Hi everyone... I've got a Psychology degree so I like to think that i know a bit about how people think and why they do the things they do- maybe i don't know a thing, make up your own minds! Also i work with a youth group of girls aged 10-14 so that helps too! Anyway ask me anything no problem too big or too small and I'll do my best...
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well i did community service last week with my friend and a bunch of kids from my school, and we had to serve food and stuff to the senior citizens. i got assigned table 1 and so did josh (link)
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Well it sounds like he likes you! He wouldn't have bothered flirting with you if he didn't especially as he's so shy. So he's agreed to hang out with you? That's great that's definitely a step in the right direction! So next time he's online or you see him in person (which ever one comes first) just say something like "you know we were saying we should get together sometime? well how about tonight/tomorrow/at the weekend/whatever." That should get things going! Probably best not to call him because it might get a bit awkward- i think its definitely best just to approach him face to face! But if you're a bit embarrassed IMed him! Good luck
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Im 15 years old and me and my boyfriend are haveing sex with out a condom and the other night he went in my twice can i still get pregnet even if im on the pill???? (link)
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Don't worry too much I used the pill with my long term boyfriend without condoms for about 18 months and everything was fine. The pill is highly effective- its more reliable than using a condom. However it still is only 99% effective so there is a tiny tiny chance of pregnancy. Don't take too much notice of what everyone else has said- they're over exaggerating. However, you are only 15 and possibly not ready for sex yet. Obviously it varies person to person but the important issue here is that if either you or your boyfriend have not been tested for STI's before you slept with each other you really really should be using a condom! Its so important. Good luck and if you're still concerned then obviously take a pregnancy test but the chances are very small.
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Er. This is a long one. Sorry about that.
Ever since last year, I've liked this guy. There's no specific reason, I mean, we didn't have a lit in common THEN, but I guess we do now. And there was a dance at the end of last year. I was just dancing with my friends, but my friends felt bad for me, so they asked him to dance with me. (his name is Zach) I never even really wanted to, [I'm really super shy] and he had a girlfriend. So I was totally fine with him not dancing with me. But...my friends asked him, and I never even knew that they did until he walked over and gave me the "I like you, but only as a friend" speech. And yada, yada, yada. All I know is I spent the whole night crying. Not at the dance. I'm not one who likes to cry in front of the person who made me cry. So when I got home, I spent the whole night crying.
Early this year, I wrote him a letter apologizing for what my friends had done. I didn't want to annoy him, so when he asked for no more letters, I didn't write him any. Until he got a letter in his locker that read "I want u I need u oh baby oh baby" And he threw it at me, thinking it wa smy note sent to him. Well, it was sent by this girl named Amanda, who we think likes Zach too.
So I wrote him a note. Like I said, I am shy, and since he was mad at me, I didn't know what else to do. [Was this a good descision?] I was just saying that I didn't write the last letter [The oh baby one] and he believed me. Zach broke up, and got another girlfriend. And all was well. We were friends.
But now we have more in common, and he doesn't have a girlfriend. Should I take the kill, risking rejection for the up-teenth time? Or should I just go for his friend who I think likes me? I like them both pretty well equally. I wouldn't say the same thing if it was last year, but I've gotten a lot more lienent with guys since then. I've also realized that Zach and I are probably never going to happen. What should I do?
I'm trying to be wise with the signoff...
♥ *ad0rkable* ♥ (link)
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Do you really want to face rejection yet again? Especially if you like Zach's friend pretty much equally. Why not try getting to know the friend a bit better it sounds like you might be more successful! Also if Zach sees you two together he might come to his senses and realise that its you he wants after all! Good luck with it all
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I've been thinking alot about my career that i want to pursue, and I happen to love the french language. I was thinking about some jobs i could have by speaking different languages, but i'm just not sure. Does anybody know of any jobs i could possibly have by doing what i love? Thanks!
Janine (link)
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How about being an interpretor? This pays really well especially if you work for a govermental organisation!
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Hi im Jess i love soccer very much and i enjoy it until my coaches ruin it. If i make one little mistake they yell alot. I hate when they do that because im having a great time until they come along and ruin it what can i do to avoid their annoyance to me. thx i rate high
love Jess (link)
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The reason they're yelling is probably their way of encouraging you. Perhaps they can see that you've got loads of potential and they want you to do your best. Therefore their way of encouraging you is to shout at you. Try to think of it this way the next time they shout at you!
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Today, my family and I (14/m) were out playing sports. All was well for a while. Untill my lil brother started to misbehave and be uncooperative.I got vexxed, but i controlled my rage untill we got home.
At home, i was still vexxed.
(since my birthday is about a montn away)My mom asked me what i wanted for my birthday. I told her "i want my brother to be gone for my birthday. that would be the perfect gift."
She got vexx at me. so vexx she couldn't speak. Sheleft the room.
I went to look for her later and i found her crying. what i said really got to her emotionally. she just looked at me like everything was lost.
that look got to me. i am sorry i told her that.
but i dont know what to do.
What should i do?
i can't let her feel like she grew me up wrong- i am her 1st born. she will just give up with the others too.
please help.
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You realise you were wrong in saying what you did so you're going to have to apologise to her. Say that you said it all in the heat of the moment and that you really didn't mean it and that you love your little brother and can't believe you said that. Say that you hate seeing her so upset and that you're really sorry. She'll understand we all say things in the heat of the moment that we don't mean. Good luck
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ok im 14 and im a girl... my friend mike likes me and i like him only he doesnt know it yet and im afraid what he will say if i do tell him please help (link)
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Well if mike likes you then go for it and tell him! Whats the worst that can happen? Especially as he likes you anyway! Take a deep breath and go for it. Or send him a text or an email of you dont want to do it face to face. good luck
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I'm a fourteen-year old female I have a girlfriend that I really love but never see. When she talks about sex, she reminds me of my rapist so we haven't had sex yet and I don't think I want to. Every time we talk about getting together she talks about sex, but she writes me poetry and she's really loving. She's suicidal and I feel like protecting her. She hasn't come out to her parents yet and I think she feels safe with me. What should I do? She sort of creeps me out, mostly because she cares about sex so much. I'm a virgin save for my molestation when I was 7 through 8. I don't think she gets that I'm touchy about it, no pun intended (dark humor, sorry). I used to cut myself but I stopped, and she still wants me to. I told her I stopped and she asked me why not. She still does. Her mom's always on heroin and she does pot. I want and don't want to dump her at the same time. Should I break up with her? (link)
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This is a tough one but think it through- you're only 14 and really shouldn't be thinking about having sex ESPECIALLY if it's making you think about what you went through when you were younger. You need to sort through this problem first before you embark on any sexual relationship possibly through counselling? You say she creeps you out because she's always talking about sex and if she knows about your experiences when you were younger surely she should be more sensitive about it if she's your girlfriend? Also she wants you to cut yourself? You've got over that chapter in your life you're moving forward, not backwards. It sounds like she's got a lot of issues of her own that she needs to sort out before you continue this relationship. If you're really serious about this relationship you need to get her some help, but if you want to look after your own interests i think you need to call it a day really. Good luck and be strong x
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hey... my boyfriend and i just had a big talk and he wants to be in "time-out"
i have no clue what that means just that theres no kissing at school (so he said). now i dont know how to act around him or what to say to him
My questions are ... what do you think time-out is and how should i act around him at school???... im so confused and lost in all of this (link)
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Ok well the simple solution to this would be just to go right up to him and ask where you stand! It's unfair of him just to leave you hanging like this and not make it clear what he wants. By you regaining some sort of control over the situation by asking him whats going on he may come to his senses and realise that he can't just call the shots all the time. Also by you asking him whats going on you'll know how to act around him! Good luck
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There's this new guy at our school. We've already become really good friends and I've introduced him to some other people. But he doesn't seem to open up in public. (like on AIM we talk for hours, but at school it's just a simple "Hi") What can I do to make him feel more welcome? (link)
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Well if you're talking for hours on AIM when you're next in public with him you could bring up one of the subjects you were talking about over AIM. That way he has to talk to you because he'll have to give you more than a one word answer! This will probably (and hopefully!) improve his confidence meaning that perhaps he'll approach you more often and also feel more welcome amongst everyone at school!
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I think this guy is really hot. He's in 11th grade and very preppy, I'm in 9th and well... average. We've never spoken or acknowledged each other, but I figured that it would be cool to become friends with him or make an attempt. Should I try to approach him to be FRIENDS ONLY (I don't want to date him. I mean he's really hot but it's no way possible.) but I'm not sure if he may be creeped out. If I should try to approach him, how should I do it? All of my friends say go and talk to him and become friends, so does my little sister, but I'm really shy and I'm scared that someone as hot as him might not want to be friends with someone as average as me. So I'll be "rejected" in a sense. Advice? Realise we've never talked, we have made eye contact before in the band-room so I can't say he doesn't know I exist haha. But yeah. (link)
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OK well think about it the other way round- how would you feel if a guy in the 7th grade randomly came up to you and asked if you'd be his friend? You'd be freaked out right? I know that sounds harsh but sometimes its good to get a bit of perspective! Therefore to save embarrassing yourself maybe just start smiling at him every so often and see what happens. Im not sure its such a great idea to walk right up to him but hey just smiling and stuff might lead him to come and talk to you! good luck
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Is it possible to be in love when your 13? Im turning 14 in July but still....his mom wont let him date until like a 'year down the road" (thats what she told me) and we are both willing to wait until his mom 'allows' him to date....ive never liked somebody so much in my life! And hes not even the hottest thing in the world hes the sweetest, funniest, adorablest guy in the world....and ive NEVER felt this way about ANYBODY....i LoVe him....but still is it possible to fall in love when your 13? (link)
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yeah i reckon its possible to feel like you're in love at 13 and if its not love then who cares? The important thing is that you both feel the same way about each other. It doesn't have to be love as long as you're happy do you understand what i mean? And if you're not actually in love with him at the moment and things carry on the way they're going you will feel in love eventually! don't listen to people who say that you can't fall in love so young they're just jealous!
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how do put things in the contacts and calendar for my ipod? (link)
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Plug your ipod into the computer and go to "my computer" and click on the drive the ipod is. It'll then come up with the folders for contacts and calendar- then just click on them and you can type stuff into the program which when saved will display on your ipod!
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alright my ex asked me to prom, and hes a big dancer type and i dont really dance that way with guys other than slow dance.. i wanna go with him ALOT but im scared that hes gonna think im a loser if i dont dance like that with him..wut do i do?? please help me cuz i havent given him an answer yes or no yet.. (link)
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Well if you want to go to the prom with him then go! And if you don't want to dance with him don't- it doesnt matter. But i bet once you get there with him and get relaxed and everything you'll probably end up dancing with him anyway. If you dont it's not a problem he wont think any less of you just tell him the truth and get in there when a slow dance comes on! You'll be fine!
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my friend has an extrememly hard life. she insists that she's fine and that she doesn't need any help but she really does. her parents beat her and she's been doing drugs since she was nine she cuts herself and basically does every bad things that you could imagine she's a mess but she insists she's not and she says she doesn't need help but she needs it more than anyone i've ever met how do i help her without getting her into trouble? (link)
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Ok well it's important to remember that you can't help anybody until they want to help themselves and it doesn't look like she wants any help at the moment. Maybe its because she actually doesn't want any help because maybe either she doesn't want to burden you with her problems or doesn't want to get into trouble. Maybe she doesn't actually want to TALK to you and would feel better writing it down? You could email her explaining how you're really worried about her and that she doesn't have to reply if she doesnt want to and you won't mention it again if she doesn't want you to (so it relaxes her). How do you know that she has got such a hard life? She must have told you about what has happened therefore next time she says something maybe you could go further and ask her how shes coping and if you can help in anyway? If you have already done this then this really is a toughy but have you thought of ringing somebody who is trained to cope with things like this such as a free helpline? you could try this website http://www.kidscrisis.com/links.html (not sure how old you are if you're older try http://groups.msn.com/PsychHelp/usahelplines1.msnw sorry if this isnt much help but it sounds like you need to speak to a professional who can tell you what they think you should do. Good luck i hope it all works out
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I work out everyday and do sit-ups everyday too. these crunches are really helping my upper abs but im not seeing any results in my lower ab area. Does anyone know of any really great workouts that are specifically for your lower abdominal region. If so please explain how to do those exercises. Thanks so much. Please only give advice if you know it actualy works. (link)
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If you lie on your back with your legs off the floor and your knees bent, bring them towards your chest (but not fully). Then tense your abdominal muscles which will very slightly bring the lower part of your bum and your legs off the floor. This will really help with that lower ab flab!! if you dont understand what i mean by this exercise let me know!!
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me and my boyfriend broke up a week ago and hes already talking to a few new girls. people warned me that he was like this before i went out with him. i had been "talking" with him since december and we finally started going out in march. he got mad at me over something really small so now he "hates" me but the thing is yesterday he called me to hang out..i was really confused and when i tryed talking to him later that night he was like fuck you im busy talking to my girlfriend. i still like him alot i had so much fun with him. hes a really great guy but i dont know what to do... hes really hard to get over. what should i do?!? (link)
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It sounds as if you've answered your own question
1) people warned you about him, 2) he says he hates you over something really small, and 3) he dismisses you when it was him that approached you in the first place. He doesnt sound like someone that is worth fighting for does he?! I know that sounds harsh but be honest with yourself- are you just lusting over him because he's something you can't have at the moment? The grass is always greener on the other side and all that. It'll of course take time to get over him but it'll be so much better in the long run- just try to keep out of his way, be civilised and if you ignore him to an extent he may come to his senses and realise its you he wanted anyway. By you playing hard to get yourself who knows? He may come running back. However just bear in mind whether he's worth it. Good luck
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what do you think about giving head do you think it is the rite thing to do I told my boy friend I would but I dont know if I am going to do something wrong what do yuo think about this whole siduation? PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVISE (link)
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You should only do things like that if you're absolutely happy about it! It is the right thing to do if you're both comfortable with it. About you being worried about doing the wrong thing don't worry too much about that as males always say that there isnt really such a thing as bad oral sex! Just go with it and ask him if it feels ok or not but ONLY if you're absolutely happy about doing it and feel comfortable. You should never have to do anything you're uncomfortable with. Good luck
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for two years now i have been having white discharge my mum started at 16 and im 13 but i still think im going to start my period,
I go swimming every day which means i would have to where a tampon,where do you insert it, does it hurt and how often should you change it?
Also how long does a period last for and how often does it ocur, plz help thanx (link)
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A tanpon is inserted into your vagina- if you buy the ones with applicators this is very easy to do once you get the hang of it! There is an instruction leaflet which shows really clearly how they work. Tampons certainly do not hurt although there is a possibility of a tiny bit of pain the very first time you use them if your hymen (the piece of skin covering the opening to your vagina) has not been broken by everyday life. Tampons should be changed every 4-8 hours and periods can last anytime between 3 and 7 days, it varies person to person. Periods occur once every month although again this varies person to person but only varies by a few days. Hope this helps!
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Im too scared to use a tampon im in my 1st full year of my period and ive been using pads how safe are tampons i read in my bliss magazine that a tampon made this 18 yr old girl slip into a coma for 2 weeks what if that happens to me!! Do they hurt? After you used one are you classed as a non-virgin? Do they tickle? What are they like?
Luv ya x (link)
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Toxic shock syndrome which is what this girl suffered from is really really rare but it is a possibility that you can get it from using tampons IF they stay inside your body for a very long time. Therefore if you make sure you follow the instructions the risks are tiny- if tampons were dangerous they wouldnt be allowed to sell them. You just have to make sure you change them ATLEAST once every 8 hours. They don't hurt when you use them and you definitely do not lose your virginity if you use them! They're a bit tricky to start with but if you use the ones with an applicator and follow the instructions inside once you get the hang of it you'll wonder how you ever coped without them! good luck
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