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Q: can a girl die form having sex?

Not in any normal course of sex...

Q: im a girl whos 13 and i cant stop thinking about having sex with this boy im sooo horny when i see him... what should i do?

Um.... jack off? Don't have sex with him, you are too young.

Q: I don't meant to sound mean, but if a person has flab hanging out, they should not wear tight, revealing clothes that a skinny person would wear. I'm tired of seeing women in particular wearing halter and short tops with their flab hanging out the sides, and their bottoms straining the seams of their tight, low-cut jeans. I'm not a skinny mean girl saying this, I have extra pounds on me and I try to dress in a way that flatters me and hides what I don't want to show off. Do these women think they look good? Are they in denial? What is the deal?

Sometimes, I kinda feel the same way. BUt I have decided something. If we would all pull together and stop looking at the way people dress, we'd all be better off. I say, if they wanna show off their rolls, more power to them!

Q: First off, I'm a 13 year old girl. K, on with my probem......
There is this boy that likes me. He asked me out but I turned him down. Mainly because he and I are nothing alike, I barely know him, and honestly I really don't like him...he's like sort of the biggest dweeb in our grade, not to be mean. But then this other guy asked me out a day later. He is nicer but not really my type either. Well he just was dumped by his g/f so I think maybe he just wants to make her jealous by going out with me but I'm also thinking that's not true since I'm not really that pretty nor popular, so he would ask a popular girl out. Anyways, I don't know what to say to him, yes or no, but I'm leaning towards no. Also, the guy who is kinda nerdy who asked me out first, he is begging me to say no to the second guy that asked me out. Now they are like in this big fight over me (which like never happens) so I don't know what to do. Now the nerdyish dude is doing whatever he can to keep the second guy who asked me out like 100 feet away from me and I hate them doing this. I don't want to hurt anyones feelings, but what should I do? Give them each a chance, neither of them get a chance, or 1 person I say yes to??? What do you think? Please help and answer b4 tomorrow! Thanks! P.S. I have my own advice column...I just needed help with this problem. So if you need advice, look me up (Angie)and don't ask anyone else...ASK ANGIE!!!

I suggest niether. You said you don't like either of them that way. So tell them both that you don't have feelings for them and get on with life.

Q: wut is a CUNT mean????? iv heard it before buti wasnt sure help!!!

A cunt is woman's private parts.

Q: can you choose not to luv sum1 like i fell in luv with a guy n he doesnt luv me can i choose not to luv him anymore

This is the dilemma of everyone, sweetie. I feel for ya. You don't wanna like him, but then he looks at you that way...

Q: Hey Advice columnist i was wondering if you coud help me with a problem I have.

Okay I'm a 14 year old gurl and have had my period sence I was 12, But I have always used pads. What my question is, there really as many risks to using tampons than just pads? my mother keeps saying that they'er awful and that they can get stuck. I have done my home work and know that they'er is very slim chance of getting TSS. But what I want to know is do they really get stuck? I don't believe that they do but I'm asking this for a reason to make sure.
I'm jsut so tired when i have my period that im wet. EWWW!!! and summer will come and I can't go to pool parties with my period unless Im wearing a tampon.

Personally, I adore tampons. They are more comfortable than pads, they are faster and less messy once you get used to them, and you are right TSS is almost nonexistent if you are responsible and don't leave your tampons in too long. I have used a lot of tampons, and one has never gotten stuck. They only get stuck if you try to take them out right after you put them in, when they are dry and stuff.

Q: ok, lots of guys like me and think i'm hot. i think i'm pretty, but not REALLY pretty. but anyways, all the guys at my school grab my butt and all they want to do is have sex. i'm afraid that if i do go out with someone, that all they'll want to do is have sex, and i'm SOOOOOOOOO not ready or even into having sex yet( i'm in 7th grade). What should i do??

Pleaz help asap!!

Be a little pickier. AND DRESS MORE MODESTLY! Then only guys who like you for who you are will talk to ya. Don't just go out with anyone. Demand respect. Listen to Arethra Franklin and P!nk. Good Luck!

Q: I just bought a new bathing suit. It fits me really well and I love it. The problem is that if I am cold or shivery at all, my nipples kinda show up. They show normally when I'm not cold but not as much. What can I do to stop this or make it less obvious?

Put tape or those adhesive bra's on you. Band-aids also work well.

Q: __Takes my breath away__

Sitting next to him,
I like to say,
that he takes my breath away,
To the Lord,
I pray,
because he takes my breath away,
In my mind,
over and over I play,
"He takes my breath away",
his name is no use,
for all I say,
Is that he takes my breath away,
He's taken, I know,
but be it as it may,
he still takes my breath away.

It was alright. A little too repetative. Pretty good, though.

Q: my mother died a couple years ago and i feel like it's my fualt. as a child i didn't get a lot of attention from my friends so i kept wishing that someone in my family would die! and it happened and i regret everything i wished! is it my fualt my mom died?

No, not at all!! I know what you mean. Sometimes, I daydream that something happens to me that would get a lot of attention, but not be very good, like a parent dying or I get cancer or something. Then I feel bad for thinking it, because I think of all the people who really don't have a parent or actually have cancer.

But no, it is definately not your fault that your mom died.

Q: im 13 ok for my period i wear pads iv never tried a tampon and i wanna use a tampon but my mom doesnt wear tampons and i dont think she will let me wear tampons i donno why. nut how can i go to teh store and buy tampons without her knowing?

Just ask her if she'll buy you some. Tampons are wonderful. I hate pads, so I feel for ya. YOu can always ask a friend for some.

Q: hi, i am always lonely,but i have friends.i dont like going to birthday partie's or anything,but i get along with guys but never had a boyfriend,i dunno how to get one,i flirt the max that i can

So... what are you asking me? How to improve your life? How not to be lonely? How to get a boyfriend?

You say that you are friends... that's good.

Q: does it hurt when u have sex?

It can. Especially the first time, when your hymen may break/tear, but it's usually not too bad, and eventually goes away, ans then is enjoyable rather than a little painful.

Q: My friend thinks that she is addicted to smoking, but she has only been smoking for about a week. Could she really be addicted or is she being stupid!!?

She could most definitely be addicted! It only takes 2 cigs.

Q: iv always heard that when someone bites there nails constantly that they are nervous is this true????? i usually bite my nails a lot and it seems that when i do that im nervous ...is this just a saying or is it true???? becuz there is this boy i know and he is always bitig his nails like constantly whne i see him so does this mean he is nervous? HELP!

SINCERLEY.....
WONDERING ONE!

Well.... yeah. I do because I'm bored, but I'm sure a lot of people do out of nervousness. Bu seriously, who cares?

Q: I've been married for almost 7 years and have one child who is almost 5. I'm 35, female, and I hate my body. I had a round belly when I got married, but now, in addition to that, I have this roll around my middle, and no waist. I have a hard time following strict diets that involve a lot of restrictions and strenuous exercise. I also have cellulite on my thighs, but I mostly want to get rid of the excess flab around my waist and tummy. Also, I think I might be pregnant because I've been feeling dizzy and nauseous for weeks. I've taken two tests, but they came back negative because I think I took them too early. I forgot how many weeks it's been since I stopped my birth control. I'm going to take another test in another week. Is there a diet that is safe to do during pregnancy? I know this is a lot of info, but if anybody can help me, I would really appreciate it. If I am pregnant, I'm afraid of gaining even more weight during my pregnancy. Help!

Get a personal trainer. THEN, after you've been working out with him in REGULAR appointments (when someone is waiting for you, it's hard to cancel), then you start cutting out simple things from your diet like sodas and some red meat. Drink a ton of water.

Q: what would u do if your son was at home. Crying all alone on the bedroom floor because he's hungry and the only way to feed is to sleep with a man for a little bit of money.

How old is he? If he's like, an adult, and you dropped in for a visit, give him some food or money for pete's sake!! Then help him find a job, so he can feed himself.
If he's younger/living with you, seek help on what's going on.

.... Whoa. That IS a song. I thought it was, but thenm I was like... "nah... couldn't be" Then I read the answers..

Q: I really like this guy, but he's shy, so I don't know what to do exactly. How do I know if he feels the same way toward me? He never talks (well he does, but he doesn't enjoy it.) and has like no friends. He's not... the hottest guy, but I really like him and his personality. What should I do? I'm a girl and I'm turning 14.

There's only one thing to do... talk to him. Not about anythig really heavy, but like you would to anyone else. Try writing notes. Sometimes shy people like to write notes. Be his friend at least. Then hug him or something, or just tell him you like him.

Q: My friend "Liz" and her boyfriend "Lucas" never talk AT ALL. I hooked them up so this is my problem. He never has anything to say to her, and vise versa. He reallys likes her and i know she likes him. How do I get them talkin?

Signed,
A confused friend

I know EXACTLY what you mean! And then Liz complains to you because thay never talk, right? Maybe not... Anyway, tell Liz (or Lucas) to ask the other about stuff, to get *something* going. If all else fails, just let well enough alone. It may be that the both like who the other person is around other people.

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My name is Deanna: aka manrashi, banana, deanimal

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