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Q: one of my GOOD guy friends that i am extremely close w/got a girlfriend. this girl has been on and off with this other guy 15 times and she cheated on him twice. and now that my friend has a girlfriend i'm almost jealous of her. i don't think i like him, but when i see them together i kinda feel ignored or something. but he's not ignoring me... i don't know if i actually do like him b/c i know they wont last long and it'll be a 1-2 week thing, but when he was single i didn't feel this way...

well.. if you ask me.. i would say that i think that you like him you might just not realize it as much when he is single.. you realize it when he likes someone else and you become jealous.. tell him how you feel.. talk to him about it.. from experince dont do anything stupid that will mess up your friendship with him tho... hope i helped...

Q: Okay, I've been suffering by myself with the effects of what I belive to be depression, or some pretty dang extreme teenage hormones. Tonite, I decided that I wanted to get help, because I'm scared of what might happen if I didn't. I told my best friend about it, and I was just met with blank stares and awkward silences. So I walked back home, with barely a word exchanged between us, and a few minutes later she called me. All she said was please calm down, and then another empty blank silence before I finally said that I'd talk to her tomorrow. I'm unsure of where to go next, and I'm beginning to think its a mistake I ever said anything. Should I be angry at my friend for not really saying anything, and looking at me like I was some sort of freak?

well u should talk to her about what you think and that you dont know what to think about all this.

Q: (Sorry if this turns out really long!) I've only been cutting myself for a little over two weeks but I'm already addicted. I told my boyfriend first because I vent to him a lot. I trust him and he can comfort me. Then later I told my teacher and she suggested for me to talk to my school counselor. My teacher told my parents, too. My mom talked to me but it wasn't about ME, it was about what my sister went through. It wasn't helpful. So I talked to the couselor. She freaked out and kept telling me, "You can't do that! STOP! You have to stop! If you do it again I'll tell the principal!" That is not what I expected from her. It wasn't helpful or encouraging. It was threatening! It almost made me want to cut! Later that day I was sitting alone in the gym slicing the skin on my arms and my Gym/Health teacher saw me and made me go alone in a room with him to talk. He kept telling me that even though life may suck now, it'll get better because I "have a good mind". I didn't think it was helpful either, but I started crying. Everytime I had to talk to someone, I wanted my boyfriend there holding my hand helping me endure it. I feel uncomfotable around everyone but him. One day my teacher actually tried to send me home because I was cutting and crying and miserable. I told her I didn't want to go home, I just wanted to talk to James. (James is my boyfriend.) She said she couldn't let him out of class. I glared at her and wouldn't talk to her. She called my parents and they took me home. The whole time I wanted to scream, "I JUST WANT JAMES!" When I got home I just reread old notes from my bf. He's the only one who can comfort me and it feels like he's the only reason I go on living. Do I depend on him too much? How can I stop cutting if I have nobody to talk to? Please comment or give advice! Sorry so long!

well.. you should deffenitly stop cutting that dosnt help anything and i know i sound like everybody else but i know what it feels like and how hard it is to stop but you have to. You have to stop doing it for the people who care about you because they probally get freaked out when they see that... So you should try to get a counceler out of school or someone that can help you besides your boyfriend... You just have to try really hard to stop doing it, if you want to talk im me on aim or email me... or inbox me... my aim is durangedbluebery and my email is babieblue11289@yahoo.com......

*kaii*

Q: does anyone no a self tanner that goes on really smoothley without streaking...because im so pale!

dont use self tanner it turns you orange and you will look like an oopma loompa... go tanin normally in a tannin salon or something. hope it helps goodluck

*kaii*

Q: I'm never really sure what to say to the question "I love your shoes! Where did you get them?" or any other clothing item because I really don't want to say anything to incriminate me. The popular kids will laugh if you answer anything like "target", "payless shoe store", or some other department store, and the kids that I'm friends with call me stupid if I tell them that I bought them at Hollister. What is a generic answer that I can say that will satisfy everyone?

you could say you got them as a gift or your friend gave them to you. hope it helps goodluck

*kaii*

Q: For my Spanish class we have to write a 28 page book (with pictures of course) Kindergarten-6th grade, we have to choose. So, which age group do you think would be best for the project, and what do you think would be fun and interesting to read if you were a kid? Thanks..

i think kidergarten would be easier because you could use more pictures and less words because it would be a childrens book and the 6th grade book might be kind of hard to do. hope it helps good luck

*kaii*

Q: My boyfriend asked me if i wanted to go to second, like fingering...and i said sure but im not sure where we should do it...btw im 13

well you should either do it in his house or your house when you guys are alone. Do not do it in public where any body can see becuase then people will think your a slut (no offence) just try to do it somewhere private. hope i helped good luck

*kaii*

Q: My friend is mad at me for a dumb reason and she says she does not want to be my friend but I know shes lying, because she has done this before. What can I do to so her I want to be her friend?

just tell her that you want to be her friend and be honest with her.honesty works most of the time.. hope it helps good luck

*kaii*

Q: Okay i have this really big jealously problem... i mean i don't get jealous but when people try to make me jealous i get REALLY REALLY MAD!! i dont' know why i get that way... but okay here's the story

On my class trip i liked this guy and i didn't like him anymore lets call him Billy well billy i think liked me and he sat by this girl lets call her nina well on the way back home nina and billy were sitting really reallly close and billy had his arm around her... nina is just like a slut and lets guys do whatever they want .. well i was sitting on the floor and he kept on looking at me to see if i saw what he was doing!!! it got me so mad!! i moved up to the front and started like yelling to my friends and telling them i was going to f****** kill him (haha i know a little out of hand) but i guess my question is .. is there a certain way why i get that way? or do i need some anger management!!!! lol

ps. sorry so long!

you should just try to control your anger and just talk to him about it or something. I think you are just a normal person who is a jelous type of person and gets angry about it. It isnt harmful to vent like you did it helps you become less mad at that person. hope i helped good luck

*kaii*

Q: Im in chorus at my school. I love singing and the class is sooo fun..my teacher is the best and i love singing at concerts. We just did The Phantom of the Opera and it was fun! I know that sounds corny but i really like it. I love being on stage. Well we had to sing for the graduates this yr and i felt embarrassed. We had to wear these lame chorus shirts and blue skirts. Everyone was laughing or snickering why we were singing..i felt soo embarrassed. All my friends make fun of me and im tired of it. Should i just quit chorus or what?

well if you like chorus dont quit!!!! talk to your friends tell them that you want them to stop making fun of you and tell them that you really like chorus. Just tell them how you feel and talk to them about it they will probally understand and if they dont there probally not good friends and you can do better than that!! hope it helps good luck

*kaii*

Q: okay so me and my friends were going to go see star wars yesterday... please don't comment on star wars that isn't what my question's about... okay, so we didn't invite our other friends because they didn't want to see it, and we were meeting some guys there and one of my friends thought that they would make us look bad. I thought it was mean but i didn't comment. Anyways so now one of the uninvited people is mad at us because she actually did want to see ther movie. what do i do?

you should just apologize and hope she isnt mad at you anymore or you can go with her to see it again so she can see it. hope it helps good luck

*kaii*

Q: ok so last january my boyfriend dumped me and i was so upset because i really loved him but now im going out with someone else and everytime like someone talks about who they are going out with and about going on dates and everything i dont think about my boyfriend i think about my ex-boyfriend and i think i really still love but i really like my boyfriend too and my ex-boyfriend has a girlfriend now and i know he definitley doesnt like me anymore because he doesnt even talk to me i just dont know what to do....help me please!!

well you just have to try to get over him. You will probally always like him. You have to try to focus on what you have now rather than to dwell on the past if you know what i mean. hope it helps good luck

*kaii*

Q: We just moved from Oregon to California and we have all this winter clothes. I think we are haivng a garage sale next week. The problem is, I don't know how to price my items! They may be used, but they are in excellent condition. We have many different brands from gap to abercrombie to bcbg! How should I price my clothes??-I paid good money for it!

dont price them too expencive but dont make it like less than half the price. Just price your things according to value. If people dont buy them after a while then lower the price.. hope it helps good luck

*kaii*

Q: Ok, I'm a really bad procrastinator if I'm really not interested in doing something.

Tips to help? I know it's bad...how did you overcome it?

Thanks!

well you just have to try to do things as soon as you can and not put them off.. It will seem hard at first but after a while it wont be that hard.

Q: I'm 17, and so is my girlfriend, though most of the time she's a lot more mature than me because she's gone through a lot more. I've messed up a lot in my relationship.. nothing extreme, theres just a lot about me that bothers my girlfriend, and she's gone through times when she puts serious thought into breaking up with me, and truthfully i dont see why she hasnt. but what bothers her is basically just a lot about me that i can't help much, like things that i do without thinking about it, and the fact that i use to be a big flirt and sometimes have trouble stopping that.
she's always been more than faithful to me, and has never strayed away.she's debating giving up trying with me and i love her more than anything, she's perfect for what i want to be and am trying to be. but i need to know whether or not i should just let her go and live without my complications or not. please respond quickly.

well you could just tell her how you feel and just see how it goes from there..... hope it helps.. good luck

*kaii*

Q: So me and one of my best guy friends have kind of been a little more then friends latly. Like last night we were watching this movie and he told me to sit with him and we started cuddling but not like friendly..more like intimate and I liked it. His best friend told me that hes going to ask me out but I dont know if I should say yes or no...see there are positives and negitives:
Positives-
I wouldnt be single
I could french someone
hes perfect(except hes a perv)
Negitives-
Im going to camp and so is he in like 4-6 weeks and wont be able to see tim all summer
are friendship will die

Plzz help im 14/f and rate ^ lyl mwaaaa

well you could tell him that you want to wait until you guys get back from camp. Or you could always say yes and just see what happens and if it works out then thats good. you could also say yes and then go on a "break" while you guys are away and then see how you are when you get home. hope this helps. good luck

*kaii*