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let her go?
I'm 17, and so is my girlfriend, though most of the time she's a lot more mature than me because she's gone through a lot more. I've messed up a lot in my relationship.. nothing extreme, theres just a lot about me that bothers my girlfriend, and she's gone through times when she puts serious thought into breaking up with me, and truthfully i dont see why she hasnt. but what bothers her is basically just a lot about me that i can't help much, like things that i do without thinking about it, and the fact that i use to be a big flirt and sometimes have trouble stopping that.
she's always been more than faithful to me, and has never strayed away.she's debating giving up trying with me and i love her more than anything, she's perfect for what i want to be and am trying to be. but i need to know whether or not i should just let her go and live without my complications or not. please respond quickly.
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The reason she hasnt broke up with you is because she cares about you a lot. She wants to be with you so thats why she puts up with what you do. If she hasnt broke up with you, then thats a sign that even though you flirt she still cares. Just sit down with her and talk to her about it. Tell her that you're trying to change not for her.. but for you too. I dont think you should let her go. I think sitting down and talking to her is the best advice for this. Other wise if you let her go.. you could be loosing the most perfect/important person in your mind/heart. I hope things go well and i hope that my advice helped you out. Good luck!!
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Aww! Well I can tell you Really caRe foR heR!! And the way I see it... if she's willing to put up with you, so to speak... then you shbould leave it as is. Just imfoRm heR of youR feelings foR heR, and let heR know how much you appRecaite heR being theRe. It'd be a good idea foR the two of you to sit down and discuss whateveR pRoblems might be pResent, so that togetheR you can tRy to come up with an appRopRiate solution. I wish you all the best of luck!!!! Take caRe!!
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I have been married to a big flirt for a long time now! He doesn't care who it is so long as its female! It is part of his personality. I know he loves me and isn't going anywhere. I think you just need to make her feel like she is important to you. Make her feel special. Talk to her about it and try and make her realize that even though you flirt, it is her that you are dating. It is her that you want to spend time with. Flirting doesn't mean a thing. If she still wants to break up then I guess you haven't much choice. Don't give up though without discussing things with her first. :)
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well you could just tell her how you feel and just see how it goes from there..... hope it helps.. good luck
*kaii*
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Wow, this sounds like a situation I was in for awhile...
I'm gonna tell you that a conversation really worked for us. We're both incredibly happy now. Talk to her about it.
What you've gotta decide is what you want - obviously you want to stay with her, right? Let her know that you realize you've messed up, but let her know you really want to make this work, and that you're willing to really try to change, if you are.
I had the same problem - my boyfriend had some issues with me not doing things instead of me doing things. I didn't even realize that I wasn't doing them until he pointed it out to me, and I realized why I wasn't doing them. (It turned out to be totally subconscious).
However, I do think you should talk to her - just sit down somewhere and talk it all out. Let her know what you're feeling first, then ask her to tell her side of things.
Mention that you've noticed her seriously consider breaking it off and then never do it. Find out why she didn't, even if you think you know, let her explain.
Whether you let her go or not depends on how important you think your relationship is to both of you.
See, we knew we would both be miserable without each other, and I knew I couldn't handle breaking up with him. I loved him too much, and he'd always seemed to love me just as much as I loved him if not more.
Is your relationship so important to you that you would do anything to keep it? Would you be completely miserable without it? On the other hand, is the relationship itself making you miserable? Is it worth fighting for, wasting your energy on? Would it really be that much easier to live without it, or would you miss it every day of your life? Can you imagine regretting this decision?
Answer those questions first, then talk to her and figure things out. Make sure you keep a huge slot of time aside. You never know how long this could take. (It took us five hours, but it was worth it.)
Well good luck with everything - If you want to vent to someone, or anything, I'm usually on AIM (SirenCytherea).
I hope this helps you!
-Siren =)
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Not to be mean or anything, but if she talks about breaking up with you so much, then I think you should just grant her wish. You can't help, but be you. I say just let her go, who knows, both of you might be happier that way.
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okay well hunny you love her!! you shoudn't let go keep on fighting tell her "i am going to try my hardest to change for you because you mean the world to me and i dont' want to let you go" make a change.. i know it will be hard but if you really like her like you say you do .. then you need to try and change for her... hope this helpes! and good luck!
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Hey!
If you love her so much tell her that! Buy her flowers and chocolates and show up at her house singing a mushy love song. That should solve things for now but if you love her so much and you want to stay with her you need to seriously think of changing your lifestyle. Mostly stop flirting there is nothing that bugs a girl more then seeing her man looking at another girl. It makes her feel like she isn't good enough for you. Good Luck!
~*~Sour~*~
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i think you should be more romantic but dont overdue it. You should be more like her but not exactly like her. But do everything she looks for in you. I hope everything works out.
xoxo Julie
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