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Not much to say about me...But here is a site for those of you that need some advice :) It is anonymous so don't be shy, if you have a problem, tell me about it! If you want to know more about me or who i am, check my xanga site!

My friend is rather cool fyi, heck, but he's definitely not as cool as me.

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Ok, I have this friend who I've known since like kindergarden, and she started to hang out with the people who I absolutly despise. They (I'm sure of) are using her, just to get back at me. Becasue they hate me to. So one of the girls she is haging out with, started to call me a Lesbian because me and my friend (who is a girl) were walking down the hallway locked arms (which I think is harmless). So my friend started to belive it. I thought she knew me well enough to know I'm not. I love boys I flirt with boys not girls! OMG she got me so mad. Well anyway the rumors stoped because I set everyone straight, but my firned is acting like nothing happened! She didn't even apoligesed to my face! How am I supposed to deal with such a back-staber!?. Plus I don't want to loose her as a friend. But right now, we are kinda on the edge of ending the friendship! PLEASE help!

You just need to talk to her. Sit her down and tell her how everything is to you. How they are using her and how you are worried about your friendship with her. if you have known eachother for so long then I;m sure she will understand and see what you mean. You may get in a little fight but very doubtful. if you need anymore advice leave a message in my inbox. Hope I helped and good luck!

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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I was on AIM the last night and some guy IMed me from my school and started harrassing me calling me a slut and a bitch... stupid stuff like that. My friend's dad is a cop and I asked him what I should do since this was not the first nor the second time it has happened to me. He told me that I could find out his IP address. If I didn't know who he was, there was nothing they could do about it unless I knew who he was. Does anyone know how I can find out who this guy is and how I find his IP? Thank you so much if you can help!

well...im unsure of how to find out his IP adress, BUT if you cant find out when he is logged off, then create another sn and find it out on that one since he hasnt blocked you one it. Hope this little tip helps you! Good luck!!!

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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why do guys suck so much?

because they are mofo jerks who are uncapable of understanding anything or anyone but themselves in the entire universe.:)

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ok my grandma is coming 2morrow and she wants my xmas list i have no clue what i want she spend like 80 bucks on me,im 13/f, i dont want like makeup or bath & body works stuff. i need ideas thanks
i give 5s to everyone

Ask for giftcards. I always enjoy getting those because then you can buy whatevah you want. Some malls have those information booths and you can go there and get giftcards for the mall. And you can use the giftcard for any store in the mall. Hope i helped! :)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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Okay so i need some help in helpin out my best friend.. so here goes with some background information. my friend met this kid over the summer at her camp, well it turns out he lives in the neighborhood where we go to school at. well my friend chills with him sometimes and she really likes him ALOT, but the thing is he says he doesn't want a girlfriend and everything but he's trying to get my friend to have sex with him!! i mean she asked me for advice and i told her she shouldn't because i mean she's 14 and she shouldn't lose her virginity to this guy who she doesn't even go with.. and it's kind of obvious that all he wants is to hit it.. well she went to 2nd base with him and i'm afraid she's gonna do it with him and he's gonna like stop talkin to her or just use her for sex. i mean i don't want that to happen to her but she won't listen to me she like wants him to like her. and he'll say all this stuff like yea after we have sex we'll go out, and i'm like yea bullshit. but she believes his lies and she needs to wake up and smell the coffee..lol.. so what can i do to help her out? help me out please. thankies i'll rate you too.. buh bye.

wow...This is a very though situation. Tell her that if she does that he is going to end up either a. using her more or b. leave her in the dust. Also tell her that condoms work i think 85% of the time. And believe it or not a lot of people get pregnant even when using them. Tell her that waiting until she is in love is better than now, Also say that having sex with him is not going to make him like her more. It is just going to make him USE her more. This is a very tough situation as i said, and i wish i could help you more. Leave a message in my inbox if you need more advice. I hope I helped and good luck.

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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well..my friend is being really annoying..recently a guy has hurt her..and all she does is talk bout him and its getting very annoying..im tired of hearing about it..i dont want to be mean and tell her to shut up..but what should i do?! help me please!

Well,you dont have to say "shut up" just tell her how ya feel. Tell her you are sorry that that happened to her but she needs to let go. If you arent up for saying that then just change the topic. Hope i helped and good luck :)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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ok...i have been going out with this guy for about a month now...he has become one of my best friends too...any ways....my friend is all over him ALL the time! she hugs him, holds his hands...and i dont like it...im going out with him not her! im not jealous....i just dont like it! what should i do!?!?!? thank you soooo much!

Tell her to stop. Because if she were your friend she wouldnt do that. She has no right to be even remotely flirting with him. Just tell her that its pissing you off and if shes your friend then she should be able to understand. Hope i helped, and good luck! :)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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hi, im 13/m i have this gf we started going out like 2 months ago and its been really cool and i really like her alot but now i found out shes been smokin pot and drinken and shes only 13 though it was her first time it was kinda shocking cuz i expectede more from her i still like her but i sont kno if i wanna handle this i dont know what to do should i keep going out with her.

Definetly break up with her. You dont want to get involved with someone like that. It reflects off of you and if you date her then people might think you do tha stuff. And that is not the way you should want people to think of you. Plus this could cause many fights and arguements between the two of you so in the end it wont be worth it. You should move on. Hope i helped and good luck!

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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do guys like it if girls ask them to dance or go out w/ them...ive always wondered. or does the guy have to do it all?

No, the guy doesnt always have to. Its just more common for a guy to. There is nothing wrong with the girl being assertive. Hope I helped :)

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how do i get my own advice column...?

Just go to the home page and register. They should have instructions. Hope i helped :)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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ok i need a good dance mix or w/e that i can get online for a dance rutine (lmao i cant spell) ok but yea i need a good beat n shit for one of my dances so if u guys have ne good songs i can download please help me out

They have some really cool song on the Dirty Dancing: Havavna Nights sound track. Check it out. Hope i helped. :)

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I have very clear skin.. pretty much no pimples at all.. But I do have a few small reddish pimples around the edge of my nose.. how do i get them to go away? Thanks i rate high!

Just wash your face atleast once or twice a day. Velocity works great. Its a Mary Kay brand. Also clearisil. Hope i helped :)

~*~*~ren~*~*~

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ok, well i have had a boyfriend for bout almost 9 Months and we were off and om like weve taken maybe like3 or 4 breaks, he is tottaly in love with me and SUPER COMMITED irs just that i feel like i lost thepassion with him like i dont feel the same way i used to be round him, and like there is another guy that likes me and i kinda have a Crush on him and ive been thinking bout him latey, but then i think back to my boyfreind and its like i cant let him go bcux weve been tho t0o much like hes at my hyouse all the time and hes SUPER CLOSE to my parents and i duno.. its jus hard and im confused becuase like i want the passion for himto come back becuase then evrything wood b perfect but hes the one thats all happy nd it seems like lately im jus pre-tending to me. Like i dont want to leave him to go off with anothe gu who i kno but not good enough to be like that. PLus i wouldnt NEVER want to hurt my boyfreind Becuase i feel like i care to much.. im jus Really confused.. what do you think?

Definetly stay with your boyfriend. That happens a lot in relationships. The "passion" will be gone. But just try talking to him about it and tell him how you feel right now. Tell him you still luv him and that you dont want to end the relationship. Just tell him that you dont want anything to happen but you are worried that you arent as passionate as before. If you have been together that long you should be able to talk to eachother about anything so if you feel weird talking to him about it, dont. Its not a very big deal and ive known a few couples that have gone through that stage. Hope i helped and good luck :) Tell me how it goes.

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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okay so my boyfriend we have been dating for about 3 months now and we talk on the phone constantly! i mean i really love him but i have a life and i dont have time to just talk to him for hours every night! and like when he calls he barley has n e thing to say! wut should i do? i dont wanna break up with him but i mean it will b really hard to tell him not to call me n e more!

aahhh please help me sooon!! b4 he calls again!! lol jk but yea i need advice soon

just tell him when he calls that you are a little busy and that you will call him tomarrow or something. Hope I helped :)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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ok this one of those annoying questions but some ppl dont understand what its like.. i've been mildly anorexic on and off since 5th grade (im in 9th). the thing is im a naturally tall skinny person, i know that, but im like obsessive. im 5'6 and like 106 pounds. my friends are like i'd kill to be as skinny as u but i feel FAT! my other friend tells me im like lara flynn boyle (i dont even no who that is!) lol.. i just want to lose like 3 pounds but im afraid of getting "addicted" to it.. i just dont no what to do. i dont want to be anorexic but i'll be very unhappy if i dont lose like 3 pounds... even though i know im skinny but at the same time i feel FAT and that takes over me.. its really confusing.. AHH what should i do?

You're not fat. There are so many great ways to lose weight without stopping eating. Diets, excercise etc etc etc. You know. Becoming anorexic is actually really bad for you. You may be loosing weight but it is really bad for your body in the end. You arent getting the proper stuff you need for your body at all. You are wasting away to nothing! Plus, weight is a number. It depends on how much FAT you have on you. Most of weight can be muscle. Thats how I am. I am mostly muscle. You probably think you need to lose weight but you dont. Burn your scale. Stop weighing yourself everyday and let it go. Listen to your friends because they are right. Good luck and i hope i helped :)

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Is there any way to help speed up the recovery of a small cut?

Band aids :)

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There's this guy who I've been in love with 4 like more than past 6 months. He knows I like him but it seems as if every time i try to IM him he'll either sign off or seem not too interested in talking to me. The only class I have with him is study hall but we never talk there. I really want to talk to him more because maybe if he got to know me better than he might start liking me. I also want to get to know him better. There's no time tho where i could really talk to him in person and i dont know what to say. I really want to be with him and have conversations and stuff. What should i do? please help!

Try not to smother him. Im not saying you are, just lay low. Play hard to get even. before talking to him just get his attention. Wear cute clothes and be confident. Guys LOVE confidence. Then after completing that try IMing him again but just be casual and dont im him right away wait a few minutes. Then if he responds dont respond right away, wait a few seconds so he doesnt think he is the main priority (which he is). But if he doesnt answer you the first IM dont try IMing him again. just leave it there. Then just keep being confident in school. When you talk to him in school be flirty. I hope i helped and good luck :)

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Hi again! Thanks for rating me :) In order for him to know you are confident smile a lot and never look down when he passes you in the hallways. Keep your head held high. Laugh a lot and talk to a lot of people when he is around and he'll realize you are a friendly person. Good luck and tell me how it goes!

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Okay so my friend just told me that my other friend got raped about 2 years ago.. and I am just now finding this out. And oh my god, I didn't believe her at first, but I know she wouldn't lie about something like this. Ah I am in total shock, I like still can't believe it. I just don't want to believe it... oh my god but I really need to tell my mom, she's good friends with my friend's mom and she deserves to know. But how in the world do I tell her? I like can't come right out and say it.. ahh I really just want to forget about all this though... HELP!!

Wow..you need to talk to your friend first of all because she needs moral support over all. Because there is always going to be something in the back of her mind that will make her remember that. So just make sure she is ok and talk to her about it. try not to act weird around her either. When it comes to your mom, just sit your mom down and tell her what happened. there is no need to be weird about it around your mom and dont be afraid about it. Your mom will understand and she will know what to do. best of luck and i hope it works out for the best, Hope i helped!

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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I`m a senior in high school. I`m turning 18 soon but my boyfriend will still be 17. If we have sex after my birthday, will that be illegal?

Yes...sorry. Just wait until he turns 18 and then it will be ok :) Hope i helped.

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Ok so me and my boyfriend broke up like over 5 months ago and after that things just went downhill with our friendship, i mean i tried staying friends with him n talking to him but he didnt seem to want to. So like over the past week everytime I see him, I always get a hug and he's always talking to me in the halls. Then I was at my friends house and he just randomly showed up. I thought I was over him, since he never talked to me but now that he's talking to me and being all nice, I can't stop thinking about our past. I dont know what to do.

Well, considering the fact that he has been the one initiating the convos and all then maybe he likes you again. Talk it over with him. Never hurts. and you donthave to be obvious about it either. Just start talking to him and once you have been talking for awhile just ask who he likes. Something like that. Im still trying to figure out my current situation as well :P Hope i helped and good luck! Tell me how it goes :)

~*~*~Ren~*~*~

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