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hey guys..my column has been the same for soooooo long now...so im gunna change it up a bit! any ideas please let me know! anyway..heres the ordinary junk...im kayla, im 14, i like in md close to dc, i go to rhs - home of the rams! yay haha, and i dn i just love helping people!

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how do you unsave your password on this website? so when you come to this website you have to log in instead of being logged in already..?
plz respond asap!

Before you close the window next time you leave, hit logout! Then when you sign in again just don't click "remember me" or whatever. Either way it leaves you logged in for a while but not like hours.

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i have alot of friends but whenever they go to do something they never invite me. for example today one of my friends called me and asked me if y friends were over and i said no and they said oh well i was gonna have you guys over and then im talking to her on the internet and all those people were invited except for me and i also asked this girl to homecoming and before she used to talk to me and now she wont say a word or pick up her phone i need help
im 16 and a male

About your friends, thats really messed up! Talk to them and ask them what's going on. Try to get a straight up answer from them, and you might want to start hanging out with some new poeple because it seems like these people aren't real friends! I'm sure you're a great guy, and you deserve great friends! About the girl and homecomming, maybe she just got nervous! Try talking to her in person, and be like do you want to go as friends or not? If you put as friends, it takes off alot of pressure and commitment. If you need anything else, just ask! And let me know how this all works out! x0x0x0x0x

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Please, members of this site, stop putting that in your messages!

When you beg and plead for people to "not delete" things, it flags your message. It makes us think that there is probalby something wrong with the question and that it probalby DOES need deleted.

Don't do it!

Also, if a question gets moderated with enough 1 ratings (the frowny face), IT IS AUTOMATICALLY DELETED. That's how the system works.

There's a list of questions that are automatically deleted. It is clearly stated in the Help/FAQ section.

Stop asking the moderators to "not delete" your questions.

Your pal,

MFS

I agree. People who say "Mods don't delete!" know that in a way, they're question was dumb or pointless, or else they wouldn't say it. It also, like MFS said, draws more bad attention to your question!

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are ther any sites that are free that will let me submit my own poetry?
please mods dont delete.thanks.

www.firehotquotes.com and www.lovepoetry.com both let you submit work! x0x0x

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my friends and i all hang out with the same group of guys all the time. ive liked one of the guys(greg) on and off since like last february. we went out for about a month(it was a pointless relationship cuz i only saw him like 4 times) antways, i recently found out from my friend that another kid in our little group, lets call him kyle, likes me. im not sure if kyle really likes me and ive never really tohught of him as more than a friend, but he is very cute and nice. lately, ive been thinking less about greg and ive been considering the possibilities with kyle. ive liked greg so much for so long and i dont think he likes me back. i dont want to start liking kyle just cuz he likes me, and also im afraid if something happens with me and kyle, ill still get jealous of other girls who like greg..... sorry its kinda confusing but i need help! xOx thanks in advance :)

Maybe you should try going for Kyle! Change isn't bad! And it's not like you can never go back to Greg. Haha you probably will be jealous when Greg likes other girls or when other girls like him, that's normal because a part of you will probably always like him. But if you got to know Kyle better and started to like him, then you didn't just like him because he liked you, he just opened up a door of opportunity! If you tihnk you like them both then dont go out with either one until you make up your mind because it's not fair to the other person. Also don't lead these guys on. Find out from Kyle if he likes you. Just casually start a conversation and somehwere in the middle ask him who he likes. Make sure you watch him though because you can tell best by body language. If he blushes and says no one and then changes the subject, then chances are he likes you! And if you like him then go for it! It's not like your making a life long comitment my breaking away from Greg for a bit. Just have fun! Good luck x0x0xx

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Okay Where do i start theres this guy(Johnta) who i have been goin off and on with for the past two years.. and recently i broke up with him because i started liking this guy(Steve) i met at the beginning of school, i mean yea me and Johnta went to the same school but he never walked me to class and whenever i did see him all he did was give me a handshake like he was ashamed of me or something, and people came up to me and was like "Johnta said yall dont go out" and we did.. so i decided that maybe i should get to know steve better and i did and he treats me with respect, he walks me to class, carries my bookbag, and just makes me smile whenever i am around him, But now Johnta and Steve dont like each other because of me the other day they were about to fight in school and they didnt but they were in each others face and the only thing that came out of johntas mouth was " Fuck You! You Fucked With My Heart!" and i felt really bad.. but steve really likes me and i can tell he acts like it but when me and johnta were goin out johnta acted like we didnt.. i just dont understand why ALL OF A SUDDEN johnta acts likes he cares.. I Cant break up with steve i've gotten to know him and I REALLY like him ALOT.. all my friends tell me to break up with steve but they just dont understand how i feel.. what should i do?

I think you should stay with Steve because it's obvious you like him alot..and who cares what your friends say. Johnta probably all of a sudden cares because he didn't know what he had until he lost it, he probably thought "Oh I can treat her however I want because she'll never leave." And then all of a sudden you did and he got a smack on the face. You don't deserve someone like that anyway, you deserve someone who knows how great you are 24/7 (posibly like Steve?) and will treat you with respect. Talk to Johnta and if he says "You fucked with my heart." again say "well you fucked with mine..the difference is you expected me to sit back and take it." And maybe he'll understand. He's going to be hurt for a while because it can't feel good to have your girlfriend leave you for another guy, but eventually he'll realize its for the best. Until he does, just give him some time to cool off and enjoy your new man! Good luck and I hope everything works out! x0x0x0x0x0x

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Okay well i am really upset because i was with my boyfriend for over 1 year and i have had enough of it yesterday. He told me that he didn't love me and that i don't know anything about love and he called me a bitch and childish! I love him with all my heart and it hurts me so much that i am not with him anymore, i broke up with him because i couldn't take it anymore. So after that i came in to my room and sat down at my computer and i started to break down crying and i think i had a mental break down. He said it would be better for me and him if i would treat him like a boyfriend and if i would grow up more. So i guess i am asking, how do i do those two things.

-Katie-

Well show him you love him, don't just tell him! Take him to suprise dinners, give him little presents every now and then, don't tell him u love him 24/7 because that makes it less special when you do say it. About the childish thing, just dont complain over little things, dont act like you're 5 all the time, and don't make a huge deal out of little things. If you already do everything I just mentioned, then maybe your boy is the one who needs to grow up! Calling you a bitch and stuff...what's more immature than that?? But I hope everything works out for you x0x0x0xx0

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My mother and I went to Sam's Club where you can buy everything in bulk, including a one gallon jug of syrup. When we got home the syrup jug had cracked open and spilled all over the inside of my trunk. We tried our best to scoop up what we could, but it is just soaked into the carpet, and is really sticky. My car smells like a pancake house! What can I do to clean up this mess?

Go to the carwash and tell them what happened and have them clean it out with a machine! If they can't do it you might want to try calling a carpet cleaning company, and either ask them what to do or have them come clean it. x0x0x0x

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I really like this guy I met him the first day of school when him and all his friends came up to me to tell me I was hott and he was just standing there so I talked to him its been 13 days since we met but I feel like its been more then that anywayz Today we were hugging alot and holding hands I was hugging him when someone said AWW u guys are so cute U should go out So i said ok I will then he said NO she doesnt want to SO everyone was like u just missed a big huge chance to ask her out then all of a sudden hes like I have a girlfriend I cant WHy didnt he tell me sooner and what should I do about this?

Well think about it, do you really want a guy like that anyway? Hugging and holding hands with another girl if you were his girlfriend? Maybe he does like you though, and if you told him you liked him maybe he'd go with you. Just tell him how you feel and see where it goes from there!! x0x0x0x I hope it all works out.

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Ok, im 7ft tall, and of course a guy. It seems like every time i approach a girl shes always so afraid of me. She never wants to talk to me and hold a convo. w/ me. When people do talk to me, they always ask how tall i am, then sit and stare. Why are girls so afraid of me? and how do you suggest i cure this problem, and maybe advise on how to keep the convo going w/o it dropping off at how big my feet are.

Girls are probably scared of you because they might feel challenged by your height. There's alot of wierd people out there, and they might feel intimidated when a man much bigger than them apporaches them. I dn how you can cure the problem, but just try to show the girls that they shouldn't be frightened by your height. Don't say it flat out lol, but just when you approach them say something really really nice or sweet, and if they're worth your time at all, they'll talk to you! You seem pretty nice anyway! About how to keep the conversation going, make it about HER. Figure out what she's interested in, what she likes to do, hobbies, and then let one subject roll to another! Don't make it stalkerish though haha! Good luck x0x0x. Oh by the way..do you play basketball?? If you don't, you'd probably be good! :D

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ok this gurl likes me and i like her yadda yadda yadda...but she says taht she doenst know if she can take it the next step because i dont go to church regularly...if i did, then she said she would take our relationship further...but i hardly ever go to church...and i usually work on sundays...wat should i do?

Tell her how you feel!! Church or not..I'm sure you're a GREAT guy who can treat a girl just as well as any other guy can! Tell her that you respect that she does go to church everyday, and she should respect that you dont. If she can't accept that than she's not worth it because she'll just try to pressure you into more things in the future! Try talkng to her though. Good luck!! x0x0x0x

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i just got around to my 7th day of my period and it was pretty much all done [less and less coming out], but all of a sudden, it got really heavy again!! why is this happening? does it happen a lot during this time?

If you jus startd a few months ago then you might just be a bit off schedule. It'll probably only last a few days if that. If it goes on for more than like 3 days then see a doctor! x0x0x

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does anybody know how to change the font on there advice column or does it have to stay the same?? thanx so much xoxo

It stays the same unless you change the layout. x0x0x!!!

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ok well i like this guy*austin* and he was my ex- boyfriend and i went out with another guy after i went out with austin! and now like 7 months later i like austin again... *sigh* i mean he doesnt think im pretty or hott or nething! and i mean my school is kinda "ghetto" so the guys like girls who have big butts and big breasts and ya all of that stuff! and i dont have ne of that ( i dont care really) but i have a feeling austin likes girls like that i think he likes my best friend
but like when im on the phone with him ( hes like a real good friend of mine) he says he doesnt like nebody which is bull shit b/c he likes so many people! i just dont no wat to do ive tried to get my friends to talk to him saying like omg shes like so hott! yall would b awesome together.. etc. he just makes me feel bad about my self like i dont know just like im a piece of dirt now. i guess he wants to b more of a best friend then a boyfriend right now but still i dont no...
please please i need help sorry if it isnt a great question but i need help on this situation!
thanks//
xoxo
sweetheart00

Don't let him make you feel that way! No guy is worth it! And I'm sure you're very pretty! :D Don't like accuse him of liking people though lol because that might piss him off. Talk to your bestfriend and see how she feels about him. But also if she likes him..don't try to keep them apart because if you really care about him you'll want him to be happy! And you're not going to like this but maybe right now a friendship is the best relationship for you guys. You can get to know each other alot better and maybe figure out why your relationship didn't work...then maybe when you and him are ready to try again you wont make the same mistakes! Just try to be there for him and if it's meant to happen it will!! x0x0x0x good luck!

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I have this problem. There is this girl I like, Lea, but she has a boyfriend...or rather had. I found out today that they broke up this morning, and i get the feeling it may be becos of me, due to her knowing i like her and i knowing she likes me to, but she's been with her boyfriend for 2 years. But the problem is, I don't think i like her ENOUGH to go out with her, but there is this other girl, Jo, who also has a boyfriend that i like more, quite abit more. What Should i do? I turned 17 this year, Lea is 17 (18 end of this year) and Jo is 16.

Don't lead any of these girls on. Talk to Lea and tell her that you have feelings for her, but they aren't strong enough that you would want her to break up a two year relationship. My opinion is don't tell Jo how you feel just yet because you don't want her to feel pressured to make any drastic decisions. But deffinitly tell Lea what's going through your mind! Good luck x0x0x

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does anyone know where i can get cute little hair bows? go to my column it's xxxxxx or go to my picturetrail. see the green bow that i'm wearing? well i need more of those, in different colors, but similar, possibly bigger. i've looked in every store at the mall and can't find any, but i know theyre out there! please only give me stores if you know for sure they have them... thanks!

You can get bows at any arts and crafts store like Michaels or Party City or something!

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hi im whitney im a girl and im 13!
I have a on going problem with my friend. We hang out a lot and shes there for me...most of the time. My problem is everytime I meet a guy and start likeing him, they end up likeing her. I personaly don't just think It's the guys fault either, shes a very competitive person. Whenever I hang around with her AND guys shes a totally differnt person and doesnt act herself just to get guys. I was wondering what should I do. I dont want to change who I am like she does. I have like several guys before and each time it seems like she goes after them just to be competitive and show me up. She is a good friend..when she isnt around the guys. I have tried bringing it up to her before but she says stuff liek "oh im so i know how you feel...i just feel like cutting up my whole body so guys dont like me OR oh im sorry I wish I had a big blanket to cover up my body" then that makes me feel bad about myself..sorry this is long. Thanx soo much!

Hmm if they only like her for her body then they're no good anyway! Lol. Umm if talkng to her about it doesn't work, maybe just keep them away from her! Like when you like a guy, go over and talk to them by yourself, don't bring her along! And when you see them outside of school, ask a different friend to go! Don't like ditch your friend or whatever, but don't let her take your men! Haha! Just like...make the guys want you haha! Leave them wanting more, and show them that you're not intimidated or whatever when you're around her. Don't change yourself or whatever, but have a really kick ass personality! But yeah just try to keep her away from them hehe! Good luck! x0x0x

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Okay, this guy really likes me and stuff like that. i am starting to like him to, but he isn't the cutest guy ever, what should I do??

Who cares how he looks! If you like him go for him, and eventually you'll like him so much that you'll actually think he's cute! Lol.

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well im 13 years old and im having hard time with guys like i would go out with one and the same time i would like another one i would flirt with him even though i have a bf and sometimes times i cheat on my bf and i think its really bad i wanna change i was trying to etleast but it doesnt really work tell me how do i change my self and why do i like alot of guys at the same time and what should i do about it??

Just stay single for a while! Flirt with everyone but don't make yourself look like a whore! Just "date" a bunch of guys so you're not tied down, don't have a boyfriend, just date poeple! And have fun picking the right one!

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hey umm idk if this is under the right category but w.e..well i was wondering if wearing bronzer to school is appropriate like it isn't too dressy or w.e and if it isn't what brand do you recommend(powder or that liquid stuff)? and also what eyeshadow that last all day that is more a neutral color (like beige, brown, bronze etc..)that is shimmery is good a good brand to buy?

Bronzer is fine!! All the NYC make up is really good and cheap! I don't use their bronzer because I don't need it, but they have the best shimmery eye shadow! Lol it's called pink champaigne (the color is) and it's like a champaigny color! Lol good stuff!

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