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i'm really confused right now. my boyfriend and i have been going out for a really long time, and i love him more than anything. but i find myself wondering what it would be like to just have like a few week fling with some other guy. my current bf is the only guy i've ever dated, so the only relationship i've known has bee like a 2 year one. i don't want to do anything to ruin what i have with my bf, but i don't know what i should do about these feelings. we don't live near each other (we're both in college), so technically, if i wanted to i could date someone else for a little, because we're not ACTUALLY dating...but we are...it's complicated. im not sure if the reason i'm feeling like this is just because i miss him, or if i really am curious about having another relationship. what should i do??? i want to meet more guys, but i'm really shy and i'm not good at approaching them. i need some good advice. thanks to anyone who answers.
Well, if he's the only bf you've ever had, no wonder you're wondering what it would be like!! Maybe you and your bf should take a break? You never know, he might be feeling these things too. I mean, college is all about experiences, and I think you should try to do as much as you can and see all sorts of different guys through it. If you end up missing your bf really really badly, you could call him up and see how he's liking the break.. but I can't guarantee that he'll be waiting for you when you're done flinging.
Hello everyone! My class is writing letters to men and women over seas who will not be coming home for Christmas. Except in your letter you cannot talk in offense to President Bush or opposing the war. I really do not see a reason why war should be mentioned in the letter. I'm anti-war but it does not matter. The fact is that these men and women will not be home for Christmas and that is depressing. I am an okay writter and I write decent letters. I really thought it would be eassier but I found myself making a million drafts, not being sure what to write in the letter. I will not know who will receive the letter... it is in general. If anybody has any ideas on what would be something to write in the letter please, please help me. Besides wishing them a Happy Christmas and Merry New Year. Thank you very much for your time and consideration!
You could thank them for their service - say how glad you are that they are risking their lives for you (even if you're anti-war, you should still be glad that they're over there doing what they're doing) and I dont know what else.. hope i helped
ok, my question is...heres the story...i met this guy who i really like and who likes me and hes always working and whenever i call him his grandma always says hes not there even when he tells me hes going to be there and i think shes either lieing or he just doesnt wanna talk to me and i dont know what to do or what to think...hes a great guy but i mean it upsets me that i cant talk to him and i dont know how to handle this..i called him tonight and his grandma said that he wasnt there and i asked if i could call back and she said we're all about to go to bed...and then i said well can i call back in 10 mins to check and see if hes there and she said yes and then when i called back no one answered...i dont know what to do so if anyone has any ideas for me please let me know!!...Thanks
Well, do you ever actually SEE this guy? I mean, if you know where he works, you could stop by there and talk to him, unless he lives REALLY far away. And the reason you get mad and upset when you cant talk to him is because you like him, lol.. But I mean if you don't ever see him and he's always working, how would you keep a relationship going if you ever got one started? And btw - do either of you have the internet? Could you email eachother? If none of this advice is what you want, then I guess you'll just have to keep calling and trying to get a hold of him.. good luck!
Sorry its long!!! But ill rate you if you answer.
Over the past 11 monthes i have liked this one guy. His name is Craig. And we dated a little while a few monthes ago but some stuff happened and we broke up for no reason. So he got over me, but i never got over him. So recently we went to a party and we played football. well the entire time he kept tackleing me, but none of the other girls. And he didnt want me to leave. Then my friend asked him if he liked me and he said he never thought about it. I really want to tell him i like him to make him think about, but i dont want to A. risk our friendship, and B. get rejected. What do you think about all of this and how should i handle it?
I don't think there's any way you can not have the chance of risking your friendship or getting rejected - its all part of liking someone. You could send a friend to do your dirty work - ask him if he's into you and what he thinks of you and whatnot.. but eventually, you're going to have to own up and tell him how you're feeling. You might get rejected and you might risk your friendship, but you might not. And which is better - taking a chance or liking someone for practically a year without telling him?
16/f.... this may be a stupid question, but what are those people called that you talk to about your problems and you tell them everything and then they give you advice and everything is confidential. They do it for a living. Nothing SERIOUS is going on in my life (ex. I'm not pregnant, I don't go drugs, I'm not a lesbian, etc.), but I feel like I can't talk to my parents (about guys or whatever) I never have and I probably never will. I'm an only child and I've been the center of their lives for 16 years and I hate it. I always have...I wish I can share the spotlight with someone, but thats not going to happen. Sometimes I wish they didn't care about me AS MUCH as they do. I feel like I need to go see one of those people because I've kept so much inside of me all my life and now I think I need to deal with a professional who can help me. And I'm afraid of a lot of things (I always have visions of disturbing things in my head, but thats a different story). How can I tell my parents I need one of those people without hurting them?
Psychiatrists. Shrinks. I'm not sure how you can tell your parents, you might just want to tell them straight up. Just say "I love you guys to death, but I'd like to talk to someone who doesn't know me as well and is not biased about my problems. Do you think you could get me an appointment with a psychaitrist?" If you say it nicely and give a reason for wanting to talk to someone other than them, hopefully they'll understand. Let me know how it goes!!
I recently ran into a guy who I have known since we were little kids.It's been a long time since we've seen each other,and I always had a crush on him when we were young,and I didn't wanna let myself feel it again but when we ran into each other it brought back all those feelings.Anyway,my BFF,tho I love her,she...well,sleeps around a lot,and she right away started saying how hot this guy is and how much she wanted to *get* with him.I asked her to please not do anything with him because I do still like him,and it would hurt my feelings a lot.She said she can't guarantee that she couldn't do it,and that she's "taking a chance" with him.Basically,she's gonna go 4 it anyway.She says he told her he couldn't date me because it's me(meaning we go back so far as friends and our families were real tight).And she tells me he asked if it was ok if he called HER sometime.But when we were all hangin together he was acting interested in me and seemed...less than amused or interested by her.It's breaking my heart that she's gonna do this.The thought of them together makes me sick to my stomach.I've had nightmares,been unable to sit still,felt sick to my stomach,all because I'm so upset over this.But she says she basically doesn't care,and that she's not gonna fight and I can "take it how I want".What should I do? Even the mere idea that he would be into her is mind boggling to me,and especially cuz he really wasn't all actin like that,he kept huggin me and talkin about old times,and he even talked to my mom on the phone for God's sake!And the idea that he would ever be into her makes me feel sick.I cried all night last night and all morning this morning. HELP!!Thanks,I'll rate ya!
I think YOU should talk to him! It seems like your friend is talking to him more than you are. You should tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same or if he's into your friend. I think there's a good chance he's into you - you should take the chance and go for it, maybe things will work out! Tell me how it goes!
i met this guy, lets call him chad, who was a friend of a friend. we went out for about two weeks and then broke up. lately hes been calling me telling me that he still likes me and stuff but he doesnt know if he wants to get back together. he makes me cry almost every night, but for some reason i still cant let it go. i want to be with him so badly. all of my friends keep telling me to just leave it alone, that hes a jerk and its not worth it... but i cant let it go. what should i do? should i tell him that i still like him or should i just forget about him?
Okay I totally have the same problem!! And I've had this problem for almost a year now, so I think you should tell him.. cause otherwise you may end up wondering if it would ever work out.. besides, if it doesnt work out again, then maybe you'd get over him.. i dont know.. i still haven't done anything about my guy.. but I still think you should tell him, just so you know what would happen and dont have to spend time wondering and missing him.. lemme know how it works out, k?
my bf is hidding behind being shy!
we have a son that was just born on halloween and he still hasnt got a job! i need help and he agreed to help, right now my parents are paying for everything and i dont know how to make him get a job, hes 18 years old...the only job hes ever has i got for him he didnt have to work for it so he doesnt know how to get one and ive tried to teach him but still doesnt go and get a job...i dont know what to do...how can i make him get a job but still be nice about it.
I don't think you can be nice anymore - you need to tell him that he has a son he needs to support! You need to get him to wake up - hes just trying to get away from the responsibility and you cant let him do that anymore! Be firm with him and tell him he NEEDS to get a job and explain to him why. Then send him out job-hunting!
i used to go out with this guy. he wasnt exactly a loser but some ppl thought he was. so i got really insecure about it and stupidly dumped him. this happened about 4 weeks ago. lately i have started to regret dumping him and i miss him so much!! should i tell him this?
Yes!!! You'll never know if theres a chance to get with him again if you don't tell him how you feel!
Well i have a boyfriend that ive been with for almost 6 months but ive known him for 5 years. He is a very jealous guy because that is the way he was brought up he is very sweet and loves to buy me things! I have another guy who is very nice and sweet also. LIke last week i went to his house and he had a cute teddy bear for me, when i talk to him on the phone he talks to me like he's known me for ever. He says stuff like "i love you", "i want to be with you forever and i will never leave you". He's very sweet like. I dont see my boyfriend only on weekends because he works 2 jobs. Like i said everytime i talk to him he is so sweet and my boyfriend is not that sweet. well i dont want to fall i love with this guy what should i do? please reply!!!
It sounds like you're already falling in love with him and out of love with your guy - it looks like it might be time to break up and get the new guy.. Sorry to say it, but I don't think theres anything you can do to KEEP yourself from falling more in love with that guy..
Ok, well, my guy friend's dad just past away a few days ago. My friend is really hurt and it's weird cuz usually he comes to me to comfort him when he needs it, but he doesnt wanna talk about his dad. Doesnt wanna talk period. He wasnt close with his dad, they didnt live together and didnt see eachother for the longest time. I know he's hurt becuz at his grad (a few months ago) he told me how he was jealous that all his friends dads were there except his. I just dont know how to be there for him, what should i do? I wanna be there for him, Ive always have and now something like that happens, I just really dont kno what to do..HELP!
Just be there for him - if he gets ready to talk, let him know you'll listen. But don't pressure him into talking about it, and if he comes to you, just listen. He'll probably need to get stuff off his chest sometime soon.
For the past while i have been cutting myself. At first it was just scratches and then i started cutting deeper and deeper. I am really scared and I don't want to talk to my parents, they have enough to worry about, so is there anyway i can break the habit and just stop...and please don't answer if you are just going to poke fun at me and mock me. I don't need that. Only post if you can help me.
I know exactly how you feel! Well, not exactly because everyone's situation is different, but I had the same problem. Listen, you NEED to talk to someone. Trust me. Your parents will feel worse if you don't tell them. There's this thing with cutting - people get addicted to the pain, so whenever something goes wrong, they reach for a knife, razor, etc. The only way to break the habit is to get help! You're already halfway there - you're asking advice here. But if you don't tell your parents or someone who can help, theres a good chance they'll find out without you telling them and stick you into a mental hospital. Personal experience.. Now, you don't want that, do you? I hope you get better! Let me know how things go for you..
Hey Katie!!! It's Laura by the way. Even though we're probably not suppose to put our name whatever I don't even live in Texas! Anyway you know who i like. And he's really hot and stuff but i also had a dream about his hot 16 year old brother (who has a gf) but i'm not sure if my feelings are for him or his brother! And i'm so confused. I don't wanna go out with him knowing i like his brother. What am i suppose to do?
Hey hey Laura!! I know sort of how you feel.. although I don't really know about brothers;-). Didn't you say that his bro flirts with you? You might just be dreaming about him either because 1. dreams are deranged:-), 2. because you think his brother is hot, or 3. b/c you think you have more of a chance with his brother than him.. I don't know which! Maybe you should just talk to him more often and maybe you'll start liking him even more (and not just his jawbones!), and totally forget about his brother! I hope I helped:-)
is it just plain wrong for a 15 year old straight male to babysit?
Of course not! Honestly, there aren't very many jobs you can get when you're 15, and you need money!! Who cares if you babysit? So long as you're making money, what's the problem? If anyone gives you crap about it, you could always say "Well, at least I have some money now.." or something. :-) lol
im secretly in love with this guy in my homeroom and science class. his locker is 2 away from mine and he sits pretty close to me in science. (alphabetical order.) anyway, ive never told anyone. not even my best friend. sometimes out of the corner of my eye i see him staring at him. when i look somewhat in his direction his eyes dart away. should i look at him when i think he's staring at me? you know, to see if he really is...thanx!
Totally! If you think he's interested, you should show that you are! Do a little eye-flirting deal and then after class or out by your lockers sometime just go talk to him! Tell me how it works out;-)
Okay, does anyone know if when you just wear studs when you get your ears peirced, will the holes still sag? or is there any kind of dangly earrings that don't pull on your ears? I'm clueless and not sure if I want my ears peirced or not :/(sorry if I spelt peirced wrong...) I rate high ^_^
Unless your earrings are REALLY heavy, the holes wont sag. It's just when you wear really heavy hoops or dangly earrings or when you tug on the earring that it wil sag. Having your ears pierced isn't bad, but make sure to clean them and get hypo-allergenic earrings, just in case you're allergic to the metals! :-)
I've been to about 5 different sites trying to find those large Xanga Icons. All of the ones I went to, the pictures wouldn't show up. It would just be the box with the red X in the corner. I would right click all of them and click on "Show picture" but they would never show up. Does anyone have any sites I could go to? Also, does anyone know how to make the pictures show up other than clicking on the Show Picture selection? I've also tried refreshing the page but with no luck. Any suggestions on what to do? Thank you in advance!
The pictures with the red X's in the corner mean that the picture is copyrighted. it won't show up. and I think that you can upload pretty much any picture you like on xangas.. so long as you know the URL or whatever...
i have this friend named ashley. she used to be my best friend we would tell each other everything but now she is like trying to be popular and stuff but by doing that she is losing me as a friend and i am already missing her...what should i say to her?
You need to tell her what you just told me! Obviously, she doesn't know what she's doing, so you have to explain your feelings to her. She might even be feeling the same way (in some aspects). If shes a good friend, she'll try to spend more time with you and try and be a little bit more like she used to, and if she doesnt, then you two are probably going in separate directions. You might need to be friends with other people for a while, and then go back to being best friends after a break, b/c it might turn out that she'll miss you! Good luck and I hope you stay friends!
im going out with this great guy! hes sweet, smart, funny...hes just a great guy all around....but his ex doesnt like me vry much.....i dont want her to hate me(not like she doestn already), but i dont wanna butt in n just start talking to her.....what am i supposed to do?!
I think you're going to have to butt in and start talking to her.. Just go up to her and tell her to stop being so immature. Did she break up with him? And was it a while ago? You could bring stuff like that up too, but try to say it nicely or she'll go around saying you're a mega-bitch. I hope it goes well!
Ive been singing since i can remember. I can hit any note, and i can do that thing that christina aguilera and whitney houston do. I REALLY wanna get out of where i am now, and my parents arent helping. Does anyone have any ideas on how to get myself a record deal? this sounds stupid but im serious about being a professional singer.. i write my own songs and play the guitar with most of them.
THANKS SO MUCH
You could make demo tapes of your songs and send them out to EVERY single record company that you can think of. Keep singing, do choir or musicals, get yourself out there and get heard. Eventually someone will hear you, if you try hard enough! tell me how it works out, k?