Hi I met this new person at my school and we are cool and we say hi to each other. I had problems with previous friendships that I followed and bugged them to much. my teacher found out that I met this new friend and she asked my friend if he had any problems with me hanging with him. and he said no. now the teacher told him that I need help with personal space and things. then she talks to me and she says he has some problems too ,like me. but she is making us both only allowing us to sit together once before school starts and we cannot sit together at lunch anymore and I can only talk to him in the halls at school. I am a little stress out about this and I am not sure if its unfair or fair. I kind of miss the old ways.
also on the first day this started at lunch he look over at me. I think he misses it too.
what should I do?
solidadvice4teens answered Thursday January 15 2015, 11:22 pm: Talk to your parents about it and the friendship. Ge them to talk to your teacher and ask why he/she is constantly separating you. Unless you both are being disruptive together or the friend is a complete bad influence than he/she should MYOB and focus on teaching their students.
If you and your friend feel singled out unfairly speak up about it even if the person is in a position of authority. You have the right to play with or be friends with whomever you please. Unless you've left something out here the teacher is out of bounds for doing this.
Then again, you mention that you have trouble with being seen as too needy, bugging people, following them and losing friends like this. If for any reason the teacher senses this with this friend of yours and is trying to keep you away than perhaps they are acting out of concern. If that's what is going on than I can see why he/she is doing this. Ask yourself honestly if you think that's the reason. If it is stay away from the friend for awhile. [ solidadvice4teens's advice column | Ask solidadvice4teens A Question ]
Dragonflymagic answered Thursday January 15 2015, 10:11 pm: What kind of school do you go to? I have never heard of anything like this. Back in the 60's we still had some teachers who liked to discipline with slaps and ear pulls and take the time to make judgements, set rules and punishments for individual kids...but that doesnt happen in todays schools. Teachers are only supposed to teach, not play God over the kids. Any behavioral issues if they truly exist are handled by other staff, counselors. This sounds unreasonable. And if no one ever complains, this teacher will continue to get away with it. Talk to your parents and let them know what is going on. If they don't approach the school staff about this, then you go to the school counselors and mention this. [ Dragonflymagic's advice column | Ask Dragonflymagic A Question ]
Ocalaphernella answered Thursday January 15 2015, 9:48 pm: Teachers aren't allowed to do that unless you two are causing problems or being "too distracting" or something like that. Talk to the teacher about it and say to not do that anymore, and if she doesn't listen, talk to the principle. You should be allowed to sit with your friend if you're not doing anything wrong.
Hope this helps~ [ Ocalaphernella's advice column | Ask Ocalaphernella A Question ]
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