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Good morning and good afternoon advicenators. I am an 20 years old girl with a boyfriend who is 23. We have been together for the past 2 years. Here is my situation: Tuesday of last week, my boyfriend texted me in the morning but I did not answer his text. Later in the afternoon he called me but I did not pick up. All this was because I was frustrated with school and I was not in the mood to talk to anyone. Of course he got upset and felt as if I was ignoring him but I was not. I was planning to call him later before I went to bed. I had no intention on making him feel bad about it but when he confronted me with it I apologized and he forgave me. since then, our relationship has been off-balance. He has been ignoring me but I act as if I dont notice it because I feel like he wants to get revenge. When I text him, he takes forever to text back but I always text him right back. When I call him at night, he doe not pick up and texts me in the morning saying that he went to bed early. I really do not know what to do. Can someone please advice me on what I should do. Thank you in advance. (link)
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Do what he did, and confront him. It's not right to get revenge in a relationship, even though many people struggle with it, but especially if you weren't even doing it on purpose/to hurt him or anything. Ask him if that's what he's doing, and if not then ask what's going on, or of everything is okay. But definitely talk to him about it.
Hope this helps~
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I raped someone I want to turn myself in immediately. Tell me what I need to do. I need to be punished. I will not say how it happen and why. I can't make up any excuses. I was drunk but it doesn't change anything. The person who was hurt doesn't want to do anything and prefers to just forget and move on, but I can't . I need to be punished and I want to turn myself in. The person wouldn't have to worry about trial or publicity. I just need to know what I have to prepare for. (link)
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If you feel the need to turn yourself in, then do it. If you don't, then you may not fully comprehend what you did, and the realness of it. It's up to you, but I think it's the right thing to do.
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I have lied to my boyfriend his car handle fell off so I try to fix it with some super glue he came to my house that evening and asked me if I tried to fix his hand on his car with super glue and I stood in front of him face to face and I said no so he said well I'm going to call my son and see if he done it so you got a hold of his son and his son said no I didn't do it look at the cameras that you have at your house and it will tell who did it. So the next day when he left for work I text him that I did ithe forgive me for that stupid lie but he still broke up with me because I did it face to face if you truly love somebody you shouldn't have to lie to him you should tell them the truth what should I do I asked him for a second chance but he's not listening or even talking to me (link)
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If you really love him, and think he loves you too, then you really gotta try to get him back. Prove that you won't do something like that again, and say you really are sorry and that you'll make it up some how, and that you feel super bad. Do it face to face though, and you could do something sweet like make him something that comes from the heart like a pop-out card and tell him how much you love him. It seems weird that he would break up with you over one little lie, so maybe you should ask him if this is what he really wants, and if there's a small chance that he still wants you, and if so, then you go for it and prove you won't do it again!
Hope this helps~
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I started using the trigestrel pill last week friday the 16th january and have been taking it everyday,same time since then..i then had unprotected sex on the 23rd january but then drank the morning after pill as soon as possible (as back up)..can i still get pregnant seeing that i didnt wait 2 weeks for the pill to kick in and only 7 days eventhough i took the norlevo morning after pill asap?! (link)
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That could be a possibility, so I think your best bet is to take a pregnancy test (as in buy one, but not a real cheapy one) and see what that says, and if it says yes, and you want to make sure it's true, you could get one from your doctor, because that one Will be true. And if it says no, but you still want to make sure, you could still get it checked out if you want.
Hope this helps~
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I recently started talking to my best friend again and I have been avoiding her. I have been scared to talk to her because we had a big fight over something ridiculous and I did not want to get into another one over the same topic. I felt comfortable with her the other day when I saw her and I felt happy again, just by seeing/talking to her even for a few minutes. But I was really mad at her for no reason during that same week. I really don't want my negativity to rub off on her and I don't want to get mad at her and then flat out take it out on her. I feel as if it's my impulse control disorder that makes me feel anger towards others and it prompts me to be mean to others (verbally,emotionally or mentally). I just want to be a good best friend for her. I want to be nice to her because she means the world to me. I want to let her know I care about her, even if she doesn't think so, but I really do. If anyone has advice on how to avoid taking out my anger on her, please, I would love to hear it! :) thank you! (link)
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I think you should keep a bit of distance from her for a little bit until that anger calms down, because the argument could start again if there's a lot of tension. So when you actually Do talk to her (which shouldn't be like every day and such) just try to be nice and tell her you care about her. If you want, you could even explain to her how you've been feeling lately, so she doesn't get the wrong idea, but wording it differently like you've just felt a lot of tension in yourself lately, and you're just trying to work out your own stuff so you don't lash out at the people close to you and stuff.
Hope this helps~
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I'm 31 years old and female. My twin brother can't stand my girlfriend. My brother told me to choose, him or her. I ended up choosing him and broke up with her. I couldn't take being without her. I love her very much and could see myself with her for the rest of our lives. So we got back together. Now my brother hates me. He ignores me and barely acknowledges my existence. We live together with our parents and the tension unbearable. I don't know what to do. I love my brother very much and I don't want to hurt him. But I also love my gf. Should I give up my soul mate to please him? (link)
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Well if you think she is the one for you, and you're happy with her, definitely stay with her! You have to follow your heart and can't base decisions like this on other people. It's your life, and your love life, and that's all up to you. I'm sure your brother will come around eventually, even though it might take some time. Family can be important, but the person you're with becomes your new family, and that'll happen eventually, so you have to put them first if that's what you want.
Hope this helps~
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This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks (link)
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Hm.. Well, it's very hard to not accidentally flirt with someone, for they often can take being nice, as flirting. So I suppose try not to be too friendly, because that could come across as flirting. But not mean or anything, you can be nice, but just not too nice. Also, keep your distance and show that you're not interested. (Which I'm assuming you're not) like, talk to him only sometimes, rarely be the one to message him first, etc. it's best not to lead someone on, because not only can they use that against you, but it's just plain out cruel. So don't do things like show over interest in what he's saying, or say anything like you like them or anything like that, don't go to a lot of date like places with them like the movies, stuff like that. And if it comes down to it, you may just have to plain out tell them that you only see them as a friend or something.
Hope this helps~
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Hey so i have this friend, she's a girl and I'm a guy. She's my best friend, and we hang out all the time. The only problem is whenever we hang out, we always sit around and watch netflix. Most of the time she's not even watching the show, she's just playing a game on her iPhone. We used to talk non stop too, so I'm kind of depressed it stopped. Is there any way I can break the tension and silence. How can i bring the life back into our relationship? (link)
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Hm, well you could try learning more things about her and asking a bunch of questions (here and there, not annoyingly) and really get to know her well, which includes finding out her interests and what makes her happy and what she likes to do and all that. Then you can look into that stuff and start making more conversations based on her interests, and make/buy her something (doesn't have to be big) that she would like, and play her favourite movie on Netflix when you watch it, and try to do other things when you hang out. Like go to the movies or chill with more friends, or take her to do something she likes to do. Just get to know her really well (more than you already did) and start talking about that stuff and showing an interest, and try to make her laugh with things she finds funny. Be spontaneous and put more good vibe into your time with her. There's lots you could do.
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24/f. My mom has been emotionally and psychologically abusing me for as long as I can remember. Because she is a narcissist, no one believes me in my family. First and foremost, I can't report emotional/psychological abuse to the police. However, it has affected me a great deal and has put my mental health in danger. She has stolen my identity, which could ideally put her bind bars for some time. But, if I did that, no one in my entire family would speak to me. My mom has BIG issues and I don't think jail is the answer. She needs to go to therapy. She needs to be forced to go to therapy. I have one family member, my cousin, who believes me. She's only 11 and she says that my mother is unstable and that she would consider the way she treats me as emotional abuse. I don't live completely at home. I have an apartment about 30 minutes away. However, I do come back home to see my grandparents, pets, and my niece and nephew. However, my mom does not stop calling me. She calls at all hours and told me that she has a tracker on my phone to see where I am. EVERYTHING is a problem for her. She is a stalker. The other day, I was at CHURCH and she said that she wanted me to leave immediately and that she was angry. Then, she made up some story saying she "KNEW" that I was with someone and just didn't want to come see her. I am not willing to speak to her until she gets therapy. However, she is dangerous, it seems. She is scary. She'll make threats like she is going to hurt herself. Pretty soon, my family will come knocking on my door dragging me out telling me that I have to come see her that I'm the wrong one for whatever I did. I want to go off the grid with the condition that my mom gets the help she needs, and my family, for the most part, gets help too. I am tired of being in such a dysfunctional circle. It has ruined my relationships, friendships, and even my jobs. These people are intense. If I don't answer, they WILL come find me. My dad is the commander of the city and he has trackers and will find me in a second. There has to be a way that I can do this legally... like literally go off the grid, be able to continue my studies online, and her to be told that she can't see me until she goes to therapy... like maybe some kind of restraining order. i don't know. Please help!
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If you're living on your own, and people (even your family) are harassing you, then you can do legal action. You can take it to the court and/or call the cops on your mom to get a restraining order, and you can also tell them about your family and how they bother you as well. If your family trespasses in your apartment for whatever reason you can call the cops on them for stepping on your property without your permission. I suggest you also call a (relatively good one, do your research) mental hospital about your mother because it sounds like she has mental health issues, and they can take her in to get meds and therapy and all that by force if she is a threat to herself or others. (And you said she makes threats about herself) this is your life and you can't live it in fear, especially not of your family, so whether the majority of them "speak to you again" or not is invalid because you need to take care of yourself and do what's best. You can also leave to another state and change things if that's what you wish, also. But I highly recommend you take legal action, and call the mental hospital on your mother because they are the only ones who can force her. (With the threats existing and all)
Hope this helps~
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Hi, so I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend since we were 15 and we are both 17 right now. We have met before and we try to video chat every weekend and a couple of other days of the week depending on how busy we are. Anyway, I really do love him so much but I do get kind of an off feeling but I am also a little more paranoid than I guess people in a normal relationship would be because we are so far away. First off, texting is the main way we communicate. Sometimes when we are texting he will disappear for a while and text back like nothing happened or say an excuse which I believe sometimes. One time it was like 3 hours and then he text back "sorry I kept dropping my phone" so ever since then I have been thinking he is making an excuse. Also somedays he stops texting at like 7 PM and text the next day that he fell asleep. He also follows mostly girls on Instagram but a lot of them do go to his school but still.. It makes me wonder like if he is seeing someone there. Once he posted a picture of me on Instagram and took it down 10 minutes later because he didn't want his friends to see what I look like incase they hit on me but I just think he doesn't want his girl friends to see me. His mom knows me and she is really nice so if he did have a girlfriend there I would hope she would tell me or something but what do you think..? Do you think he is lying or am I just really paranoid and a stalker ? Lol be honest. Thanks!
And PS I don't want you guys to think this is all he does, he just does this sometimes and he says he would never lie to me but I think he does. He is always very sweet and nice to me, calls me beautiful and says I love you everyday multiple times and we make fun of eachother and joke around so it's not like the relationship is awful. It's just in long distance relationships I don't feel like you should lie because it will lead to a lot of problems later on.. Thanks again for reading sorry it's so long
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Nah you're not being paranoid or anything. It happens to worry about this stuff sometimes. I think you should definitely confront him on it! The best thing is to always talk these things through instead of assuming, because that could turn out bad. So just have a chat with him about how you feel about this and such. You could start off by asking why he disappears like that, or lay out hints and other things, or just full on cut to the chase on the subject, but you should talk to him about it before jumping to conclusions, just in case.
Hope this helps~
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My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends) (link)
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He Should be more understanding, but is there anyway you could do both? Just stop by for a little bit for the wedding and then go back to your husband? Of so, do that! But if not, your friend should understand. It's really important, but make it up to her? Take your friend out and give her a nice wedding present or something. If your husband won't understand, then your friend at least should.
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Hi I met this new person at my school and we are cool and we say hi to each other. I had problems with previous friendships that I followed and bugged them to much. my teacher found out that I met this new friend and she asked my friend if he had any problems with me hanging with him. and he said no. now the teacher told him that I need help with personal space and things. then she talks to me and she says he has some problems too ,like me. but she is making us both only allowing us to sit together once before school starts and we cannot sit together at lunch anymore and I can only talk to him in the halls at school. I am a little stress out about this and I am not sure if its unfair or fair. I kind of miss the old ways.
also on the first day this started at lunch he look over at me. I think he misses it too.
what should I do?
sorry for my poor wording
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Teachers aren't allowed to do that unless you two are causing problems or being "too distracting" or something like that. Talk to the teacher about it and say to not do that anymore, and if she doesn't listen, talk to the principle. You should be allowed to sit with your friend if you're not doing anything wrong.
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Hey there all. I need some help. I have been in a bad relationship for quite some time now... about 3 years. My family started to hate this guy and the hatred was so strong and they basically had no real reason. They just said that they hated him. So, I started to discredit that hatred because I just thought that they were trying to make my life miserable. I basically lied starting back in August and told them that I had broken up with him. I felt bad about it, but you have to understand that it was day in and day out talking about him and how much they hated him. I just felt like it was the only way to get them to stop.
I recently moved and now, without their influence, I have been able to see for myself how bad he really is. He treats me like garbage. He's aggressive. He makes fun of my beliefs and values. He takes money from me. He orders me around. I offered him food and he says "I don't want that crap." Most people would just say "no thank you." I think that I was in a daze when I first started dating him because I had just lost a close family member to cancer. So, I didn't really see what was right in front of me. There were red flags from the very beginning. If I would have valued myself a little more three years ago, I probably wouldn't have started dating him at all. I would have seen it as a bad choice. Now, that I have come out of that "shock"from the loss, I can see things a little more clearly. The person who passed was my cousin, and we were very, very close. He was only a year younger than me. He was my best friend and passed from cancer. So, it wasn't just the loss that effected me, it was seeing him ill for so long. Recently, I was even diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder likely do to this. So, I feel that now is when I'm coming out of this adrenaline rush that I had going on when we were taking care of him.
Before, I wasn't even sure that I wanted to break up with him. I thought that I was doing it for the wrong reasons: my mom/family. Especially given the nature of the way that they said it. But, now I have seen for myself. I've never broken up with anyone before. I've only had one other serious relationship and it ended in another way. I don't even know how to face him. I'm afraid that he's gonna start crying... and then I'm just gonna feel bad and stay with him. I've come to realize that he has a bit of a dangerous temper and he is aggressive. Since my cousin passed, I had been going to therapy and obviously, this came up. The therapist believes that he is a narcissist. I'm afraid of telling him in person. I know it's the "right" thing to do, but I can't look him in the eye. I just wish I could wake up tomorrow and it could be over. This has had me so stressed that I've often thought... I wish the Lord would just take me so I could just avoid it. But, I know that this is something I need to do. I'm not happy at all. I'm miserable in this relationship and I don't want to be in it anymore.
Lastly, I should bring up that my birthday is on Sunday. I'm turning 24. Last year, he didn't get me anything for my birthday and didn't even come see me. This year, he's suddenly interested in "making up for it" and has a whole day planned. I'm not interested in spending the day with him. But, I'm worried about breaking up with him before then because I fear that he could hunt me down and ruin it. Please advise! Also, please advise on the best way to break up with him and how to get over that fear.
Thank you. Blessings.
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You need to break it off ASAP. he sounds like an unstable person, and it sounds like an unhealthy relationship. If you don't like him, he doesn't treat you right, and you're miserable and unhappy, then you have to call it off. Your happiness is more important than his heartbreak, because it's Your life, and you can't base decisions like these on other people's feelings. Even if he does get "upset," you have to be strong for yourself so you both can just move on sooner. You should tell him that you're just not in a good place right now, and you're too stressed for a relationship, even if that is not all entirely true. But just say that it's not a good time for a relationship for you, and you need to focus on other things. If you're worried about your safety, tell a close friend what you're doing (breaking up) and around the time you're doing it and tell them that if you don't check in to say what happened at a certain time, to call and/or check on you and such. There other other possibilities, but you should end the relationship, even if he wants to "make it up." Be strong!
Hope this helps~
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I know I might come off as sounding like a crazy insecure girlfriend but I just need some reassurance here. My boyfriend and I, we've been together for a little over a year. It hasn't been easy but we've always worked through it. He was with his ex for 5, but she ended up cheating on him and they broke up for good. He tells me that they're still friends and at the point where they can be cool with each other now, not have any tension. So I know they will still text each other every once in a while. She doesn't live here anymore because she's a flight attendant so she's all over the place. Anyway, my question comes down to social media, instagram. Is it wrong for him to go back through her recent old selfies and like them in a row. He usually doesn't like them when they're posted because hes not on but I've noticed that given a week or two, he'll make sure he goes on her page and 'likes' them. She always likes every one of his whenever he posts one. I personally feel they shouldn't even be talking but I guess thats just my opinion. Should I tell him I dont like it? Then again I dont have her instagram on my account, I have it on another that he doesn't know about, so I cant even begin to explain to him how I know. He tells me he loves me and I can feel it but if he does those things too, then what does that mean. (link)
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You should definitely confront him on that. That's just pretty strange for exes to do that, and honestly, it's never a good idea to be friends with your ex. It always causes tension, and problems, and maybe worse. So maybe you should just say you're uncomfortable with them being so "close" or "chill" with each other, and if he really does love you, he will try to understand, and respect your wishes.
Hope this helps~
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I Got A Random Message On Kik From A Girl. It Said "21/F from Vegas, I found your name in the online member directory, just looking for someone to chat with"... Um? I Told Her I Didn't Know Her Or Whatever And She Asked If We Knew Eachother. I Said No And She Said That My Username Seemed Familiar Or Something. Pleeeease Help, I Know It May Just Seem Like Someone With The Wrong Kik But I'm Scared. I Don't know What Directory Or Anything She's Talking About. Please Help, I Deleted My Account And Everything. She Said "Hmm okay, mind talking to a 24 y/o lonely single female?" Or Whatever. Ah I'm So Creeped Out (link)
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Try to think back on what this "directory" might be, and make sure you've checked it out before you decide whether you don't remember one at all. If you come to that conclusion, "she" probably is lying about the directory and got your kik by some cosmic way (who knows how. Could be from a friend or whatever else the reason) and is probably a faker and could be a stalker or random dude, because no one says stuff like that. Just make sure you got your account deleted, and that none of your personal info got leaked or anything. It could just be a pathetic creep, and they may not be able to effect you at all if they don't know you in person or have personal information. So if they don't, or anything like that, then I'm sure you'll be fine.
Hope this helps~
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I got all black converse {the ones with black shoelaces and black "soles" (if that's what there called)}, and I want to wear them but I don't want to have to wear strictly black or white when I wear them. So basically my question is: How to I wear different colors with all black converse and still match? (link)
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My cousin has black vans, and she can pull them off with any dark colours, so I think you can do the same. Just wear all dark, like dark blue, probably not green, dark purple, dark red, dark yellow, dark orange, etc.
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I grew up catholic born and raised my parents are crazy catholic. I broke their biggest rule I had sex I have been having sex for months with my boyfriend. They found out this past new years , and made me give him up. They said till he graduates (hes a year younger, I graduate this year). But until then no contact aloud no texting facebook ect. no in person contact. We talk and pass notes at school I can't seem to give him up. Do I go against my parents wishes and try to be happy or go with what they say and be miserable. Most people say oh hey you'll make it highschool relationships never last but I don't think that's true I think that as long as we both try it can work. But I cannot afford to move out so im stuck living under my parents rules. My life is a mess because I feel like I have to choose between my family and my boyfriend. help please? (link)
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Do whatever makes you happy! Your parents can control a lot of things, but not who you love. It usually is a problem when the guy is older and it's like that, but since you're older it'll probably have a lot less problems. Plus, it's only a year difference. That's not a big deal at all. I don't want to tell you to rebel against your parents and all that, but you have to do what makes you happy.
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My parents started not caring once i turned 10, as they never planned a party since, so i think it led to me kind of having a complex about age. while other kids celebrated turning 13, 16, etc. with their friends, i just would get a cake, and if i was lucky, like $20. i feel like i missed out on those important birthdays.. you're only those integral years once. is a 43rd birthday really as special as a 16th? i feel kind of anxious about it. birthdays instead went from being fun party days to sad days i hated. when i have kids, i want to celebrate all their birthdays, even when they become adults. even if they're far away in college i'd send a gift or something. it's not like my family couldn't afford birthday parties even at our house. but it's like.. it stopped mattering to my parents, and they wonder why i had trouble with friends and everything. if my future child had trouble making friends i'd organize activities and help her branch out, not just ignore the problem. my mom even goes to blame me for my lack of friends, even when i'm literally nice to everyone i meet. she just tends to not apparently be on my side with such matters, and can be as hurtful as a bully at times. don't get me wrong, i'm grateful she gives me food and clothing and what not but for someone who is so social and has so many friends i don't understand why she didn't help foster that sort of thing within me, when it caused me years of anguish, but i digress.
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I personally think that birthdays shouldn't come to a limit of when they matter or not. It's not normal to have it like that, and you're right, your mom should be doing that stuff for you. Maybe you should talk to her about it? It's best to talk these things out. But birthdays shouldn't come to an end of enjoyment, even though it does seem to happen over the years. They're all important in my opinion, whether you're turning 16 or 50. But that's just me.
Hope this helps some what~
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Me and this guy have been talking and hanging out for 2 months. Yesterday I hung out with the guy and we went to the movies and held my hand. After the movie, I went home and received a text from him saying he had a fun time.I replied by saying me to. After that we started just having a regular conversation. I just had to get off my chest and I told him that I liked him. He said that he liked me to. Today i haven't received and any text from him which I find surprising cause we text-ed everyday sooo someone please explain to me what has happen.Did i make a mistake? By the way I think he is inexperienced with girls. (link)
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Well then he probably doesn't know what to do next. So you might need to give him a little push, and make the next move. Unless something happened, I doubt you made a mistake. So you're going to need to try and make things happen at first, like make up a date for you two and make it happen, and if that doesn't work and he gets more distant or something, then you should confront him about it!
Hope this helps~
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What's 4.82+12.7= (link)
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I'm not good at math, but I'm pretty sure it's:
21.02
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