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Oh my god, I just found out something extremely horrible..
Okay so my friend just told me that my other friend got raped about 2 years ago.. and I am just now finding this out. And oh my god, I didn't believe her at first, but I know she wouldn't lie about something like this. Ah I am in total shock, I like still can't believe it. I just don't want to believe it... oh my god but I really need to tell my mom, she's good friends with my friend's mom and she deserves to know. But how in the world do I tell her? I like can't come right out and say it.. ahh I really just want to forget about all this though... HELP!!
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I'm sorry to say this, but it isn't your mothers buisness. It isn't fair of you to be telling people about this girl's rape. I know it must be a big shock to you to find out, but that doesn't give you the right to tell whomever you like. Who knows is the girl concerned buisness and nobody elses. If she wants to tell your mother or her mother, it needs to be on her perogative, not just because somebody else felt they should be told. She will tell them when she's ready - it's not up to you to take that away from her.
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just when u feel comfy tlkn to ur mom about other things just bring it up and tell her. youll fel better aftrward. hope i helped.
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If you really feel like you can tell your mom anything, then tell her directly. But, if you're not sure about telling her, then don't. Wait some time and maybe later, you might feel more comfortable sharing.
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Wow..you need to talk to your friend first of all because she needs moral support over all. Because there is always going to be something in the back of her mind that will make her remember that. So just make sure she is ok and talk to her about it. try not to act weird around her either. When it comes to your mom, just sit your mom down and tell her what happened. there is no need to be weird about it around your mom and dont be afraid about it. Your mom will understand and she will know what to do. best of luck and i hope it works out for the best, Hope i helped!
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If you REALLY think that is necessary to tell ur mom,and there's NO WAY u can tell her with words in person,write to her a note or a letter.But it would be better if u relax take a deep breath,keep in mind what ur going to say,organize ur thoughts and go right to her.
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This is a situation to approach with a great deal of caution. I would be extremely careful because you're hearing this information secondhand, which means you don't know all of the details. To be blunt, your friend really never should have told you, it was a total violation of the rape victim's trust. Regardless, ask the friend who told you a few questions:
1. Do the victim's parents know about the assault?
2. Is the victim getting counseling?
3. Does the victim know about community agencies in the area that may be able to help her?
If the answer to all of these questions is “no” you'll want to take some action. Look in the phone book or online (under “sexual assault” or “rape”) to find an agency in your area designed to assist sexual assault victims. If you can't find one, call the agency that assists domestic violence victims. Get the phone number and address for this agency. Give this information to the friend who told you about the assault and tell her to pass it along to the victim. If she refuses or the victim doesn't want the information, call the agency yourself and ask for more advice.
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You shoud definitely go to your friend who got raped first...cuz I know how it is...my friend got raped when she was like 5 and I was like woah and found out when she was barely turning 13 and I was like Girl, you gotta tell your mom or someone! and she was like no and shit but I encouraged her too...maybe you should ask her if she wants to go to a counselor and talk bout it go to her mom and tell her and that's how it might work!!!
Please RATE hoped I helped!!!
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i wouldnt say anything because maybe the friend that got raped didnt want you to know, and telling an adult would only upset her. talk to her about it and see how she is doing emotionally. ask her if she would like you to arrange someone to talk to about it, but if she wants to keep it to herself, let her. getting raped is something that the victim has to deal with herself if she wants to.
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Go to the friend first. But wait for a good moment? I don't know how you'll find one but you need to. She may have already delt with the law stuff and her mom may already know. If this is the case, keep it to yourself. She def doesn't want anyone knowing. If she hasn't done anything, tell her she should. But don't be to nosey about it, lol if that makes sense. Hope I helped!
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Hayy! I have had somthing sorta like this happen to me..my friend was doing drugs and all these **BaD** things!! What you should do is tell your mom, one day just have you and mom time. Talk about somthing and then be like mom, I NEED to tell you somthing! and then go right off and tell me! Thats what i would do! :)
Hope I helped ya!
-Mary-beth-
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Just tell her. Your friend might be really 'messed up' by the experience. Just say that I need to talk to you. (your mom)
It'll be a really akward conversation. Oh and have you talked to the friend that was raped? She might be working things out and just doesn't want to spread it around, it's not something to be proud of and i wouldn't recomend you telling neone either. Hope i helped!
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