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I don't want to hurt him part II
Okay, I myself being a columnist hate it when there is more than one question to be answered clumped into one question. So, anywhos, I'm asking it as a separate question.
I'm 15/f(Sophomore). Bob and Betty are 16/f (Juniors) I met Bob through Betty and Betty and I are really good friends. Betty doesn't have feelings for Bob. Bob used to or still does have feelings for Betty. Bob just now, though, said he likes me as in like me, like me. And I told my friend to tell him that I was neutral (or at least I hope it sounded like I was neutral. Or at least it didn't sound like I didn't like him)
I'm pretty sure that I like him. It's just that I'm really worried about hurting him or damaging our friendship. I'm basically an emotional wreck with a 100lbs of mess and trouble hooked to the back of me. I really do want to go out with Bob, which is hard to do seeing that my mom doesn't like Bob and that he goes to another high school. But our school has a lot of events Bob can come to...Anywhos! Back to the point. Should I take a chance with Bob or just I don't know. Tell me what I should do. I really don't want to hurt him or the friendship but I know that in the end, nothing good ever lasts. And I don't know. I like him. But my fear of hurting him/friendship prevents me from letting me get in a relationship with him.
I don't know. Help?
If you're confused, help me help you by asking me to clarify parts your confused on. Thanks =)
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Just to add what everyone else said, ask Betty what she thinks you should do. A person closer to the situation and knows you both personally and all...
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Bob sounds like a good guy. The fact that you are already friends is a bonus for your relationship; there's actually more chance things will work out because of it. Don't be afraid of loosing him as a friend. He likes you. He isn't someone who's out to loose you. Even if you dated and then broke up, you could still be friends. It would all depend on what you want. Don't reject Bob for fear of being rejected by him later.
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Normally, I would tell people to just let it go and don't risk the friendship. But you know what? You only live once. You're not going to be in high school forever. Why not take a chance with this one?
Talk to Bob about this. Express your concerns and ask if the two of you can take things slow and get to know each other better. Once you really get close, you'll be able to tell if you want a serious relationship with Bob and he with you. He likes you; you like him... what do you have to lose? If he is a good friend in the first place, I doubt the friendship would be jeopardized. Taking things slow should prevent that from happening.
Go for it. Otherwise you'll probably go the rest of your life wondering what would have happened.
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