack is going to ask me? I would rather go with Jack. O please help!
Ask Jack yourself, as soon as possible. It's better to just be direct in these situations.
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me and this one guy like eachother alotttt!
heres the story..
we liked eachother
but he has a girlfriend and she was the most horrible girlfriend to him so they broke up
and he started to like me and we went out
it was amazing but we fought way to much and he got mad at me just caue i would like talk to guys and i got sick of it cause i have a right to jsut talk to guys not doing anything else
so i broke up with him
and it was a mistake and then we still liked eachother then he went behind my back and went out with this other girl and we like hated eachother but i still loved him more then anything
then he broke up with her caue he wanted me back and no here we are.
he tells me everyday how much i hurt him and lied to him ad broke pormises.
and i admit i did
but hes over exsaderating (sp? haha) and i know ididnt hurt him that much
he is a very emotional person and i really want to prove to him that i can do it and keep my promises and be trusting
can anyone help me?
sorry if our story is confusing cause it is but like i just need help on earning my trust back and so we can maybe start something again because i miss him more then anything and love him so much.
thanks! :]
It's obvious that you are well interntioned, but if you want to get back together with him, you have to actually be there for him. Liking him isn't enough. It doesn't matter if you didn't hurt him "that much", you still hurt him. You don't date someone and flirt with other guys. You just don't. You don't lie to the person you're with. You just don't. From what I read it sounds like you would do the same thing again. You keep blaming your mistakes on him, "he's exagerrating", "he's emotional", etc. Maybe if you started taking responsibility for your actions he would have reason to trust you.
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Okay, I myself being a columnist hate it when there is more than one question to be answered clumped into one question. So, anywhos, I'm asking it as a separate question.
I'm 15/f(Sophomore). Bob and Betty are 16/f (Juniors) I met Bob through Betty and Betty and I are really good friends. Betty doesn't have feelings for Bob. Bob used to or still does have feelings for Betty. Bob just now, though, said he likes me as in like me, like me. And I told my friend to tell him that I was neutral (or at least I hope it sounded like I was neutral. Or at least it didn't sound like I didn't like him)
I'm pretty sure that I like him. It's just that I'm really worried about hurting him or damaging our friendship. I'm basically an emotional wreck with a 100lbs of mess and trouble hooked to the back of me. I really do want to go out with Bob, which is hard to do seeing that my mom doesn't like Bob and that he goes to another high school. But our school has a lot of events Bob can come to...Anywhos! Back to the point. Should I take a chance with Bob or just I don't know. Tell me what I should do. I really don't want to hurt him or the friendship but I know that in the end, nothing good ever lasts. And I don't know. I like him. But my fear of hurting him/friendship prevents me from letting me get in a relationship with him.
I don't know. Help?
If you're confused, help me help you by asking me to clarify parts your confused on. Thanks =)
Bob sounds like a good guy. The fact that you are already friends is a bonus for your relationship; there's actually more chance things will work out because of it. Don't be afraid of loosing him as a friend. He likes you. He isn't someone who's out to loose you. Even if you dated and then broke up, you could still be friends. It would all depend on what you want. Don't reject Bob for fear of being rejected by him later.
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ok I don't usually do this but i'm soo confused and could use advice from people who don't know him or I and are impartial.
Its really long but please anyone who can take the time to read this you dont know how much id appreciate it.
Ok so i've been dating this guy for 3 months, though 2 years ago I went out with him for a year and he was my first love etc. When we broke up the first time cause he was AWFUL to me I never thought i'd speak to him again but something brought us back together and I cared about him so I gave it another shot.
At first when we were together, he was sooo cute with me. He basically adored me. He'd call just to say hi, he was always telling me how much he liked me like every 10 seconds, He had really grown up since the last time we went out and we adored each other. He made me feel SOO wanted. Problem was we live an hr and a half from each other we both work ALOT (full time, and I have a second job and hes also in school)There was also the possibilty I was moving, and he was going away to school and he told me hed follow me wherever I went.
Then we went down the shore together for a few days to my favorite spot on earth (Were both 20 btw) and hed been hinting that he loved me and that he wanted me to say it though I really wasn't sure I loved him. I loved how he treated me, but when we were on the boardwalk I was so enthralled being with him and being at my favorite place, a place I have ALOT of great memories and I prematurally told him I loved him, partially cause i loved everything about where we were, partially because I thought he wanted to hear it. He didn't say it back which really threw me off since hed been the one hinting at it and kind of pushing it.
After that within weeks he started school and instantly kinda pulled away. Mind you, he is a full time student, works almost every night etc. But he also stopped telling me things like he misses me, and he likes me, and I only tell him I love him when its kinda forced cause I feel bad like taking it back I guess. Sometimes I feel like I have to force him to see me. At the same time I have had ALOT of family problems. My dad basically outright showing he doesnt give a shit about me, my family declaring bankrupcy, I have to move out of the house I lived in all my life, I cant afford school etc. and he is just adding to it by making me so unsure. I bring it up all the time and he swears he cares about me and wants to be with me but he doesnt act like it. At the same time though Ive given him EVERY chance to break up with me and he hasnt. Even tonight, i asked if he thinks we'll still be together at christmas and he was half asleep but said he hopes so and doesnt see any reason we wouldnt be.
My best friend thinks he is just scared of how much he cares for me so hes pulling away to test me, but Im not sure if i agree cause he gets soo annoyed when I question how he feels and doubt him. She also suggested that he may just be so stressed by work and school he doesnt even realize how much he has pulled away,
My mom thinks maybe he is unsure how I feel since I told him i love him now dont say it anymore, and he is afraid to really ask me about it. And he stopped telling me he liked me cause he loves me but doesnt know how to say it being unsure how I feel. She also agrees that hes busy and probably doesnt realize how much hes upsetting me.
Part of me thinks I should just stop answering his calls and texts for a few days, give him some space, stop asking to see him and ask wait to see if he asks me etc, but I dont have willpower and keep being scared to. Does anyone think thats a good idea?
Anyway basically I need to know what other people think, and any ideas they may have, i HAVE tried to talk to him and he basically thinks im being rediculous but like every day i have a new reason to doubt him and a new question to ask him and I MUST be driving him nuts cuase Im driving myself nuts lol. Im not usually this nerotic, and if he broke up with me, sure id be sad...but honestly all guys are replacable lol I just DESPISE being confused and not knowing whats going on
Your best friend is absolutely right. Many people pull away when they start really caring about someone. A lot of people don't like getting too close for fear of being hurt. Not because of past relationships necessairaily, but because of family issues may not even be aware of him having. If he gets aggravated when you question him, it could be because he's unsure about your intentions and the commitment he's making. He probably doesn't want to put everything into your relationship because it would mean everything would go to pieces if it ended.
That being said, you can't fix his insecurities. There's no point to you obsessing over him or being upset because he doesn't call. Try thinking about other things. Don't ignore his phone calls or texts, just don't be the one to send them first. You need other things to think about becides him, since he's obviously thinking of other things.
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