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MY EX!
ok so last january my boyfriend dumped me and i was so upset because i really loved him but now im going out with someone else and everytime like someone talks about who they are going out with and about going on dates and everything i dont think about my boyfriend i think about my ex-boyfriend and i think i really still love but i really like my boyfriend too and my ex-boyfriend has a girlfriend now and i know he definitley doesnt like me anymore because he doesnt even talk to me i just dont know what to do....help me please!!
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Hmm. In all faiRness.. youR ex has someone else now. It may be sad, but it's the tRuth.. a tRuth you'll just have to accept and Respect. And something that I think is... if you "love" two, you don't love eitheR one enough; so peRhaps that makes sense to you?? I wish you the best!! Take caRe!! =D
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You will still think of him now and again. Don't worry about it and don't let it come between you and your current guy. :)
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well you just have to try to get over him. You will probally always like him. You have to try to focus on what you have now rather than to dwell on the past if you know what i mean. hope it helps good luck
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if you don't really have feeling for your boyfriend now you need to dump him before you hurt him... as for your ex... wait until they break up and start talking to him more... and then let him know that you never got over him and that you want everythign to be back like it used to be ... hope i helped!
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Should I say that you are still in love with you ex. Maybe, but this is what I think it is.....I think you have unresolved issues with him. He said you were sooooo upset. And I think that is because he made promises that he did not keep.He said one thing one day, and a different thing the next. He never really explained himself as to why suddenly he didn't love you anymore. You were surprised....you were hurt......you thought that you two would be together forever, and he may have even said that too. So when we have "unresolved" issues with someone, it makes it difficult to forget them. There are so many unanswered questions.....
And I agree, it is not fair. And guess what, I don't have an answer for that. Because you CANNOT MAKE anyone tell you what they do not want to tell you. Most of us will be happy with an "explanation". "Please, if you won't change your mind, then just tell me why!"
But they don't give you an answer. So you have unresolved issues, questions, feelings. I wish I could tell you that this gets better when you are an adult, but it often does not. The best thing you can do is #1, understand that not all people are compatible.
#2, Dating is experimenting...we are learning about the opposite sex, and also learning about ourselves. Some couples DO NOT belong together, but how will they know if they don't date each other.
#3. Since we can't make anyone tell us, what they don't want to tell us, we have to get better are reading the signs. Actions always speak louder than words. Listen to your intuition, to that little voice in your head. Your gut feelings. They will tell you what your heart does not want to see. It's true, love is blind you know.
And learn not to dwell on these kinds of things. You can't control other people, and you would not want to, because you would soon find it boring. You can't make him do what he doesn't want to do, so work on forgeting him. And do that by thinking better of yourself, and realize that he was just not for you. And you will find the perfect person in good time. Probably not when you would like to, but it will be when you are ready. Because there is so much more to love, and love. Compatibility is MOST important. It is hard to live with someone that you do not have things in common with, no matter how cute theyu are or how sexually attracted to them you are. That is a very small part of an adult relationship. It is important, but if that is all that is good, it won't hold a relaionship together. I hope this helps. I wish you luck.
MIchele
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