I went out with this guy name josh for 3 months then we broke up. When he got a new girlfriend, we hated each other. We didnt even know each other, but just the fact that she went out with him i hated her adn she hated me because i used to go out with him. Well 2 weeks ago me adn cheyenne(his girlfriend) started talkin and became good friends. Well she wants me to go to the movies with her next weekend, but josh is gonna be there too. I still have feelings for him and me adn him dont talk that much anymore. So i think it would be really weird and uncomfortable going. She really wants me to go though. I do wanna go .. but when they start kissing i am gonna get sad and my face might get red or something. Should i still go? What all should i do?
I think you should go. You said it yourself, you wanna go. Dont let an Ex-Boyfriend keep you from what you want to do. Besides, if you go then that will show him that the past is the past and your not letting him get to you. It will show how strong of a person you are. I also think you should take a close guy friend with you so it isnt so awkward. It should help you to relax. If not, at least take another friend to ease the pressure. Enjoy yourself and have fun! Its awesome that you like his new girlfriend also! You should continue hanging with her if you really like her. Hope I helped!
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Okay, usually advice on my relationship is the last thing I need, but you know what, I want/need advice.
Here's the situation.
My guy and I have been together for about a year and a half. I'm 17, he's 18, if it matters. This year (senior year for both of us), I'm going to a prom at my old school with one of my guyfriends. In the beginning, my boyfriend didn't have a problem with it, but he just called me and we talked for like half an hour about it. Apparently, he doesn't like the way my guyfriends look at me.
Now here's where half the problem lies. I have a LOT of guyfriends. I mean I have like 5 female friends and the rest are guys. I always felt more comfy around guys than I did with girls. The thing is, I know he's right. There are a lot of my guyfriends that I know like me, but the thing is - They know they could never get anywhere with me because I'm utterly devoted to my one and only.
But he's said he's gritted his teeth and not kicked their asses because he wanted me to be happy.
First of all, how the hell do I get him to stop hating my guyfriends so much? They like him, and they think he's good for me - I agree, he is, which is why I accepted his proposal.
(Don't freak out, it's gonna be a looooong engagement.)
Secondly, what can I do to make him feel better about the whole going-to-another-prom-with-another-guy thing?
There was another situation earlier this year when I had to kiss someone onstage, and he was kind of disgruntled about it in the beginning, but he turned out to be okay with it. When I brought this up, he told me he was okay because he was there to see it, and when he was there, the guy I had to kiss acted like he had no interest in me whatsoever (offstage).
I told him it sounded like he didn't trust me, and he said he did, he just didn't trust my guyfriends.
My guyfriends are like my brothers. Yes, okay, I know a few of them like me, but they're not getting anywhere, and their feelings for me are becoming a long running joke.
So what I do about my boyfriend's issues? He's not a jealous guy, really, and this is the first time I've ever had this issue with him.
So basically, help me out. What do I tell my guy? How do I fix the tension between my boyfriend and my guyfriends? Help me out, please.
I don't mean to be discriminatory, however, I rate ones for stupidity and fours for bad grammar and spelling. Thanks in advance!
Let me see if I can tackle this one. lol. Ok, first of all, I think that your boyfriend does trust you. My boyfriend was in a play once and he had to pretend to be dating this girl onstage. Now, they didnt kiss or anything, but she slapped him on the butt. Now, I know this sounds dumb, but I freaked! So, I would say that if he didnt make an issue out of that, then he probably trust you. As far as your guy friends. If you know that they like you, then they have obviously told you that they like you. I dont think that is appropiate considering you have a boyfriend! It sounds like they need to back off a litle bit. Secondly, if this is your senior prom, WHAT ON EARTH ARE YOU GOING WITH ANOTHER GUY FOR??? That has to be the most inconsiderate thing I have heard. You wanna know why your boyfriend has a problem with it? Its not that he dont trust you, he has proven that he does. ITS BECAUSE HE WANTS TO BE WITH YOU AT PROM. This is supposed to be a special night. You should spend it with your boyfriend not some guy. I am totally with your boyfriend on that matter. Sorry! Lastly, I dont think that you should be engaged to this guy if you cant treat him right. He has told you that your going to prom with another guy is a problem and you dont care. All you talk about is how to "fix the tension". You need to be more considerate of how he feels about this because I think he is right. YOU NEED TO GO WITH HIM AND NOT SOME OTHER GUY!!!! I know my answer sounds harsh, and I am sorry for that. Dont be offended. Its not meant to be like that. I just think that you needed someone to give it to you straight and to be honest. I struggle with this myself because my boyfriend pretty much has all girl friends, but I trust him and love him. Hope I helped!
Sidenote: In responce to your comment. I DID READ THE QUESTION!!!! I guess it was just the way it was worded. And why did you say that I thought you were an inconsiderate bitch? I didnt say that. But, even if it is another prom, if your boyfriend has a problem with it then it IS inconsiderate to not think of his feelings. I dont know why you took offence to my question. You should have been prepared to take an honest answer if your going to post it. But, I wish you all the best! Good Luck!
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How long does it take for a symtom of an STD to show up? I just gave my boyfriend a blow job last night for the first time and now i have a sore in my mouth. Could it be an STD and should i be worried? Thanks so much.
Ok. To me, this sounds like a cold sore. Cold sores are type A herpes. Type A herpes is something that MANY people have. It is mainly genetic. Now, one important thing to note is that if it is a cold sore, this CAN be spread to the genitals as can Type 2 herpes (since you gave him oral). So. they could both be considered an STD although Type A is not really serious and is very common. Type A and B can both go to both the mouth and genitals so be careful. This is something that I have learned in College in my Health course. If this is a cold sore, I would not give your boyfriend oral while you have a cold sore present, just so that it wont get to his genitals although it wont harm or help him in any way. Find out what exactly it is on your lip. I would see a doctor. Also, to answer the other part of your question, STDs take MONTHS to show symptoms, so I doubt it could be from that specific night, although, if it is a cold sore, your boyfriend may get type A herpes on his genitals. TELL HIM! But also tell him that it is not too serious and it is nothing to worry about. Its just a genetic thing that some people have. Hope this helps!
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my parents have been really fucked up lately. i noe i shouldnt say that but it is true. i am 14 and they already telling me i CANT date or marry a black or mexican guy. just because they dont like them. i have called them raciest about it because they shouldnt be saying shit like that. this all started because my friend who is half black and half mexican was calling me and they found out about it. the shit my parents tell is bullshit. they wont let me talk to my friend because of his color. he isnt a bad guy. he was going to come to my house so i can give him something that he asked me for so i went outside to wait for him and my dad deicded that he had to come fallow me because he wasnt going to leave a teenager outside at 7:30 pm by her self. happly my friend didnt come but my parents need to stop wit this shit. I cant stand them but i dont know what to do can someone plz help me???
I think that for someone of your age, you really should try to respect your parent's values and decisions. I am not saying they are right, I am just saying that you are young and should respect your parents. You sound like you don't! As you get older, you will start to experience more freedom and it will be your decision on almost anything that you do in life. Just rememebr that things happen for a reason and if God wants you and this guy together, then it will happen! But, until then, please respect your parents hun. It will pay off later, trust me! A good relationship with your parents is the way to go. Hope this helps!
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My two friends are in an argument over a dress. I know it's stupid, but it just needs to end.
My friend went to the mall on Friday night and got a dress. Then on Sunday, my other friend went and got the same exact dress, only she didn't know the first one had already gotten it. We feel that whoever got the dress first should have it. That's the way our grup of friends has always agreed on these things. The friend who got the dress second went back to the mall and returned it- but got the same dress in a different color. Now they're arguing over it, and who should rightfully have it. I believe the two of them should either suck it up and deal with it, or both just get a new dress and not even worry about this anymore. Any input?
I think they both need to grow up a little and deal with it. Why does it matter if someone ownes the same dress. THEY BOTH HAVE A RIGHT TO OWN IT! Its America!
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Is it normal to have a late period?..like a 2 week-late period?Also,anyone have websites that would answer my questions please?
A late period is normal on occasion. Stress is usually what causes this. Just try to relax and be less stressed out and I am sure that you will find that you will have regular periods again. Hope I helped.
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ohk so i have liked this guy already for about a year. he says he likes me too but i dont think he does cuz one day he acts like it and the next day he dont. he keeps getting my hopes up and it hurts cuz i noe he's just messing me. he also keeps flirting with one of my best friends, and with everyone else he also tells them every single thing he says to me. so i am hurting so bad. what should i do ?
Sounds to me like this guy dosent like you as much as you like him. Its a tough break I know, but thats really how it appears to me. I think it is time for you to move on and forget about this guy. Dont worry, it will be easy with time. You will see! Hope you feel better!
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This boy admitted to liking me a while ago and I have recently told him I think we should just be friends. He wanted to go out with me during the summer. He doesn't listen and I think I need to run it by him again in different words...will this do?...."I need to talk to you, about this summer, I have to be honest, I don't think we should go out because I like you but not in that way and I don't think it will work out. You deserve someone who can return your affections for them. I just want to be fair with you. I'm sorry, but I want to be upfront." What do you think? and also, if u have anymore advice feel free to share the love.
I think your explanation will work just fine. Sounds great to me! Sad to hear your ending a relationship though!
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Hello, Im havin some guy problems see i started datin this guy named jason* and we lasted for about 3 months but we never talked to much around each other, and i moved so we broke up but then i came back and i still had a lot of feeling for him and we talk a lot now.i wanna get back together with him and he knows i still like him but doesn't do anything. i don't think he wants to date again because he knows before it was kinda werid when we were together but now we now one another better and aren't bashful around eachother. but i dunno what to do cause i really LOVE him but he doesn't seem to be doing anything about it i mean he flirts and stuff but thats it. like he wants to to come over and do stuff but he doesn't seem to wanna date and hes not the type of guy to do that...so i dont know how i can get him back or if i should move on?
Sign confused girl from tennesse*
I dont see any reason why you should give up on this guy. It apprears that you both like eachtoher and that the chemistry is there. He is probably just a little shy around you still. Give it a little more time. If, after a while, he still isnt making any moves, then I would talk to him. Explain to him how you feel and that you want to be with him again but you are not sure how he feel about that. You will know then how he really feel and hopefully can have a new relationship with this guy. Just give it time and take it slow! Best of Luck!
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... i love my boyfriend and never want to leave him .... its just sometimes ... i dont and i want to kill myself because he never seems happy with me ... he get irritated and even slaps me sometimes. But i dont want to break up! Please help ... I dont know what else to do
~ Hurtin' on the outside
First off, I think that you need realize that a slep is a sign of disrespect. Your boyfriend obviously has some issues with respcting you. You should talk to him about this. If you do not do anything about this slapping, this can usually lead to bigger and more serious type of abuse. I think you should reconsider if you really do love this guy and need him in your life. He is disrespects you now, trust me, it can only worse. Also, ask him why he is unhappy with you. It really isnt fair to stay with someone if it is making them unhappy. You should consider finding another boyfriend if he truely is unhappy. Its only fair. Hope this helps!
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ok well i got a boyfriend and he goes to my school and hes like in madly love with me and i dont rele like him anymore bc i think i found someone else...i met him at this ichthus thingy church camp and he goes to a different school and i see him every sunday and i think ive fallen in love with him!! and he likes me and we talk on the fone and everything and me and my boyfriend dont talk on the fone its at school and online nowhere else...but i just dont know what to do i just dont really like brian anymore and if i break up with him he'll have all his friends askin me why i dumped him or he'll be mad at me and i just dont no what to tell him!! HOW SHOULD I BREAK UP WITH HIM WITHOUT HIM BEING MAD AT ME!! ughh its all crazy ...but the thing is...kevin (the boy i really like) is moving at the end of the year!!! ahhh im so confused should i stay with brian even tho i dont rele like him or go out with kevin bc he likes me and i like him and then he moves at the end of the year and stuff HELP ME PLEASE!! -ashlee- i will rate u all 10s if u help :(
I think you should talk to Brian and be honest with him. Tell him exactly how you feel. He is going to be hurt no matter what you say, so there is no avoiding that. Your just going to have to deal with that if you break up with him. But, you really should break up with him if you dont like him any more. Its not fair to him if you dont and it will only hurt him worse in the end. Now, on to the Kevin guy. It sounds to me like you both are interested in eachother. However, I cation you that dating someone new right after a breakup inst really fair either. Its not fair to your ex, or your new boyfriend. You need time to fully move on from your old relationship before you move on to the new one. I would say to just let nature and God take thier course in this situation and just give it time. But, I would nto pursue anything with Kevin right at the moment. That wouldnt be right or fair. Maybe when he gets back from going away for the summer or something. But, for sure, give it time. Hope I helped!
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first off im a really good christian.. i love going to church and worshiping and stuff. i love sharing my faith with people. Im baptist raised. Im 14 years old and im a male.
So it all started a long time ago. i dont know when or where or with who exactly but it was like when i was in 5th grade. im in 8th now. but last year in the 7th grade i met the guy.. and we become really good friends. but i started having weird feelings for him that i wasnt sure about. at first i didnt know what it was. as the year went on, the feelings only continued to grow. then i realized what it was... i liked him more than a friend. but it couldnt be, not to me... its totally against my religion, against everything ive been thought by my family. the year ended.. and i was so confused. that summer i started going over to a friends house like everyday. and while in his neighborhood he introduced me to a couple of people there. and the moment i met one of them, hes was going into the 7th grade then, (a year younger than me) i knew i was hooked. i went back everyday that i could to my friends to see him. by this time i was totally giving into my feelings. i couldnt help it. all my life i was told that homosexuals made a choice to be that way. and in the bible it says that homosexualy will not be welcome into the kingdom of heaven. but i didnt make a choice.. it was just liek the feeling when you like someone... well i liked him a lot. the more i got to knnow him the more i liked him. i knew it was wrong, but i didnt care. and then i started looking at guys (mostly younger than me) and thinking they were cute.. and thinking perverted thoughts and stuff. which is a sin. (its lust) and every wednesday at churhc when we would be worshiping i would ignore the calling of god tellimg me that i was wrong, that i had to change. well.. a couple months ago i was fed up with it. i had to change, i prayed about it and it really has gone down a little bit. im not as obsessed as i used to be. but its still there. basically im looking for your view. 2 other pepple know and they are really big helps. really this is just for the christians cuz if you tell me that im wrong in thinking gays are going to hell, im gonna ignore it. because mo matter who right you think you are, your wrong. just tell me what you think.
Ok, I am a christian and have been since I was like 10. I was raised in a chirstian family, so, I think that I can help. First off, I, for one, do not believe that homosexuals go to hell. Thats just crazy to think that. God loves everyone. And that excludes NOONE! Now, on a more personal note, I also, personally, do not agree with homosexuality. I think that since the bible says it is wrong, then, point blank, it is wrong. End of dicussion. However, I know a few christians who are either lesbian or gay and they get along just fine. I dont think that it really matters if other people thik it is right or if they accept it. I think that all that matters is if you accept it and you can live with it. Just pray to God about it and ask him to lead you down the right path. If you think that being homosexual and christian is not wrong and that you can live with that, then, that is your choice. Noone can make that decision for you. However, if, deep down,you think it is wrong and you cant live with it. Then, I say it is time to change. And God can help you do that through prayer and worship with him. I just really do not think that other people's opinions matter in this situation. Hope this help. The ball is in your court now. Its up to you to figure out. I will pray for you!
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ok im goin out with a guy named david!! well we haven't been going out for a long time and i want to brake up with him!!! he is sooo nice and treats me like a princess!!!!! he's soo sweet but i dont know how to brake up with him!!!!!! i feel so guilty!! plz help me!!!!!!!! how should i brake up with him???!!! i rate high!!!
ineedhelp,
megan
Ok, first off, if this guy treats you like a princess then why break up with him? Trust me honey, those type of guys don't come around often so you have got to hold on to them as long as you can. So, my first piece of adivce would be to think about it some more and make sure that this is what you really want. In your question you make him sound like he is the greatest guy. Why get rid of him?
Secondly, if you must break it off, do it gently. You dot want to hurt him too bad. Try to do it face to face and not by phone or e-mail if you can. I think you should sit him down and explain to him why you feel like breaking up. He should understnad if they are valid reasons for wanting to leave someone. Just be as sweet as you can! Best Of Luck!
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Okay, me and my best friend have been friends for about 5 years. She has always helped me with my dating problems and I hvae always helped her with hers. But somethings scaring me. See, my boyfreind and my freind use to go to school together. They wern't good friends but they didnt hate each other. He was the kind of guy that EVERY girl wanted. But now I'm dating him. They have just recently became like really really really close. I don't mind them talking, but he talks to her more then he talks to me! And everytime I confront one of them about it, they just say their talking about me which I don't believe one bit. Sometimes when I get on AIM and my friend and my boyfriend are on and my boyfriends not talking to me, I'll IM my friend and ask if shes talking to him and she always says YES! And when I call either her or him, they sometimes tell me that they just got of the phone with eachother and they talked for hours! I don't know what to do anymore, and I want to know how to stop it without hurting one of them. I need your help!
This is a very difficult situation. It seems like your boyfriend and your best friend are leaving you out of a lot. They seem to be closer with eachother than they are to you. If I were you, I would talk to your friend and your boyfriend (maybe even at the same time) and tell them what is bothering you. The reason I say this is because sometimes when people become close to one person, they shut other people out and they dont even realize. I know because I have been on both sides of this operation, lol. I think that if you talk to them then it will make them away are of it (if they aren't already) and it should get better. If they refuse to stop in order for you to feel better, than neither one of them are really worth keeping in your life. They should worry about how you feel. Its only right! I think it will get better though. Hope this helps!
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if you have sex (and your a girl) and you have a physical. you know what the look down there so see if everything is alright. can see tell just from looking that you have had sex? and how
There is no real way to tell for sure that a girl has had sex. The only thing that a gyno would be able to notice is if the Hymen is broken. But, just because it is broken does not mean that someone has had sex. This can also happen in everyday activities (mainly when your young such as wreking on a bike, etc.)and your doctor wont be quick to assume that you have had sex. So, dont worry. Plus, always remember that there is patient confidentialty. The doctor will never tell anyone of anything that he/she finds. This includes your parents. No need to worry! Hope this helps!
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i'll be standing at my locker, waiting for my boyfriend, and my best friend comes up. well, i wanted to talk to my boyfriend about stuff, like not with her around. i want to tell her to quit comin cuz she does it everyday, but i dont want to be mean. i'd like to have some alone time with my boyfriend but SHES ALWAYS THERE. she's really getting on my nerves. what should i do?
I would say that all you really can do is talk to your friend. Tell her how you feel and that you want some alone time with your boyfriend every once in a while and that you would like it if she didnt smother you so much. Be gentle. She should understand. If she dont, then she isnt really respecting your privacy and I would she that you may need to just find someone who respect you more. Hope this helps!
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hey my name is Ashley and i'm a feamle(of course) and i'm 14 yrs. old heres my question for anybody with good advice!!!
I like my best friends ex!!! Heres the scoop... they broke up because my best friend was confused and she cheated on him. Well now(two months later) she starts telling me she now knows what she was missing and she really did love him and she wants desperately to go with him again. Now i've been talking to him since they broke up because he needed a friend cuz he really liked her but she cheated on him.(yea i kno guys actually have feelings...well at least the good ones) and i'm starting to like him now i mean he's the perfect boyfriend he's cute, hilarious, loving, i don't know he's just soOoOo great!! the thing is that my best friend who i've been friends with for almost 11 yrs. still "loves" him i really really think she'll be so mad if he askes me out or if i ask him. I dont know what to do cuz i dont want her to be mad at me but i dont get very many guys nowadays and i really like him and he told me i was hot yesterday please help me!!
Luv,
~~~ASHLEY~~~
P.S. i rate high
I think you should tell your friend how you feel about her ex. Just be honest with her. Tell her that your starting to like him a lot and that you hope she understands. Be gentle in telling her this though because I have been there and hearing that your best friend likes your boyfriend is not easy to hear, lol. Hopefully, you friend will undertstand. Ask her how she would feel if you were to date him. At least, then, you would know her position on things and how she feels. You can decide by her reaction if it is ok for you to date him or not. Best of luck!
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are men (guys) supposed to masterbate?
Its normal is all that I can say. There is nothing that says you have to though. lol.
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i think i'm bi because i like girls and guys. i really like one of my friends like that but i have no idea if she is bi too. i think she might be but i really don't know. whats something i could do to let her know i'm a little interested, without freaking her out?
I would say that the best thing to do in this situation is to just find out if she is bi-sexuall before making any moves on her. You might want to have a talk with her and just bring it up casually and ask if she is bi or something to that effect. This probably wont be easy though! good Luck!
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Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 1/2 months now. Anyway, at the beginning ont the relationship we'd be so eager to talk to eachother, and talk on the phone every night, and ditch friends for eachother, etc.
Now, we don't talk on the phone for periods of time. (Right now it's been 11 days since I've talked to him on the phone) And we hang out amazingly less, and I don't feel the urge anymore to check the computer every 5 minutes to see if he's online. When I do get to talk to him, I feel so uninterested. I could honestly go days without talking to him, and it wouldn't bug my anymore. Sometimes I cry because I don't understand what's happening, and it really upsets me. Could it be that I'm just losing interest/we both are in eachother? :(
Tuesday night on AIM I told him that I felt I was losing interest in him, and he repsonded, "Geez, I like you a lot, I can't just stop." Then he put up an away message that said, "I fucking screwed up somehow." And signed off. We eventually resolved the problem, but I feel I lied. I told him I still did like him, and I was stupid to say that. But really, I feel EXACTLY like that. I'm not as interested. What's happening? Do I WANT to get over him or something..?
Thank you.
It does not seem to me that you like this guy anymore. You said it yourself, your not interested. So, I dont think it is fair to him for you to keep leading him on just because you dont want to hurt him. If you want to be with him, good for you, GO FOR IT. But, if like you say, your losing interest, then it will only hurt him more in the long run. Its not fair to him at all. I say that you should either end it or find a way to stay happy with him if thats what you want. Hope it gets better!
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